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Hello,
Earlier this year my husband's physician recommended that he stop working and go on disability. I am blessed to have a work from home position that is stable and I make $42,000 a year. We have two very young children, and I am 33yrs old. My husband is 11 yrs my senior. In the past we have tried to get life insurance and disablility insurance for him but no one will touch him. In a nut shell, my husband has quit his $55,000yr job and is tryin to make preparations for us to leave the state where we are currently to somewhere cheaper. Sounds like the solution...... except for a few important things. The heart condition my husband has can render him an invalid or worse sudden death. The place he has decided to move does not provide a support system for him if he gets sick, or me if I need help with the children due to his hospitalizations. His twin brother has the same condition so I know how bad it can get. A "house" was provided for us but it will cost nearly $10,000 to make it habitable. I am the only one working and we have limited savings. THe move alone will cost us $3000. I am pissed that my husband made this decision and expects me to be the MAN but he still wants to make all the decsions. Besides, I don't want to leave our home and support system but without him working I cant afford to maintain our home on my income alone. I thought the man I married was the kind that would take care of us no matter what and I have found out that he isn't. He told me that he does not want to work untill he gets sick and I feel like under the circumstances he does not have the luxury to stop. If he does our children will be at risk. Poor neighborhood, bad school system, as well as a mother who is bitter and resentful of their father. I don't know what i should do - My parents have offered that we move in with them but for me, it means ultimately - divorcing my husband because he refused to sacrifice for his family. He accused me of wanting him to work until he dies, and truthfully speaking I think he should work untill he gets sick or they fire him because he cant do it anymore for the sake of the children. (that is what we are supposed to do) I love my husband and I don't want my children to be without him but under this stress and pressure I feel I should leave and start over for the well being of my children and myself.
He does not know I am having the feeling about divorce because I truly dont want that to happen I truly do not know what to do............... (link)
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Husbands. I hate to see any marriage end in divorce, but sometimes men just don't get it.
Do what is best for you and your children. If your husband is out of touch with reality, you need to step up and take control.
If he is a control freak and can't compromise, leave him.
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16/F/Christian
What does the bible say about homosexuality and being sent to H*ll? It just doesn't seem fair that all gays and lesbians can't go to Heaven, especially because God loves EVERYONE. Some people are just born that way and can't help it.
And what about people that are in such an isolated community, that they've never been exposed to God's word or people that don't know Christianity exists? What about them?
And in the old testament, doesn't it say crazy things like, it's okay to rape a woman as long as you marry her afterwards? And if someone hits you, you can chop off their hand, or something like that. That's just...crazy!
Why would God tell someone to put that in the Bible?
What are your thoughts on this? Can someone please clear up the rumors I've heard? Thankyou! Maybe you can recommend some scriptures, too? Thanks, again! (link)
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Bible and Sexuality
The problem with the Bible is that it has been changed and things have been omitted over the years by various rulers, churches, etc.
I don't believe that you will go to Hell because you are homosexual, although I don't agree with it and don't understand it.
We were put on this earth to "procreate" and that requires male and female. The spirits waiting in heaven or wherever, need a physical body to inhabit.
Homosexuality seems to go against that laws of nature on earth, however, the spirit world does not necessarily have gender. The Bible says there is no marriage in heaven, which supports this theory.
Please remember that there are many books that did not make it into the Bible and just because it is not in the Bible, does not mean it didn't happen or is not allowed.
You are still a child of God and I don't believe that homosexuality is a sin in itself.
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so i'm barely 16 (girl), and really old guys try to hit on me all the time, its really creepy. i don't need any warnings about "stay away," blah blah blah, because that's obvious, and the oldest guy i'd date or even think about hooking up with is 18, maybe 19. but like so many guys give you that "i want you in bed" stare (hahaha;) & theyre like 30s or even in their 40s! its disgusting. like im short so im obviously no older than 17, i mean some days i could pass for legal but probably not. like i know when a guy is interested in you, he turns his torso to face you. i know this could be coincidental at times but i had a teacher last year that always sat on desks and (not to be gross) spread his legs to slump down with his elbows on his knees, and i know that when a guy points his you-know-what at you, hes interested in you. (its a natural mating instinct, don't believe me if you dont want to.) this teacher was like 30 and he always faced me. like i made a point to move to avoid him and move to different seats across the entire room and he still always faced me, every single day. like i know its just one incident but so many old guys give me creepy stares. i just want other peoples experiences to make sure im not the only one hahaha and maybe some advice to keep the creepers away ;)
thankss (link)
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Hello barely 16. I was a young girl once and had neighbors and bosses hit on me. I fear for my daughter, but laws have changed and you have more legal protection.
Don't let them get away with it! Dirty old men are disgusting, stay away or use the law to file charges. One thing I have learned is that telling wives or friends that their wife, husband, brother, or boyfriend made a pass at you does not work! Love is blind and friends or wives will hate you, and not believe you.
Don't put up with it. I walked out at lunch and never went back. My bosses brother-in-law was a judge so it would have been a waste of time to press charges.
Try to avoid situations that put you alone with someone you distrust. Have faith in yourself and don't be afraid to tell them they are out of bounds.
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