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ok so i used to like this guy ALOT all last year and then we stopped talking. so obviously i stopped liking him...
but just recently he started calling me everyday and leaving me sweet voice mails so i KNOW he likes me.
and i am starting to like him again but we never see each other anymore...
if he asks...should i date him?
by the way..we live in different cities...and his parents never let him go anywhere... (link)
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no no no, this is a disaster waiting to happen! what's so good about a relationship if u never see eachother, honestly! this would be a good idea, but if his parents never let him go anywhere, then you'll never see him.
soooooooo
i would move on
-mary
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Dear Mary,
so i dated this guy for a really long time. we broke up, spent some time apart, then got back together. well over the summer we broke up again and i guess i took it really well considering i didnt the first time. and i thought i was really over him. so the rest of my summer goes great, but when school starts up again, i take one look at him and start missing him again.i played it off as if simply "not being able to forget ur first love" and thought that i would get over him shortly. but, i still cant get him out of my head!! it frustrating because wut we had before felt sooo real and amazing! no i feel like he wont even give me the time of day. and that just makes my self-esteem go down even lower! we used to talk about everything, even when we were broken up. now, we dont even say "hi" in the hallway. its not helping me seeing him everyday in school. it makes my heart hurt 20 times worse than it already is. i dont think i can take this anymore!!!!! i cry alot! all my friends tell me he's not worth it...but wut if he is?!?
^^Tired of being heartbroken^^ (link)
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you just need to act like you're over him. even if you arent. tell people you are, be independent for a while and act like you dont need him. the last thing you want to do is be at his feet. take control of the situation, instead of you being there when he needs you, he needs to be waiting there when u need him. get what im saying? it truley sickens me when girls think they need guys to make them happy because its totally untrue! dont cry over this guy, JUST DONT! you have GOT TO stand on your own two feet and do not, i repeat, do not let this guy mess with you anymore!! im not saying you shouldnt like him, but find one person to confide in and tell everyone else you're over him. Even if he IS worth it, let HIM come to YOU
hopefully that helps
-mary
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OKay, so here's the deal. I've been dating this guy from a different school than me. And we REALLY ilked each other but then we started to have problems but i was thinking that we could work through them but then about a week or a couple days later he broke up with me beacuse we didn't see eachother enough. and i don't get it.. like he still likes me and i still like him alot and i just don't know what to do. like 3 days after the break up i called him and told him that i missed him alot and he said that he missed me alot too. and i just don't know what to do. i want to get back together with him. but i'm not sure if he wants to. like i really really really hope he does. What should i do?
Please help.
--Dazed and Confused. (link)
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well, you know how guys are...if they break up they just want it to be over, maybe its not so much about you, but other things. it depends on the guy, but if he wanted it to work he probably would have found a way. my advice is to move on and dont wait around for him. because my friend, thats just a waste of time.
love mary
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ok. i've talked to u before.. im the one depressed and all about a guy with his gf, smokey? thanks for the help. i've been trying to be confindent in myself lately, and im living up to it. but things arent't working out still. i always talk to him and we have long conversations like on aim. one time, we talked till like 2 am (link)
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he probably did like u at one time which means theres obviously still something there. we all know how THAT is, but just hang in there. i have a feeling he'll come around. i know TONS of people who all of a sudden realized they liked that certain someone that had been right under their nose the entire time. get what im saying? in the mean time Dont stop talking to him because then all hope will be lost and that just cant happen!! it will work out, and tell tar lungs to get the hell out of your way! :) cause a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do
- mary
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me and my boyfriend have a great relationship and i think im really in love with him, but i know he is more experienced than me and this is a problem. i dont feel pressured by HIM in any way but i feel pressured by ME. i feel like i have to do things with him so i wont lose him, even though im not completely sure im ready to do these things. get it? and i know your gonna be like "well if he doesnt understand you dont want to do these things than he isnt right for you" but i really dont lose him. he means so much to me, but i dont know if i can be with him b/c of this. i just really dont want to lose him. please help me!
signed,
crazy in love
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if hes not even the one pressuring you then WHAT IS THE PROBLEM? this is a battle with yourself. dont let your boyfriend pressure you into being a little sluty mcslut. seriously, i know who sent this and i know who the guy is and i know he ISNT going to break up w/ you. dont even worry about it
love,
mar
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hey mary, this is kinda long so bear with me:
i have this huge huGe problem. i love this guy. but he has this girlfriend. and she's a bitch!! she smokes her lungs out! i see him all the time and he is soo nice to me. we are really good friends. the thing is, he doesnt know i like him. no one does. i cant even tell my bff about this. also, he's kinda older than me by two years. you dont have to worry, im 15. im worried that if i tell him he'll reject me and then i will feel so stupid. obviously he'll reject me because he has a gf but what i mean is like just reject me the whole way. as in he wont talk to me as a friend or do anything about it. i have liked this guy for three years! i dont know what to do!!!! and to tell you the truth, im really shy. so anyhow, im not going to have the nerves to even tell him i like him. everyday im depressed(not the kind that you try to kill yourself, just feeling down) because i know the only love i have is impossible. and dont say for me to get another guy. this is serious. he's the only guy. i think about him everyday. help me, mary. you're my last hope.
