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E-mail: olivia09@sanfranmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: austin
Occupation: school
Age: 16
Member Since: November 30, 2006
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Last Update: July 25, 2007
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im friends with two girls who are best friends, stacey and olivia. i met olivia through stacey, and lately i have been hanging out with olivia pretty often. the two are still best friends, though. i don't have a problem with it. stacey called me and wanted to go to a movie, but i said i couldn't because i already made plans with olivia, which i did. she got annoyed. does she have a right to be upset with me because i made plans with her best friend? i invited her, too, but she was mad that i didn't want to do what she was doing.

If she's actually mad at you then that's a little immature. she's probably just a little jealous and upset because y'all made plans in the first place without her, and that's completely understandable. but you said that she was mad that you didnt want to do what SHE wanted to do, and that's stupid on her part. hope i helped

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Hey people, I'm buying my first car really soon. I actually found one in town being sold by the owner. I plan on calling and asking him about the car, cause I don't know how much it costs, but I'm not sure what else I will need to know. What other questions should I ask to make sure this is a good car? I don't even know what kind of car it is!! I just know that it only looked like it was in good condition. If I go check it out I'll bring ym dad with me to help me decide, but when I call the owner, what questions do I need to ask? Any help will be appreciated.
Please and Thank you!!

ask what year it is, how many miles, how much, etc. just a few quick questions and then when you actually meet up to look at the car you should ask him deep questions

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hey. well, i'm looking for a dress for my friends party. i really want a dress with lace. sorta like this:
http://www.dresses.com/order/1138.html

only not as poofy and any color works really. i just want a dress with some lace. i wear a size Large, but i don't know what number size that is. i want straps if possible. i don't want any thing slutty or anything, somthing pretty, and kinda classic or something. not to short eaither. thanks so much!!!

http://www.anthropologie.com/anthro/catalog/productdetail.jsp?_dyncharset=ISO-8859-1&id=73409&parentid=APP_DRESSES&pushId=APP_DRESSES&popId=APPAREL&sortProperties=%2BmarketingPriority%2C-startDate&navCount=1&navAction=jump&color=alm

http://www.anthropologie.com/anthro/catalog/productdetail.jsp?_dyncharset=ISO-8859-1&id=73417&parentid=APP_DRESS_KNIT&pushId=APP_DRESS_KNIT&popId=APP_DRESSES&sortProperties=&navCount=6&navAction=poppushpush&color=cha

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2945340?Category=&Search=True&SearchType=guidednav&keyword=lace+in+All+Categories+%3e+Women%27s+Apparel+%3e+Dress+Shop&origin=searchresults

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2929602?refsid=184141_1&refcat=0%7e2376776%7e2378685%7e2378692%7e2378731&SourceID=1&SlotID=2&origin=related

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2930552?Category=&Search=True&SearchType=guidednav&keyword=lace+in+All+Categories+%3e+Women%27s+Apparel+%3e+Dress+Shop&origin=searchresults

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2904622?Category=&Search=True&SearchType=guidednav&keyword=lace+in+All+Categories+%3e+Women%27s+Apparel+%3e+Dress+Shop&origin=searchresults

those are some really cute dresses with lace! i tried to find dresses that were in different styles too so you could have a variety! and about figuring out your size, theres always a size chart you can click on each link because different designers have different sizes so just look at that and it will tell you! hope i helped!!

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I like quotes and sayings and stuff a LOT...but i can't find any sites for them. ones like, "Hold me like I mean something, Kiss me like I don't." (i made that up!!) and emo ones, and love ones, and stuff like that. can you help?

www.livejournal.com/community/__quotexwhore

^my life.

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15/f
I have this really strange pain in my lower left abdomen. It feels almost like my bladder is full, but it's not. Sometimes i get a feeling sort of like this during my period but i don't have it and won't for a while. Sometimes when i walk its a sharp pain and i have to stop for a minute or so and then it goes away somewhat. I've had this feeling for about 2 or 3 days now and im a little worried...does anyone know what could be the matter? thanks in advance!

a about two weeks ago i had cramp feelings when i wasn't on my period and felt like i had to pee when i didnt really so i went to the doctor and turns out i had a simple bladder infection and all i had to do was pee in a cup, they didnt take blood or anything. so maybe you should go to the doctor and tell them your symptoms, it could be a type of bladder infection. anyways, good luck and go asap because it will only get worse if it is an infection!

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so on facebook does it show how many friends you have?

thanks!!!! %%

it does, but since it is divided by schools you have to go to where to shows all the networks your friends belong to and at the bottom of that square it will say "view all friends" and you click that and it shows you all of them and the amount

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I "volunteered" to take an accelerated course over the summer at my high school. I'm in the 9th grade (going to 10th this year) and the course I decided to take is Algebra 2. But now, I find that it is way too fast and hard for me. And we have to learn it in a period of 20 days. The WHOLE textbook. I'm basically failing every quiz and test that we get, with an exception to homework, which I get good grades on, since we have TIME to do it at home. Although it is an optional course, after a certain amount of time, they actually keep your GPA the way it is and give you credit even if you don't want it. So now I'm stuck. The tests and quizes are bringing me down. And what we JUST started studying; I do not get at ALL. Should I drop out as soon as possible and just take it with the rest of my peers next year? But...the problem is that I wouldn't know whether I would do better like in a week...=/ My dad is also putting way too much pressure on me about this, not realizing that I'm doing as much as I can, and that much isn't enough.

