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i just need your advice about a man that i have been with for about eight months now. he is a divorced man and he is about 15 years older than i, besides ha has a nine years son. i loved him a lot and i still do, but my parents didn't like him at all.
the problem is that he said that if i beak up with him he would hurt me and tell my father about every thing that happened between us.
please i really need your advice as soon as possible because i am really lost and cannot do anything right now.
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i am sorry to hear about this and im sorry i am going to say this but if he says that hes going to hurt you then he doesnt love as he says he does. im sorry i have said that but its not right a women should be ina relationship with out being threat split up with him and call the police for a non emergancy call ask wat you should do if it does get out of hand CALL THE POLICE! anymore help on anytthing contact me on my email:jake11342@hotmail.co.uk
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Hey, this might be long (very sorry but all relevant). I am at university at the moment, at my second year living in a small house with a friend I met at the start of last year. Last year was great! I made so many friends and I met this man who I am now with, but it didn't start too good.
See, he used to call me and say we'll go out, so I'd get dressed up and wait and wait and wait, but he'd ignore my calls for about a month and a half, then randomly he would get back in touch.
I know my friend hated knowing I was in my room crying over him but now were together he explained he liked me and he was afraid of both being hurt and hurting me (which made me laugh in retrospect) anyway we are fine and happy now, looking forward to a future together.
My only problem is the girl I'm living with hates him, she's forbidden him from entering the house and speaks badly about him constantly. He tried to be polite and talk to her but she's snubbed him at every chance so now he hates her too. I think that her problem is mostly that she's afraid of him (a few of my friends are cautious) because were all from the same happy fortunate world while he has had a tough life and in that sense is a polar opposite from us. She also seems to be a bit racist which may play a part as well!
Either way, it's so hard hearing them say how If I cared about one or the other id put them first when I care about them both!
It isn't helped by my home situation, where my mother and father are recently divorced, my mother has turned her back on all my siblings who have tried to be civil with my dad, which makes me so upset even though he did us all wrong and turned away from us, I still want to have even a basic relationship with him but know I can't because It would hurt my mother so much...
I was hoping going back to university would get me away from those ultimatum conversations but it led me right into even harder ones! Oh and the reason I can't go to his house is because he lives in a very rough neighbourhood doesn't want me where I can get hurt.
I don't know how to talk to her about letting him stay with ME, she says she wants nothing to do with him but he's coming to see ME not her. I don't want to be a bitch to her but I feel like she's controlling my life (and I'm not the only one to feel this way with her either!). Any advice on dealing with people like this and convincing her to let him stay with me would be welcome, thankyou x (link)
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i have red your story and this has happend to me before ignore what she says about him not going in the house hes your BOYFRIEND! she cant control what goes on with you and him let him got to the house were you stay get both of them together ( u, your bf and your mate) and sit then down and talk why she hates him. yer like you said hes had a tough time but it doesnt matter about aslong as your happy hes happy you are fine dont let them bring you down by telling you stuff its not right that you have to sit there and listen to wat your room mate says about him as fare as i know if she saying stuff about him shes not your mate mates are there to be happy for you not to bring you down.... if you need anymore adivise pleas contact on my email:jake11342@hotmail.co.uk
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