Gender: Female
Location: connecticut
Age: 17
Member Since: February 26, 2007
Answers: 6
Last Update: April 26, 2007
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turned 13 recently. my mom and i do not get along at all anymore. she hates my friends music clothes me and just how i act. my friends are all i love not my family not my mom not my cousins nothing and nobody else. so my mom makes fun of my friends and says everything she thinks is wrong with them and how they dress and all about them. then i try to get her to stop she talks over me so i cant say anything then i yell then she yells then im grounded. then she says 'o i dont care what you do do whatever you want' then i do then a little while later she get even madder about it. everything i wear that is red purple black brown she gets mad and yells till i change. my jewelry she tells me to take it off then the next day after school its gone she takes my stuff. she tells me to burn things that I like and I wear. im screaming and crying more than ever. but when im around my friends im fine. their gothic their parents let them wear what they want. i cant even get the side bangs. my friend had them and died her hair redish brown it even mainly looks brown its not bad at all. her parents let her. shes having confirmation soon even. i told my mom then she starts saying thats stupid her parents are wrong for letting her do that thats just sick. WTF! why does it matter! now its to the point i have to hide my music i add songs i hate in a folder like glamorous and stuff like that then a folder for the music i like like evanescence and the used and stuff like that and i erased the names on all of them their just numbered. last time she heard it she freaked out yelling at me. then i hide my jewelry in a locked box saying pictures and when id go somewhere i would put some in my purse then wear it on later. my friends say me cry for the first time yesterday. they know about my mom so they came over wearing preppy junk and tried acting different for me so my mom would leave me and them alone. my mom said clothes doesnt make a person. so they said ya so why does it matter its just clothes. my mom said but MY clothes do matter. so all the yelling in my life is for nothing because clothes dont matter. but its who i am its what i like its my body not hers. gothic is another stereotype just like preppy is. my brother is preppy so he gets all he wants. my mom is trying to change me she wants me to dress like a slut all the clothes she gets for me. my Best friend is a guy which can never ever comeover hes even a prep. everyone makes fun of me family cousins strangers and people at school. i can cut my hair it wouldnt help i could cut my wrists just might again deep id be quicker. but im guessing my moms rule is NO friends fun or freedom. ive been going trough this for about 2 years she will not budge i will not either. i will never give up. i tell her all this like one thing everyday till im sent to my room then refuse then get grounded. if she yells ill yell i even told her that. i act calm she yells then i do. i say how prep and goth are both just stereotypes how their just names and how she gives him everything because its a different name. i go through too much for anyone to go through. i only act tough because id be dead 2 years ago if i didnt. i cant get a therepist or even talk to my mom or write what else is there to do before i die and shell never even care. there is no way of ''kindly'' doing anything to her she just wont let me. (link)
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your'e right when ppl dress gothic others sterotype them as being angry and taking drugs(or what ever they might think) but you have to show her that being gothic doesn't mean you're a bad person and that you can still get good grades in school and be a descent human being. but if you do kill yourself then yuo will be proving her right that a gothic lifestyle isn't a good one. your'e still young and have a lot of things to experience in life that you shouldn't give up because youre mom doesnt like your clothes. you have to prove her wrong, show her that you are a good daughter, student, and just overall person. it shuldnt matter if you wear all black and listen to emo or dress like a cowboy and listen to country ;) the only thing that does matter is if you do what is right. tell her calmly and sincerly that you are not defined by clothes jewlery, and preferance of music..but how u r as a person
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This is going to sound completely rediculous but I honestly am starting to fear that I am incapable of having any sort of relationship. I am 19 and as of yet have no managed to survive more than 3 weeks with the same guy as the second anything starts to get serious I completely panic. What is wrong with me?
I don't blame any of these guys as they have all treated me very well, I wish I could have said the same. I have never cheated and never would but basically I feel like I lead them on and then just break it off, and as harsh as that sounds thats what I do without meaning to as I genuinely believe I really like them but then for some reason just completely switch off.
Recently another guy has come on the scene who I have liked for a while and I am really worried I am going to mess it up or stop liking him the second things start happening. I really would like to know if this is a normal thing or if I am completely derranged as this cycle has to stop as I am being totally unfair on these guys who don't deserve it.
My father also died when I was younger - do you think this has anything to do with it?
Any analysis would be great - am I a commitment phobic? (link)
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as wierd as it may sound, your father dying actually may have something to do with you not being able to have a good relationship with a guy. i'm sure its not something you can realize your'e doing, its psychological and your mind is telling you to steer clear of a relationship. i dont know you but i bet you have a lot of friends, especiallly girls and have no problem with them. but when your'e with guys you might act a different way because subconciously your'e afraid to get too attached adn then have him dump you. but you have to get over youre fear of being dumped and accept that it happens. not every relationship works out...thats why we date more thatn one guy! but you have to remember too, that if yoiu do find a guy that you like,(mabye the one youre intersested in now) you should stay with him unless you have a really good reason too leave. dont be afraid of a little rejection, it happens to the best of us!
good luck*
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Everytime after I eat, I feel like throwing up. Not because I want to purge to lose weight or anything. I just am uncomfotable with having food in my stomach. It grosses me out. I want to enjoy food, like most people, but I can't get over myself. Help?? (link)
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try eating a little bit at a time and make it healthy so you know that it will help you. then mabye drink some water, water is clean and definatley good for you. but make sure you eat somethin hun!
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I'm a teenager who is single and completely miserable and hating it. I can't get a boyfriend because i'm so overweight. Everyone is automatically unattracted to me because I'm so fat. No one wants to date a fatass like me.
I want to commit sucide, but I don't want to have the pain. And I'd be afraid to anyway. So what should I do?
I've seen several therapists and counselors about my depression but they don't help. (link)
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this is completely normal and though it may not seem like it LOTS and LOTS of girls feel the way you do. but when it comes down to it its really not about looks. believe it or not guys really do want a girl with personality and it seems like you have a really genuine one. waht you need to do is involve yourself in groups and activities where there are lots of peple to mingle with. BUT the important thing is to pick groups taht actually interest YOU so then you have something in common wiht a boy you may come to like there. and remember physical appearance isn't hard to change with a healthy diet and a little excersize here and there.
ps* excersize gives you endorphins--endorphins make you happy so that could help you too
Hold On There Is A LOt To Live For Believe ME!
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I need a few more roller disco soundtracks, preferable well - known songs
ive got *beegees staying alive* & *ymca*
thats it, and i need about 3 more songs!! (link)
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um ... wut about the 'the hustle' 'superfreak' and 'electric slide'?
*hope i helped!*
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I'm considering teaching english to foreign students, at least for a short time. I don't know yet whether I want to stay in the US or teach abroad. But if you have any information on any the following, please let me know:
- info. on getting certification to be an english teacher in US.
- or any information on programs to teach englsih abroad. (link)
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well what you should be looking for are ESL programs (English as a Second Language) and to be any kind of teacher you atleast need a bachelor's degree. but i'm sure depending on how old u are and how much education you've already completed there are probably courses you could take that would be faster.
Teaching english is in high demand in the us and other countries so if you just look for programs associated with ESL you should find something.
Good Luck with ur search!
ps i want to do the same thing ;)
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