miserably yours,
an old friend (link)
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dear my old friend.
im sorry to say, but your JUST gonna have to make this guy fall in love with you! head over heels baby. easier said then done, i know! but Charm him, do something, because theres nothing worse then being depressed everyday. dont admit you like him or anything but just be very VA VA VOOM! if you get what im saying
you cant be shy, NOT at a time like this!
in the mean time listen to the song "dont bother" by shakira, its about a guy leaving poor old shakira for some whore! similar to your problem
well feel better, and u know were to ask me q's!
-mary
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hey mare,
this is gunna be a long one, ok well i have this friend and shes always putting me down. all of my ideas are "stupid" to her and shes really really rude about it. she cares ALOT about what other people think of her so she never has any fun when shes in public. and when im at school acting crazy with my other friends, she tells us we look "retarded" or something mean like that. she puts a damper on everything and makes me and my friends feel bad about ourselves. like seriously, im about ready to shooot this bitch. she even called one of my bff fat! i wanted to crucify her right then and there. she doesnt even know this girl and yet shes making fun of her like she shoot her mom or something. what should i do? should i confront her, again, for being such and selfish, rude bee to the otch? or should i just let it slide by? i pretty much know youre answer to this response since i know your responses to everything. but i just want to reassure myself of what i should do. thanks mare, i love you with all of my heart and im so glad you're not like this girl.
eternally youres (oo la la)
-damsel in distress
p.s. she always tell me im stupid and told me that my dreams of becoming of a doctor would never come true because no one would ever trust me with their kid. what the hell? god just straighten your hair bitch.
lata homie
oh wait
p.s.s. my other good friend feels the same way and she does the same thing to her. should we both confront her together or what? i just dont know!
love you boo and make ur reply long
im out
love, youre guardian angel
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SOMEONE needs to straighten this bitch out. She could probably use a reality check! WHO THE HELL WOULD HAVE THE NERVE TO CALL YOUR FRIEND FAT?!!?? i want to punch her already!!!! hopefully you contained your anger because i know that bitch would have gone down had i been there. you and your friend should definatley do this togther, two is better then one and shes less likley to get mad at you if your friend are there. Tell her to LOOSEN UP, and to stop caring what people think. i would just tell it like it is because she might not get the idea if u sugar coat it. and if she doesnt get the idea, just FORGET HER, seriously, lifes to short to be brought down by people who have the nerve to call one of your best friends fat! be brave!
p.s. i would totally trust you with my kids! they would be healthy like its goin out of style!
LOVE,
mary
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hey there miss mare! you know who this is b/c im constantly asking you this question but i really need to know what to get my boyfriend for christmas! im stumped and i need ur help!
love you mare! (link)
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sexy pajama bottoms! mmmm mmmm good!
-mary
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Mary your advice column is so boring and full of perverted questions. I hate you I am going to come to your house and shave your head or something else that is highly embarassing.SO okay heres my question. Should i just shave your head off or should i sell you into slavery? Both of these sound like very good punishment for having the worst advice column in the history of advice columns! I know where you live so be ready. Ok, OK OK? Oh yeah this will be good. I cant wait until I shave that disgusting hair off your annoying little head.yes... (link)
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full of perverted questions?... yes. boring?...haha i disagree. if you are gonna do anything, defintley shave my head. i alway thought it would be liberating!!
love love love,
mary
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Dear MAry,
This question is like other every freakin question on ur column but ill ask. There is this guy i like, should i tell him that i like him or should i keep my crush inside me?
P.S. I think Im gay/homosexual/lesbian
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your a lesbian but u like guys?
huh think about that question because it doesnt makes sense
-mary
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my boyfriend never calls me which is making me think he doesnt really love me, but when we do talk his charm wins me over once again! why doesnt he ever call me??? i want to tell him to call me but i think that would seem a bit stalkerish of me. its not that i need to talk to him every second of the day but it would be nice to know hes alive! what to do?!? what to do?!? (link)
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You should tell him to call you if it really bothers you, but if its something u can get over then just get over it, because guys are complicatedl like that.
