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I have been going through a really tough time. My serious relationship of 3 yeas ended. The guy ditched me just before marriage. This my 3rd relationship failure. I'm 32. People around me are getting married and kids. I don't have many friends. I'm alone ans cry everyday. My confidence is shaking. I don't hv anyone to share my deepest feelings. I regret many things in life. I feel anxiety thinking about
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Dear worried soul
Don't get upset otherwise you will be entrapped with anxiety attacks. I will guide you how to face this situation and find where is the fault which makes you face the same situation repeatedly . If possible . tell me your qualifications, profession religion and the city you live in . If for privacy sake you wish to share your problem with me separately then contact me at doctorpirzada (at) y a h o o . c o m . Blessings be upon you
Holistic Doctor Pirzada
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This is probably jumbled and random. I'm a little upset, so I apologize. Thank you in advance.
When I was little, my maternal grandmother lived with us a lot. I had a very close relationship with her, as I do with my mother. Her whole life she's had a hard time with personal relationships, and she's moved around and met different men, none of which have been pleasant. Right now she lives with an old man with a farm, and he's a little off his rocker, and doesn't like to go out or be around people, and besides getting anxious sometimes, he isn't that bad of a guy. However, they have this idea that they just cannot leave the farm unless they need something because they might get sick, and of course, they can't afford that. I haven't seen my grandmother in around a year, even though she lives about half an hour away. My step dad and 8 year old brother saw them from across the street at a gas station. They all made eye contact, but couldn't even be bothered to wave. Just last year, when I was still in highschool I had a lead roll in our winter musical, and we were doing South Pacific. It's my grandmother's favorite, and she promised she'd come see. It was the only thing that kept me from dropping out. She didn't come. Graduation rolled around, and I sent out invitations. She sent me a letter saying that she and her boyfriend or whatever he is would "be there in spirit." I cried both times. I know she's never had the best mental health, but it makes me angry. I want to write her a letter, but I don't even know what to say to her. My mother hasn't really ever had the best relationship with her, and it's at it's worst right now. They haven't spoken in months. Grandma sends occasional cards. She doesnt know what my siblings are up to, she doesn't know I moved out, or that I'm seeing someone. I'm so hurt by her lack of action, but I miss her. I know where they live, and I want to go see her, but I don't know if that would be the right course of action. I'm upset right now, so this whole thing is probably very jumbled. I also don't know if I should take how my mom would feel if I went to see her into consideration. I'm 18 and it's not really any of her business, but I love my mother very much. Also, I don't see or talk to my family much, despite living 8 blocks away, and I don't want another confrontation about it..
I want to see my grandmother again. What should I do??? (link)
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Dear sweet Girl , Your desire to meet ur Grand mom
is a nice thing but please do give consideration to the feelings of your mother who gave you birth. Her right on u is more . Try to discuss the matter with your mom and if she has any objection try to convince her with solid arguments of value of relations within the family. Hope you will get a solution by this discussion
Best of luck
And welcome for any further guidance at my yahoo which is doctorpirzada
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I've just been asked to be part of the bridal party for one of my best friends. While I feel so honoured by her request, I'm very hesitant as she has told me about her intention to ask someone else as well. This person and I do not get along.
This person used to be my friend and former roommate. Our friendship ended 6 months ago when she moved out. Having been friends for over a decade, we had moved in together despite the fact that I was warned by various other friends that it wasn't a good idea. From the day we moved in, the relationship started deteriorating and she started to behave quite badly.
Just a few examples of this included:
- Never washing her dishes or putting them away or putting the garbage out and becoming hostile when I asked her to do so.
- Getting extremely upset with me during the time that my grandfather was dying. I was very sad and withdrawn and she accused me of making her feel as though she had done something wrong.
- Being very angry at me when I told her I felt uncomfortable if she were to sublet her room for a month while she was travelling (I eventually convinced my sister to sublet from her).
- Starting a verbal fight with me and, when a friend came over later, throwing objects around the kitchen and slamming cupboards to the point that we needed to leave the apartment.
- Doing drugs in my room while I was away on vacation.
I'm not innocent in this situation. In a lot of these conflict situations, I would either leave or practice avoidance. However, when I did assert myself or try to communicate, she would become very loud and intimidating. I am usually the 'mother' in any given friend circle and, while she encouraged me to practice boundaries with other friends, she became angry when I wouldn't be flexible with her.
We had come to an understanding that she would move out and I gave her ample time to find a new apartment. After several months of her staying put, I gave her a firm date to leave.
I haven't spoke to her since and had no intention of doing so. I came to the realization that, while I had supported her through many different life situations (losing an immediate family member, a break up, a theft), she had never been there for me or tried to support me in times of need. In addition to this, I developed anxiety during our last few months of living together and I still experience panic when thinking about her.
While the bride was supportive of me during this time, she still remains friends with my previous roommate. We had decided that I shouldn't share my feelings about the previous roommate with her due to the fact that it was very uncomfortable to be stuck in the middle.
When I found out that my best friend was getting married, I was happy for her but felt guilty about the fact that my mind immediately went to the fact that I would have to see my previous roommate again.
