OK.. Im 23 I am a mother and business woman in the media sector.
Iv been through a hell of a lot and friends always come to me for advice and say I should give others advice ..so here I am.
Here to talk to for support.. Lets face it a stranger is always better to speak to than someone you know.
Gender: Female
Location: London
Occupation: Mother and Media Agent Consultant
Age: 23
Member Since: June 11, 2013
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I am 20 years old with a son that will be 3 in July and a daughter turning 2 in September. I recently found out I am 24 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. I had talked to a family friend about adopting my child, but soon changed my mind. I didn't want my daughter to be with total strangers never knowing if I could see her again. My aunt and uncle that live 2 hours away from me said they would like to adopt her. I just don't know how I feel about it. I really Want to keep her. But I just now got back into college and have no money. I think its just me being selfish because her life wouldn't be what she deserves. I am gettting my tubes tied and realize this will be my last baby. Should I tough it out and keep her? Or should I send her to a trusted family member?
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I honestly think this has to be your own decision.. Money does not bring happiness to a child its about the love you give them and im very sure you give this.
I personally would pull through it.. Dont under estimate your ability of motherhood. :)
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I have never wanted children. My entire life I have never felt that urge to mother, but I've recently found myself thinking about it more often. My boyfriend does want children, and its something we have talked pretty seriously about. Just trying to see it from each others point of views.
I don't know if I want kids now because my boyfriend does, or if its something else. I'm 22 and I just recently got promoted at my job, and my boyfriend is 28 and just enrolled in his doctorate programs, on top of having a full time job. It just wouldn't be a smart thing to do right now. Idk what I'm asking, I guess its more of an "is it normal to all the sudden have these feelings?" Kind of question...please help (link)
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Hi ya,
Your headline has said in big letters NO dont have a baby yet. When you question whether to have a baby or not you know you shouldnt yet!
Im 23 I have 3 children and a stepdaughter.
Its hard work.. Your a year younger than me and you have so much time to think about having a baby.
It sounds like you two have everything going for you in this relationship right now and Il be honest a baby ,the pregnancy etc does put strain on a relationship as its a big life change.
Its definitely OK for you to get these maternal extincts and in fact its great that you feel this. Youl be a great mummy one day. :)
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Hi, 20/f. I was engaged in my previous relationship. He was 19/f and we was together for two years. He left me one week before Christmas of 2012 because he randomly became "unhappy". It's been six months and I think about him every single day. First thought in the morning, last at night. After three months of breaking up, I got invited by a friend to one of his parties and a couple of weeks later we were 'fuck' buddies. Stupid I know, but I missed his touch, kisses, ect. I learned my lesson the hard way because now we act like we do not know each other. He has made it very very clear that he has not missed me since he left, doesn't have feelings for me, ect.
Since we've been broken up, he has been with different women, sexually, not relationship wise. I was his first, if that makes sense?
So I guess he hasn't had a feel of what it is alike to be alone. I, on the otherhand, have not been with any other guy since we split, I just don't feel right. I don't have any interest in looking for a "boyfriend".
Well, 3 months ago, about 3 weeks after we stopped fooling around/communicating his roommate found my picture under his pillow along with a note I wrote him back in 2010. He swears up and down that it was his 'final' closure, which may be true; but when he's sober he talks negative about how he feels for me; but when he's drunk, its all positive and stuff. Confusing, ugh.
I know we are NOT getting back together, but for some reason my heart refuses to believe it. It's ridiculous. I'm so so scared that I will never get over him because of how much it still stings, and I think of him. When someone tells me about him and a new girl, I do get a little jeaous but it quickly goes away because my heart kinda knows it won't work out, because the girl isn't me. My gut and my heart keeps telling me we are meant to be, and he needs time to know what its like to be single because he doesn't really know what its like..?
But then again, Im trying to convience myself its really over; but its not working. I have prayed to God to give me a sign, and NOT LYING WHEN I SAY THIS, every time I pray, I always have a dream that my ex shows up at my door saying he made a mistake and he is sorry. But when I don't pray, I do not have any dreams of him. It's kinda weird??
I know if he was to come back, I should say no because I feel like alot of damage and time has passed and been done, but when I think about it, my heart feels full and I just wanna cry tears of joy.
I know time heals all, but I'm so scared I will NEVER get over him. I truely loved him to pieces, and he randomly leaves claiming he never thought about or missed me since before he left.
Help?
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Hi ya..
Im sorry it hasnt worked out to how you hoped it would of.
There is still time that it could eventually happen for you both again, but for the time being you need to focus on yourself not him and how you feel about him because you seem very clear to me how you feel about this guy.
It is hard to move on from someone,and course its going to hurt hearing his doing this or that with another girl..Dont listen to hear say though..thats where things get so confusing.
You need to brush him to the side for a little while,Start a new hobbie..I find going to the gym works well it occupies your time and mind.
When he realises your not sat about waiting for him and you to have that chance of possibly happening he will more than likely show interest.. Men have this thing about a woman moving on with life. It wont change your views on him in your mind you know you want him back but it dont hurt for him to wonder a little as to what you think!..If you see him say fancy a coffee sometime for a catch up ..or could do with a gym partner if you fancy it!?
Theres nothing saying you want him back..pull him back in as being friendly and carefree..it drives them crazy lol.
This thing with him looking at your pic its not closure he would of thrown it away..he clearly isnt over you..lets face it though men even in there 30s are terrible of showing how they feel.
Hope some of my tips have helped you try and take your mind off it and I honestly hope this work's out.:)
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The situation is that I live at my mom's with my half brother step dad and half baby sister. But I don't want to bring any of my friends to my house as It is scruffy. And my mom and step dad like to drink lots of alcohol on a weekend. But one morning I woke up an I found remains of white powder on the kitchen worktop. Now I'm scared and I don't know weather to move somewhere else e.g.(dad's, nannas or grandmas) or just stay (link)
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Hi there,
Firstly well done for seeking advice. You know this isnt the right situation for you or the other two children to be around regardless of street drugs being taken or not.Adults Consuming alcohol with the children in the house excessively is not responsible.
You could just outright ask your mum about it,but if your scared and worried about what response you may get back then the following needs to happen!!
If you are feeling scared I would certainly speak to another person in the family that you can trust. If you dont feel you can talk to someone in the family maybe go to your local surgery or social services in your area where someone professional can help you in the choices you may decide to make. You may leave to your dads etc but the two other children shouldnt be left in the house if this is going on around you all.
Im not quite sure how old you are but it sounds like you are old enough to know the situation is wrong and may be able to help not only you but the two youngest children.
Please ask for professional help or talk to an adult you can trust. Don't stay quiet about it.
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I have been trying to get pregnant the last couple of months but it seems it's taking forever I had sex with my partner 4 days before my most fertile time according to the ovulation calculator I'm most fertile from the 7-12 I have been having minor cramps headaches an lower back pain idk what it can be or if I am pregnate please help (link)
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Hi there
You havent said when your period is or was due.
I think if you wait till your period is due and if you dont get a period then you then should do a pregnancy test.
The digital clearblue are the best as even if you are only 1-2 weeks pregnant ,this gets picked up in the test.
Also some symptoms of being pregnant can be the same as just as you would before starting your period so keep an open mind about this.
I wish you all the best of luck.
Biggest tip i can give you is dont stress as this doest help you trying for a baby. Enjoy it :)
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