Also...we get way too much homework. If after a certain number of hours, I can't do anymore, should I force myself to do it? Is it recommended? Thanks. :)

Also, I should add that the time for the GPA to count hasn't come yet.

Ok that sounds ridiculous. I'm in summer school right now taking algebra 2 because i failed it by like 2 points this past year and it goes fast because you cover like a weeks worth of work in only one day. but if it's that hard that you can't keep up then i do think that you should drop out and enjoy your summer and take it during the school year. summer school is supposed take the time to get you to understand so if you're not and your teacher isn't teaching it good enough then you're wasting your time. i suggest getting out asap so that it doesn't hurt your GPA and take it during the year! good luck!

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theres a guy i like in my church group and we have church sleep overs (for our youth group only) and the leaders always fall asleep really fast and we go into the sanctuary and make out (and the other people in the group just stay downstairs cus they're watchi ng a movie) and i absolutely love him he's the perfect guy with like glasses and not popular but when you take them off u see a really handsome face with gorgeous eyes and i'm not a popular girl so this is absolutely awesome for me. after like 15-20 mins we go downstairs and we get in our own sleeping bags but i woke up one morning and we were still in our sleeping bags but like right up against eachother like literally i woke up against his cheast and i would really really really like to know if it would be a bad idea to do any romantic things with my guy because we're in church but isnt it like the perfect place? lol. No but he's sooo awesome and sweet and i just dont want to wake up like naked and be embarrased. he respects me so its not like he'd rape me or take advatage of me. i just want to know whether you guys think it's bad to express my love for him in a church because you never know...ahg i don't know please any advice to help clear my mind would be greatly appreciate. Thanks. o by the way, im 14/f.

well first of all....could you hang out with him outside of church? that would be better and more romantic. but if not then sure! when yall are in that room though by yourselves...because i promise you nobody wants to be in the same room as people hooking up...so good luck!

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oka here is the deal there this guy that i knda like and well the guy that i like is my best friend bother and she had ask me if i like him and i said no not that much which is a lie.Anywayz so i spent a night at her house a few times and when i do her brother will always come in there and be messing around and messing with me alot of times but he do that with everyone so yea. But i want to know how can you tell if a guy likes you and should i tell him i like him or what.

Well to tell if he likes you since he acts that way around everyone...when you and your friends are over there see if he acts that way like more to you than anyone else or like in different ways. really pay attention to it so you can tell...also does he think you like him? because if he doesn't think that then he purposely might not be more straight forward with you because he doesnt know. so IF it's ok with your friend (which you need to find out right away...because i have a brother and one of my friends used to like him and it was SO weird but that didnt go anywhere but it still made me sooo mad and uncomfortable so seriously make sure its 100% ok with her and not just if she says it is...get someone else to like casually ask her when youre not around and see if theres something shes not telling you) and then if its ok with her then you should hint that you kind of like him and then see what happens! good luck!

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hey. well, i'm 14/f. and this year i'm going to be going into high school. and i'm really scared about being around all of the older kids and stuff, but thats not what i'm most scared about. i'm scared about sex. this probably sounds really stupid to some ppl, but i don't care. i really want to wait until marraige, but there is so much pressure in high school, i don't want to do something i know i don't want to do. i mean, i don't even know if i'll have a boyfriend or anything, but if i do, i want him to be someone who won't pressure me. how can i have good judgement. please help. and any other good advice about high school will be much appreactiated. thanks a bunch!!!!

Ah i remember when i was just going into highschool! i dont technically know what it feels like to be really scared about all that because i had an older brother and i knew i would be fine but regardless of that highschool was barely anything i thought it was going to be. first of all, atleast at my highschool the only time you're pressured to have sex is like at parties with those stupid drunk guys but its NOT hard at all to say 'umm no'...or just ask if they have a condom (usually they dont...then just say oops sorry i only do it with a condom) whenever i reject someone for sex it actually makes me feel good about myself..so honestly the pressure to have sex is not a problem in highschool. its simply: if you want to have it...have it. if not...don't have it.
Other advice about highschool is to be polite and try to get to know the upperclassmen because you DONT want any of them to dislike you. and im mainly talking about the girls, try to be friends with the upper girls not just the guys. because when they find out you're hanging out with their guys then they're a little pissed but if you hang out with them everything's perfect, and you'll get invited to more parties. pretty much highschool isn't scary and its just really fun! Good luck and get excited!!

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I want to have a lot of friends. I have virtually none now. The only reason is because when i started dating my boyfriend i kind of stopped hanging out with friends. With the new school year approaching in August i want to become popular friends with all. Any tips or any usefull pointers??

what do u look for in a friend

Well i suggest that when school starts you get to know the people in your classes so that you can become friends with them!
What i look for in a friend is someone i can laugh with and be myself with/say anything around/tell anything, someone who is loyal and nice and real. Good luck!! Just be open, it's really easy to make friends, and almost everybody is open to having another one because you can never have too many friends!

