Member Since: December 20, 2007
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I'm a little confused so if you all could help me, that would be great! So my problem is I don't know if this girl is a real friend. Here are the good things about her
Good
- she's really nice!
- hilarious
- makes me smile
- makes me happy if i'm in a bad mood
- smart
- have some things in common
- have been friends for about 4 years
Now here's the bad things
Bad
- she always brags... even if its good or bad
- has the need to rub things in peoples faces and make them feel bad
- gets mad easily
- has friends who are doing drugs, or like bad things
- is a perfectionist
- thinks that she is amazing and has no flaws.
I'm wondering if she's a real friend or not... hopefully you can help me?
Here's an example of her-
So lets say we have a test (and she's in my class) and I get nervous... She will be nice and make jokes (nice jokes) and try to encourage me to relax and just try my best. but then after we get our scores (lets say I get an A- and she gets an A, because she is so smart) she will just rub it in my face and be like "oh my god! an A!!!! God, I thought I would do worse than that. And I didn't even study! ha ha ha. what did you get?" and i'll say my score (which i'll actually be proud of) and she will be like "oh, well, thats still ok... I bet that there's extra credit coming up soon."
I'm so confused! HELP!! (link)
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It sounds to me like she's out for herself. But, a lot of times people can get that way because they don't realize that their selfishness bothers you. In other words, it's really easy to take friends for granted and be that insensitive when you've been friends long enough to be comfortable with one another. My advice--tell her how you feel, whether you sit her down and talk to her about it or write her a letter containing your observations and thoughts. Either way, effective communication is the key to any successful relationship.
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Ok so im 14, 5'3" and i weigh about 115.
i am not fat just slightly overweight. I am hoping to workout all christmas break and when i come back to school i am skinnier to the point where people notice. i am aiming at about 110 to 105.
Does anyone know any workouts or diets that will make me lose weight within the christmas break period which is 2 weeks.
also.. this is off topic but i also have a SLIGHT acne problem.. what is acne solutions that work really well? or a really good cover up. i have already tried proactiv, it does not work on me.
PLEASE HELP ME=) (link)
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In most drugstores now, they've got this stuff called AcneFree for about $20. It's the same kind of system as proactive--in fact, it seems like a complete takeoff--but there are different ingredients. I had really bad acne for YEARS and it worked for me--good luck!
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I really am convinced that my parents hate me.
My dad has said he'd rather pay for boarding school than have to see me everyday, and tonight he said that he doesn't have time for me anymore.
My mother doesn't listen to a word that comes out of my mouth. I've noticed that I talk louder around her than I do around anyone else.
I am such a good kid. I get good grades, my room is close to clean, the whole shebang.
Why don't my parents love me? (link)
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Alright, first of all, I want you to know that the way they're treating you is NOT ok and no one deserves to be treated like that--especially not someone like you, who seems to be trying their hardest. You should not have to take that kind of abuse.
I have two ideas. The first deals with rectifying the situation and the other deals with moving past it. In my experience, if you actually confront someone directly with how you feel (In other words, tell them exactly what you've told us in your post)that's your best shot at getting them to understand. Writing them a letter is often the most effective way to do so. (In a letter, you can think about your words carefully before they read them. In real life, you can't take back something you've said and would like to revise.) Receiving a letter is also somehow more personal and heartfelt.
My other idea is to find an adult or two that you can be close to/trust, and they can serve as a far more effective guardian figure. There is no reason for you to to be dealing with this alone.
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20/f. I'm open to advice from anyone at this point, I'm kinda stuck.
A little background on me: I've always used writing as an outlet, whether it's to dream up my future husband, or play out a scene before it happens to see how it'll turn out (my writing's also had a habit of predicting events, if I use people I know as characters.) My other two major creative outlets are singing and drawing, all of which I'm equally good at...but all of which I'm equally stumped on.
I was reading some of my old writing, and I found it to be...overwhelming. One of my stories was written entirely out of my control (my characters took over), and it's just SO good. I can't figure out how to just let go like I did to write that story. Where my prose used to flow smoothly, it's now choppy and flat, and I can't stand it. I hate my own writing, and that bothers me to no end.
I intended to use this break from classes to get back in touch with my ability and remind myself why I love it so much, and I feel like I don't even know where to start.
Can anyone relate?
Does anyone have any useful advice?
Thanks...
-Siren =( (link)
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I can definitely relate, and hopefully my Writing is my outlet, as well, and recently I too found myself struck with writers block. The way I happened to quell it was purely accidental.
I was going through some stuff that tested my strength and toyed with my emotional and mental health, so of course I resorted to writing. I found that writing about something I felt really strongly about and just letting it flow ended up undoing the writers block. I guess what I'm saying is that perhaps if you can write about something you feel really strongly about it--WHEN you're feeling strongly about, that's the key--perhaps it will help? Anyways, good luck. Either way, these things happen to all good writers from time to time and I'm confident that it will blow over one way or another.
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