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Would you trust your significant other if they were living with their Ex boyfriend/girlfriend?
My boyfriend is still living with his ex girlfriend.. he claims they are just best friends and hes just living with her because their contract isn't up till october and he doesn't want to leave her stranded paying for the whole rent. They don't stay in the same room, but I don't know if I can trust them. He told me he was living with her and they were broken up a little while after he met me. He says that he can't put her out on the street.Should I trust my boyfriend that still lives with his ex-girlfriend?
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I met a man about a month ago and we really hit it off instantly. Now I didn't think I found the one or anything but I was really looking forward to how far we would go. He defiantly seemed like the 'perfect' man. He's an engineer, he has a really nice place (that I thought was just his), he is a great cook, he is charming, he intelligent, et cetera.
With me working full time and attending grad school and with him working full time we only see each other Saturdays during the day time, but during the remainder of the week we talk on the phone every chance we get and if we are not talking we are texting. The other night I mentioned that we should have a sleepover this upcoming weekend so we can have more time together. I don't like only getting a few hours with him than having to wait a whole 6 days to see him again. At this point his tone changed and he states that his ex-girlfriend (that too my knowledge supposedly ceased to have a place in his life the past 3 months) still stays with him from time to time because she is not financially able to live on her own-_- Than he goes on this long tangent about how he doesn't want to lose me, he never met a woman like me, he sees me as a future wife, blahh, blahhh, blahh, blahh, blahhhh, basically BS. At that moment my stomach cringed and I felt used and mislead.
I slept on it before I gave my feelings so I would say the wrong thing. When I woke up I talked to my two best friends to get their perspectives about the situation. While it sucks to have to lose someone that I thought was the 'perfect' man I decided to let it go. I told him that I wasn't feeling it and to give me a call when she moves out. There are too many men in this world for me to invest my feelings and time into someone that another woman is invested into. Furthermore, I don't feed into that were living together for some type of benefit. That just means that for a few hours on Saturday out of a 7 day week he gets the benefit of laying up with me, but 7 nights a week he is under the same roof as her. Oh and I’m not oblivious to the fact that there is still some bumping and grinding. I'm not giving him the benefit of 'having his cake and eating it too.'
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