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Me and my friend need matching bikinis that at least have a LITTLE bit of pink in them. We walked all over the mall and couldnt find any and i've also looked online. They need to be less than 40 dollars. Does anyone have any good sites we could order them off of?

http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=ZU-210030&page=1&cgname=OSSWMBIKZZZ&rfnbr=1232

that one comes in pink and is only 19 dollars!

Look around that site and also when you see one you like...even if its not pink, click it because it might come in other colors including pink! Good luck!

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okay.. soo.. im 16, my birthday was june 6.. im having a party this weekend. we waited so long bc i had basketball camp. okay.. so im a cheerleader and a basketball player. for my party im inviting the cheerleaders and basketball players. im not friends with to many guys, bc i have a boyfriend and like all the guys are scared of him bc hes a football player and hes strong looking and all. but im not sure if the cheerleaders are friends with the basketball players. im closer with the basketball team, but i dont want the cheerleaders feeling left out. so do you think its a good idea to have both come?..
and its a swimming party, what are some things to do? i have a HUGE yard, ideas?(( and im inviting some guys, but not a lot. only ones im friends with.))

Yes i think it is a good idea to invite both your basketball friends and your cheerleading friends! They can get to know eachother it will be fine! I know that when my friends bring new friends to hang out with our group i'm always happy to meet them and it wont be awkward because they are BOTH friends with YOU which is who they are at the party for.

I think some things to do are have like a theme or something! My friend had a pool party for her sixtenth birthday a while ago and she had like a mexican theme...we all wore those mexican dresses like:
http://www.elinterior.com/gallery.html
(scroll down a little...like the purple dress if you know what i'm talking about)
And she had like mexican food served like queso for apetizer and quacamole. then like fajitas for the meal. and she had those drinks like http://images.google.com/images?um=1&tab=wi&hl=en&q=jarritos which you can buy at the grocery store!
And then she already had like floats in the pool and stuff so we swam while the food was getting ready then ate then opened presents, had cake, hung out a bit longer, and then left! Good luck!!

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for a year now.. i have felt nothing but hurt and sadness.. i have physically hurt myself and i have had many paniac attacks. nothing is helping. i need help i know but my mother says there is nothing wrong. i feel though that there is something wrong.. i think of death a lot and i think of hurting myself a lot, my friends always pick me up and tell me to stop being depressed but whenever we go out lately i've been in a bad mood. i don't know what to do. i'm scared one day i'm going to be so mad and depressed that i'm going to take my life away. HELP ME!

well if you're really having thoughts like that then you should talk to your mom and tell her you want to go see a conselor since you think there's something wrong with you and youre mom wont listen. she probably doesnt understand, so definitely if you think that way and think theres something wrong then get help asap.

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I am 15, turning 16 in about a month. Everywhere I go, people think I am SO much younger than I am! For example, I was getting my hair cut, and my hair cutter asked me how old I was, I told her, and then she said, "Oh really? I would have guessed like 13!"

It really bothers me...

Are there any tips that can make me look older?

do you wear make up? that makes people look older, and i would have to see a picture of you to be able to give you more tips but try make up...but not a lot just like a little and you look older than when you put on more!

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My friend cut her hair too short, and she bought this product called Dr. Miracle's Temple and Nape Gro Balm, She is white.
I was wondering if this product was made just for african americans?
Is it okay if she uses it? will it work?
And do you know if she is supposed to put it in her hair when it is wet?
Thanks a bunch
:D

I'm not sure about that so i'll let someone else answer that part of your question BUT there is a shampoo that helps with hair grow which is just simply washing your hair in the shower. so tell her she should try that also!

a shampoo called "hair formula 37" is actually supposed to work well....

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does sex for the first time hurt? does it hurt just the first time or every time? and is there a way to prevent the pain if it is painful?

my first time hurt but then a few times after that it hurt when it went in but then didnt hurt. and after a few times it doesnt hurt at all :)

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what are some things you can do to make making out more exiting

feeling up/biting lip

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do (most) girls like it when you finger them

yes!

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Im a 15 year old male, and i have a twin sister. She has seemed to be "watching me". When ever i take a shower she seems to be in the bathroom, or whenever I change she seems to be coming in my room. She knows i sleep naked, and i lock my door at night, but one night I woke up with her watching me. Then one night really late at night, i walked past her room, and her door was open a little bit, and i looked in. I saw her naked and rubbing herself "down there" and watching a video that either she made or had one of her friends videotape of her rubbing my thing. I never noticed her doing this, i mean i would wake up with and erection on occasion, but i thought i was having a sexy dream or somthing. I don't no wat to do, i don't want my sis looking at my penis and touching me. What do i do? I started sleeping with clothes on, but she still always seems to want to look at me and touch me! What do I do??

Not to be rude...but is this a serious question? thats the weirdest thing i've ever heard. talk to her like um nowwwww..

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