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I am in love with this boy. Lets call him A. He is the most amazing person I have ever met in my life. When I see him I just want to wrap him up and keep him safe and make sure no one can ever harm him. That sounds strange, I know, but its how I feel. He means more to me than anyone whos ever meant anything to me.
When I met him, it felt like we had this really strong connection. Chemistry, you could call it. He felt it too, I could tell. We would make eye contact when no one else was looking, it was as if we had this secret understanding.
I was happy all the time, because for once in my life, it seemed like someone liked me back. And I just wanted to get to know A and take it slow, cause I really thought we might end up together. It was the best feeling I'd ever had.
But then he got a girlfriend. He said he was in love with her. Loving something you can't have; story of my life.
All the hope and happiness I had felt just disappeared, I couldn't believe that it was happening to me again to be honest. I thought, is this what life is going to be like for me? Is this how it's meant to be? Always falling in love and not being able to be with that person. It'd happened before.
And now, it's been a little over a month since he got a girlfriend, and I still feel like we have a connection. Every day I fall for him even more, and I know it's going to happen again. I am going to get depressed. I can feel it, talking to people seems like too much of an effort, I can't concentrate on anything because he's the only thing on my mind, life seems pointless at the moment. I just feel this overwhelming sense of dispair. And I don't know what to do.
I'm pretty sure he still likes me, but he doesn't love me, like he loves his girlfriend, and I know that there is definitely no chance of me being with him unless they split up. He wont ditch her for me. I know that.
It probably seems like I havn't asked you any questions here, well, I havn't, so this is what I'd really like you to answer:
* How can I stop myself from getting depressed?
* What should I do concerning A? I can't just give up on him. Should I just wait until him and his girlfriend have split up?
*Does anyone else have this problem? Is anyone else always falling into this trap of loving something you cant have? If you are then please talk to me about it. I'd really appreciate knowing I'm not the only one who always seems to have this problem.
Sorry it was long, thanks in advance, xxx (link)
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hi,
i'm in the same situation as you are now, but in my situation until now we still have a relationship. i know it's not right but is loving wrong?he has a long time girlfriend, and we're 1 year now, it is really hard,yes. im very depressed that i even attempted suicide, but you know one thing i've learned? loving without expecting anything in return. being contented, at first it was very hard because i demanded for everything...but i realized it doesnt work like that, i changed my attitude, i don't demand, that's when the time he's giving more effort in our so called relationship. i don't expect anything in return, thats when the time i feel happy everytime he surprise me with sweet gesture and affection..i also tell it to my self that "i just can't give him up" i can't control my feelings either. i don't even know how long our relationship will last, but one thing is for sure, if ever we part ways, i know that i have express all my love to him and i have given my very best in the relationship... good thing is, i'm gonna cherish every moment that we spend together for the rest of my life. and im not closing my doors to him...if we really are meant for each other no matter how old we are if we meet again, i still gonna love him like how i love him today..." you doesn't need to be with him to express your love.. remember also love will find a way..
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