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I Have Been With my Boyfriend for 4 months since febuary fifteenth and well we have talked about sex when we first started out and he said he doesn't want to because it really hurts for your first time, but things have changed since then. we hav fell in love and I have brought up the situation about him giving me head and he said yea I would definitly give you head (this was recently) So Now I think I'm ready to have sex. Like I don't think it would ruin anything becuss we are really close and connected couple honestly . . Buht like how do I tell him I'm ready? (link)
Let nature do the work for you. Have a very heavy make out session. When you know he is sufficiently aroused simply reach down and grab his penis.

Whisper in his ear "I want you inside me now, right now."
If he isn't screwing your brains out within 5 minutes, he is gay...find someone else


So I'm a girl.I'm bisexual and really attracted to a friend of myne.Everytime I see her, I just wanna grab her in my arms and cuddle her.What should I do? Should I tell her I find her attractive and that I like her or should I just keep my feelings to myself? (link)
If your goal is to seduce her, you need to use a subtle approach. Maybe give her room to experiment with her feelings.

If the movies make you both hot, it might get the ball rolling.


I've had a crush on my English teacher since the beginning of the school year. She's really attractive and smart. I've been flirting with her pretty much since I saw her and she finally started flirting back with me.

I was staying after class so she could tutor me some. I'll admit I was purposely failing things so that she'd request I stay after class for extra help. One thing led to another and the last few tutoring sessions kind of became make-out sessions. I pushed her to do it with my flirting though.

Last friday we actually had full-on sex. We didn't use a condom either so I'm slightly concerned about a possible pregnancy issue but I don't know how the hell to bring that up to her! It was the best sex of my life but I know it was wrong because she's my teacher. I want to be more than just her student or her sex buddy though and I'm not sure if I should pursue this into a relationship, remain sex partners, or let it die and try to forget about her (doubt that will happen).

For legal reasons I won't say my age or hers but there is quite a span between us. She, obviously, knows my age and I know hers. I keep getting erections in her class now and can't stop thinking about her. I am wondering if I should even try to quit school so that I can be with her but that just sounds absurd to me for some reason. I feel so confused about this whole situation now.

What do I do? (link)
Just enjoy the moment. have great sex with her. She is probably using protection, so don't worry.

The trick is DON'T FALL IN LOVE! Just enjoy the "sexual tutoring" and someday look back on it and smile.


I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now. Everything is going OK but I'm really just not happy with him being my boyfriend. We don't have anything in common and so it makes it hard to talk to each other since there isn't anything we're really both interested in. I'd rather just be his friend, I guess, because he's a good person but just nothing that makes us really compatible.

Last night we were on the phone and I knew I had to tell him my feelings about our relationship. I told him that I had been thinking of breaking up for awhile because I think we're better suited for different people and he totally blew up. He cried at first and I tried to calm him down but then he started talking about being depressed and that he can't stand to lose me. I was freaking out because I've never dealt with this before and he has never said anything about being sad like this before to me.

We talked some more and what it came down to is him saying to me that if I leave him that he will kill himself. His dad owns a gun and he knows where it is and how to use it. Last night he said he would go get it and blow his brains out while we were on the phone talking about breaking up. It really scared me because he was sounding serious about it.

I don't want him to kill himself and I especially don't want to be blamed for his death if he does commit suicide for some reason. I can't be in this relationship and I don't know how to get out now. I told him last night that I was sorry and that we would stay together but that isn't what I want at all. I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing now and starting up this kind of conversation with him again.

Please, help me, I'm trapped. What do I do now so that he doesn't hurt himself and so that I can move on? (link)
He is using your good nature to manipulate you. If he kills himself it is not your fault.
We all have to deal with whatever life brings us. If his solution is suicide, then it is his decision.

He needs to grow up. Your leaving him would be the best favor you could do for him.




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