MWAH
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Forgive&forget…forgive&forget…forgive&forget…whattodo, whattodo, whattodo? (link)
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i dont really understand your question
but i guess u should just
Forgive and Forget
-Mary
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Dear Mary,
I'm really upset because I have a big problem. I have this friend, well former friend, who always copies me and it gets on my nerves so much! I really don't like this girl but I don't know how to tell her because she is bipolar. I don't like her when she thinks I do. How do I get her to just STOP?!
singed,
confused and frustrated (link)
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well dont do/say anything remotley funny around her so she cant copy you. Also people arent stupid and they know shes copying you so dont even give that a second thought. But why are u acting like her friend if u dont even like her?! thats a little bipolar-ish if you ask me!
-mary
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hey mary, i like this girl.. but i dont know if she likes me.... i think she is really cool. she is funny, pretty, fun to hang around with, and more. but the problem is... i dont want to waste a perfectly good friendship by liking her... cause she might not like me back so... i dont want her to get mad at me. But i like her a lot... and i want her to know............................what should i do?
~alex p (link)
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OK heres what you do, get your friends to ask her friends if she likes you, that way you get the straight truth and its not akward between you guys. If she likes you then go for it, and if she doesnt remain friends
hope it helps,
MARY
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i am completely and utterly in love with the greatest guy on earth! we are so perfect for each other...i cant even believe how lucky i am to be with him...but thats the only problem...im not WITH him...we flirt constantly and we act like we are together but we arent. he has said that he likes me and i want to tell him i feel the same way but the timing just never seems quite right. he doesnt live near me and i dont know if i can completely trust him when hes away from me...should i give up and get over this hunk or march on to tell him my feelings? (link)
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Well if he's the greatest guy on earth, and he likes you, i dont really see the problem, PLEASE for the love of GOD tell him u like him instead of dancing around him and waiting for the right time, the tunes getting old, soooooo the fact that he doesnt live near you can be romantic, if you dont see each other very often, when you do see him it will be absoultley RAVISHING,like the old timey movies. haha
best of luck,
mary
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dear mary,
i make my sisters and my lunch everyday for school. When i make her sandwhich she says she wants bastrami and turkey,but i want turkey. Theres not enough turkey for the both of us. Should i take the turkey or give it to my sister and eat the nasty bastrami? Oh yeah do u recommend parsly with a nutmeg seasoning on beef or a bayleaf with vanilla with lemon on beef? (link)
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take the turkey. give her the "bastram" (are u sure you dont me PASTRAMI?) i dont reccoment parsley because it is the most attrocious thing i think i have ever tasted. but i say go for the rest of the experiements
-mary
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mary,
im in love with this guy and i think he likes me back.but he has a girlfriend and we're friends.
im ALWAYS thinking about him.
help? (link)
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juicy!
well you cant ask this guy to leave his girlfriend, one, that would be hideously akward and two, you cant do that because its the unwritten rule between girls. so wait for him and his girlfriend to break up, then go in for the kill!
anything is possible,
mary
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I am infatuated with sexy old men. Forty and up, or you might as well not waste your breath. Yes, I fantasize about the likes of Rex Van de Camp and Paul Young...ya, BABY!
Is there something wrong with me?!
Love,
*I Adore Old Men and Just Sex in General.* (link)
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well i can understand having an infatuation with rex van da camp from desperate housewives. but as far as that forty year old fat guy that works at the 7-ll, well thats one facination i cant be apart of.
depends on the man...
sincerally,
mary
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Whenever I start to really like a guy, I find that I distant myself from him. I will talk to him occasionally, but I often times ignore messages he will send me, and even go invisible online if he gets on. I get nervous; I'm afraid that I'll mess-up. I suppose I'm afraid that he'll get to know me and be completely turned-off. I'm afraid of opening up, because I am afraid of rejection. Not to mention, I have serious problems even talking to a guy I find attractive in the first place. I really can't do it. I flirt with my guy friends, but when it comes to someone hott, I completely shy away. It's very depressing, and I have no earthly idea what to do. Thanks! (link)
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woot woot! the hot ones are the worst, i understand, but you are never going to have anything to do with the hot ones if you dont pull yourself together and just talk to him!! guys are people too and if hes talking to you on IM, in the halls whereever, he might be some what intrested. Your going to come off as being rude if you ignore him, its only making your situation worse. so the best way to get his attention is just be charming and sweet, dont show the fact that your nervous about talking to him because its all about confidence!
if you do mess up when your talking to him, laugh it off
mary
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hi mary. im 16 and i have an awesome boyfriend. but whenever we have sex, he always wants to be on top. is that weird?
-jessie (link)
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i honestly wouldnt know.
-mary
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