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Hi
I have been going out with my girlfriend for about a year. I am very physically active, and I don't expect my girlfriend to do as much as I do but lately I really am having trouble talking to her about weight.
I love my girlfriend's personality, but I have problem with her being overweight. I don't expect her to look like a model, and I don't mind if she's a little chubby, but I really have a problem with her being overweight and it's a huge pet peeve of mine. She has been trying to cut back, but she hasn't really lost weight. Its sad because she used to be really in shape and do gymnastics. I also try to do activities with her but she doesn't like doing them. I feel like it would be dumb to break up with her just because of the weight thing, but she just isn't losing weight and it's been 4 months now since she started trying to.
My question is, how can I help her get in shape without her getting angry at me? I feel like I'm being a jerk when I say she should run and work out, but it is super important to me. Also she doesn't want to use any drugs to lose weight. What ways can I help to convince her to get in shape?
Any suggestions on my situation would be valuable to me.
Thanks a bunch (link)
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Try taking her on fun active dates, not necessarily exercising, but just activities that get her active! try rock climbing, take her on a picnic where you guys have to walk a significant distance, go hiking, try swimming and playfully ask her to race, take her to a roller skating/ice skating rink, etc. also when you guys go out to dinner, try eating healthier, or make her dinner at home using healthier ingredients. the worst thing you can do is tell her she needs to lose weight. this will lower her self esteem and probably cause her to eat more because she is feeling insecure.
its going to take a little bit, but the more active dates you go on, the more it is going to pay off. your not going to get results in the begining but if you play it up and challenge her she will be more willing to work harder. ease in to it and dont seem like you are forcing her to do anythinng. in the mean time focus on all the things you love about her and try not to focus on her weight so much!
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