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I am a mother of 3 beautiful children I come from a big family I am the oldest of 7 kids. My grandmother raised all of us my mother is a drug addict and I have seen and lived thru abuse physical and emotional and have over came all the struggles.

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I've been with the same guy for almost five years and we share a four month old together. This relationship has definitely not been the best in the begining it well and then after 2 years I found out he was cheating on me with many girls. I tried to break it off but it was really hard and I couldn't go a day without thinking about him. We tried many many times to make things better and so they seemed good for awhile it just went strait back to bad. When he gets mad he screams at me and calls me every name in the book. He is also horrible with money I'm always loaning him money and then when he gets paid I tell him what he owes me and he calls me a liar and starts a huge fight and its like this on a regular basis there's days were he will completely ignore me. After the baby the cheating stopped I haven't been able to find anything suspicious in his phone and he tells me he would never cheat on me again and there's a part of me that wants to trust him but I can't. We currently live together too I really do love him and I think he has the ability to change but I've never left him. This is just really stressing me out I'm not a bad person I love my baby and I love myself and I would love us to be happy but I feel like there's so many issues here. I need some help.

you should pack up and leave him I was in an abusive relationship for 6 years before I got smart and left. but things will never change you don't need to be in a relationship like that its not healthy for you nor for your baby your baby can sense that something is wrong and its not healthy I know been through it myself and my daughter well lets just say its a constant battle she lived through the abuse as well and things she seen and heard has hurt her so what im saying is just go move out and don't speak to him unless it has to do with the baby

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I am 24 years old but i am mentally retarded at least that's what my mom says. my mom has been sick with brain tumors for almost 2 years now. I will give you an example of the abuse if that helps. The other day I was trying to move a love seat for my mom it fell on my foot I screamed she called me a bitch and any other word she could possibly think of . she also hit me in the head 3 times with her fists as hard as could screaming you stupid bitch I hate you, you can't do anything right . I mean wouldn't you scream if a love seat fell on your foot. I think you would. I didn't have shoes on either . she threatened to take my phone away if I screamed like that again even though i pay for the phone myself. I have been contemplating suicide the other day I took 8 Tylenol at 1 on time because my head hurt so bad when she hit me in the head with her fists. I don't want to press charges because of her condition and I don't feel like I can move out because she is raising 3 of her grand kids by herself in her condition and i am the only daughter out of 3 who is willing to stick by her no matter how mean she gets what should I do please help i am at my wits end and about to have a nervous break down and about ready to put and end to it all .

hi there I suggest that you move out if you are able to that is. I have no relationship with my mother she is a drug addict. Your relationship with your mother can be repaired but you need time away from her and suicide is not the solution nothing in this world is worth it just always remember if your believe in god he doesn't give us more than we can handle it all makes you stronger. I tried suicide one but I am thankful that I didn't succeed god had bigger plans for me I had a son a 1 1/2 years after I tried to kill myself and he is a blessing. What I'm trying to say is that you and your mother need to work on your relationship but you need to move out she depends on you to much it seems to me and suicide is never the answer so please don't ever think about that again.

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Hi . Im 13 and I have been smoking marijuana for a little bit now . I have been holding back this secret from my parents and even closest friends . I just don't want to be known as one who tries to fit in with the other crowd . That's not my reasoning for doing this . I do it because my brother is an addict and I tried it once and it was like the best feeling ever so I kept doing it . Ive gone to school high but since Im just a natural goof off and crazy student nobody seemed to notice as far as I know . I know its bad for you but I don't do it often . The addiction runs through my blood . I just cant help it . I cover up the smell with stong perfume and the days I smoke I usually just come in late and say Im tired I had a long night and go right to bed . Should I tell someone about this ? I just don't know what to do .

Hi there you should tell someone and get help quitting if you can't on your own and some people may tell you that it's not bad and well honestly it can and can't be just depends on how your body takes it. But you should be more worried with you schooling and not drugs. Right now weed may be all that you are smoking but that leads to more serious drug use because eventually the weed high won't be enough and you will want to replace that high with something else and before you know it you will be strung out on something really bad and then it will be even harder for you to quit. So I suggest you quit and tell your parents yes they will be mad and disappointed but will also be happy that you went to them with your problems I hope you take my advice. My mother is a drug addict and she started with weed and now does real bad drugs that she just cant quit

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