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we've been friends for over five years... but the last year i began to notice the extent of her devotion to this friendship... it seemed to me that i was the one putting so much effort into the relationship... we're both international students from france and where we met (in college) was far far away from home. I must say first that i really think she has issues... things i thought were irrelevant to our friendship until they proved otherwise.... for starters her mother brought up both her girls to be clingy and withdrawn... their dad is out of the picture since her second daughter was born.. he's back in Australia i think... both girls hang out with each other (the younger one is worse! her only friend is her older sister and she refuses to go out with out her mum and sister at 18, while my friend does leave the house on her own but only to be completely alone) both are very very extremely antisocial... anyway the older one doesn't have any female friends... and we met because i was the closest thing to home...
those she does have (like me for instance) she keeps at a distance only visible from her side... she revels in getting attention from boys (and being the only blond in the entire country, she gets the attention easily... happy with the worst guy out of them) really i've only ever seen her relatively loud and funny or human when she's around guys...
anyway so i had a horrible horrible year 2 years ago and i needed her help and asked... she didn't offer it and began to withdraw... all i needed from her was emotional support and her being there for me... at that point i'd returned to france and she was still in our college... so the distance doesn't help...
what hurts the most is that she pretends nothing is wrong and manipulated me to feel like i did something wrong to her (SAYING THAT I HURT HER BY PUTTING HER IN A POSITION WITH MY FAMILY -for telling them about the issue- AND OUR FRIENDS!!! even though the problem was between my ex and I and nothing to do with her,my family, the group who are mostly girls and who she doesn't like and who had nothing to do with any of it!!!) she stopped talking to me after i confronted her and thought i dealt with the problem... she made it seem like there was none and that my apology was accepted! (i still don't know what i apologized for!) even coming to my town when she was home for summer and spent 2 weeks with my family ... as if nothing was wrong and stepping out of her element away from her mum and sis....
me and my ex are best friends too but with me moving away things started to fade... and she took the opportunity to get closer to him and now they're best friends without me... sometimes i feel she does it purposely... with all the boys... but why this one?? he's probably the only other true friend she had besides me and 2 more guys ... and the fact that she accepted him into her circle (granted he is a guy) was a cue that i did have some higher standing in her friends list... i don't know why she is treating me this way now... did she need me for my social skills?? i don't understand... i mean she never ever invited me over... she never let me into her life.. but she was deeply immersed into mine!
i feel so hurt.. I've invested all this time and emotion not to mention stress over her and this is what i get...
i know i know let it go who needs friends like her... but its really hurting me that she could abandon me like this (i am not sure if she even considered me as a best friend or just an ear she could chew on for the time being) ... I might be going back to college to attend a friends graduation... naturally i won't call and tell her i am in town... what should i do if i see her around or if she calls... i am really hurt and there is no point in talking to her ... it's useless... she's manipulative and she's wittier than i when it comes to face to face confrontations... i tend to think about what people say instead of my own thoughts hindering me from saying everything i have in my heart...
How should i deal with her? i am cutting her from my life but what do i do incase i see her? i really don't want anything to do with her and even considering deleting all her emails and blocking her from facebook... i want to forget her... but i don't want her to know she got to me... (link)
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oh wow... I've had one of those... My advice to you is avoid her at all costs... they are more damage than you want in your life... and you CAN NOT FIX HER! she'll probably self destruct in an effort to retaliate and take out her own miserable little life on you... these people don't know what they have until it kicks them in face and even then they're still miserable....
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My parents want to come and spend the night at my house. I have told them hundreds of times that they have really nasty habits (like not washing their hands after using the bathroom then touching food and not taking baths but once a week). Then they come and bring roaches with them (unintentionally of course) from their house, that they refuse to clean. (Then they ask why we don't visit them at their house. Last time we went I got a glass from the cabinet to get some water to drink and it had roach eggs and spiderwebs in it.)I have to treat them like children and tell them how to do things properly. I do not like them giving my kids food because I don't know where their hands have been. When I do tell them that they need to clean up their act, they get offended and blame it on this or that (a line of bull). Then my dad gets mad at me and says sarcastic comments (like I'm sorry we are not perfect like you). I never said I was perfect, I just don't want them to teach my kids ( 2 & 6 yrs. girls) bad habits. They need to be able to look up to them and be proud. Nothing I do seems to help. They never listen, when I'm trying to tell them something they always take it the wrong way. Then they act jealous of other family members (ex: why can u go visit them and not us?). Last time they stayed over night the room had to be cleaned because it smelled after they left. I can't take much more of this, I don't know what else to do other than just start avoiding them. I have put up with this for years, Please help... (link)
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wow i don't know what to think... It's either they are extremely hygienically challenged, to the extent of being hazardous or maybe your over reacting a little (some women supposedly sort of 'flip' after having children thinking things aren't clean or aren't safe enough)... If they are really that "nasty" then my advice is to think... where they like this when you were young? is it something new that just started with old age? were you the one who used to do the chores and cleaning when you were in house? if in case they weren't like this before then perhaps old age or some other reason (which you have to find out about) is causing this... and that be the case maybe you could help them out a little or hire some help.... in case of the other issue... and maybe you just suddenly started 'noticing' that they are not clean, then perhaps your just being over protective of your kids, or even have deeper issues like being ashamed of them....
I would also suggest doing it diplomatically in case they are actually unclean... Buy your mom a bath and shower kit... and buy your dad the axe chocolate thing (he probably saw the commercial and a boost of ego never hurts a man) also next time an occasion come up buy your mom a "super advanced vacuum cleaning that has the best options in the world" ... or perhaps a special fancy detergent from online (stuff you don't find in the supermarket) for her to use to clean... in any case what you'll need to do is advertise and be smart about it so they don't turn defensive... AND STOP SAYING THEY'RE NASTY... after all they are your parents...
I am sorry I was a little blunt... but hope my advice resonates with you...
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Ok, i am doing a project on egypt and i have to have an example of movement in egypt. I already have how they use the nile river to navigate and use boats to carry things but i need another one. Does anybody know a type? thanks in advance! (link)
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Hi there...
i am not sure if you are talking about ancient egypt or modern day egypt... in any case this site may be helpful to you... as some modes are still used (such as donkeys) while some are outdated or replaced by modern day "movement" or transportation means such as cars and trucks...etc
http://nefertiti.iwebland.com/timelines/topics/means_of_transportation.htm
hope i helped
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