To add to this, there has been a lot of heartbreak that occurred between my previous roommate and other mutual friends even prior to our co-habitation. Due to this, the bride decided, out of her own volition to do two sets of events (i.e. bachelorette party, engagement party). This was an unfortunate set of affairs but seemed necessary given the circumstances. At the time, the bride did not want a wedding party.
The bride has now decided to ask her sister, another friend, myself, my previous roommate and my previous roommate's best friend. While I love my best friend and I want to be there for her on her big day, my throat closes when I think about interacting with my previous roommate. But what would be worse is if I bowed out of being in the bridal party and saw my previous roommate involved in my best friend's special day. I feel terrible but I've been fantasizing about skipping out on the entire day.
I haven't said anything about this to the bride and she wants to have a conversation. I don't want to hurt her or make this more difficult than it already is. What should I do? (link)
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Discuss the problem with her frankly
Don't get horrified of any thing . U have the right to live in your own way
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I'm in a horrible situation and need help fast. I'm 22 and he is 22, slightly younger than me. I have no one to talk to because I'm not supposed to be talking to him. I met this guy a year ago through a friend when he moved here from another state. He was staying with his friend who lived with my friend. I was also moving into an apartment at the same time. It's my first apartment and I got it all on my own. Me, jumping into adult life quickly, I let this guy stay at my apartment and then lived there and we were dating. Things got real ugly. Long story shot, I've called the cops on him 3 times, had him sent to a mental help place for saying he was going to kill himself, and he's punched a hole through my door and stolen hundreds from me, both cash from my wallet and items that were sold. He's broken 2 or 3 of his phones, smashed electronics I bought, screamed at me making me hyperventilate and lock myself in the bathroom to call the cops.
At one point, I told my parents what happened and my dad came down from another state to stay with me and change my locks because I didn't feel safe. He also pushed me into going to the police station to start the process of a restraining order against this guy.
We had a court date set. To give you an idea of how careless this guy is, he brought over flowers when he knew my dad was here staying with me after all of this. He does NOT think things through or think of consequences.
I didn't know where he was at this time. The court date was probably a week away and I was having second thoughts about a restraining order. I even went to a center for women who are abused to talk to them and get some insight on whether I should go through with it. I was torn. He was my best friend. One night when I was home alone, I started to think a lot and cry and I called him.
He was staying at a friend's apartment not far from me. I told him to just not go to the court date and I wouldn't either. I mostly just felt that he was my best friend and I couldn't do it. I was so close to him. We related a lot. Soon after, the restraining order case was dropped, and the lease was ending at the apartment he was staying at.
I, unfortunately, allowed him in. I told him it was temporary, and that I didn't want to date. But I couldn't let him live on the street or at a shelter. But, he sleeps with me and we act like a couple in secret.
Now, he's gone through MANY jobs and can't keep one. Constantly asks for money and things that I believe he'll pay me back for. He smokes marijuana outside of my apartment (I do NOT smoke). He does not pay rent. I have to watch what I say. I can't bring any friends over. I can't talk to anyone about it. I measure how mad he is by how hard he slams the door. I am CONSTANTLY STRESSED. I work so much and he just stays here.
Out of fear, I can't say too much how I don't want to be kissing him or talking sweet to him because he gets extremely upset and cries and will scream. So I live, just, carefully and it's the same stuff every day.
I'm so sorry this is long. I really, really need help. I am SO stuck.
My dad is moving down here and he cannot be here. But he has no where to go. So I told him a month ago he needed to be out. It's now that time and only now he is messaging people for somewhere to live and no one is answering. Do I just stand my ground and say he needs to be out by tomorrow night regardless? He's saying he'll live in his car, but he doesn't realize what that all entails. His parents won't even take him back. No friends. I can't do this anymore. I want to be free. What would you do? (link)
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Dear Girl try to understand very carefully following Facts:-
1) He is of no use and value to you.
2) He is in fact using your weakness of love for him .
3) He will be a big irreversible problem for you in the coming future .
4) Even now if you leave him alone he will all the time interrupt in your personal life and will make it a hell for you.
5) He is having and slowly developing criminal attitude inside him which will cause a severe harm to you any time .
6) You are wasting your energies and time and mental health for nothing '
SO GET RID OF HIM AS SOON AS YOU CAN HE IS NOT CURABLE AND IS GENETICALLY ABNORMAL AND UNFIT PERSON
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Can extensive or rigorous breast sucking of a woman during a romantic sexual intercourse make the woman to have breast cancer? (link)
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Dear breast sucking is good for breast health and safeguards against breast cancer. But rough sucking will cause injuries which is only a painful thing and nothing to do with cancer
Dr Pirzada
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I'm really scared to tell my mom I'm on my period cause cause I feel like she will be weird about it and I'm 11 (link)
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Dear no need to be scared, this is a natural process and should not be taken as something bad. Further your mom is the best adviser for future steps to be taken in this regard. Go ahead and tell her , be a bold and courageous girl .
Be Blessed
Dr Pirzada
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My 14-year-old daughter identifies as gay. Let me make it clear right from the start that I have absolutely no problem with that. If she wants to date girls, I'll treat her girlfriends exactly as I would her boyfriends, and if she got married to a woman someday I would totally welcome my new daughter-in-law into the family.
The thing is, I'm not sure she really IS gay. The reason is that those who I have known who are gay say it's something they've known all their lives (I've certainly always felt hetero). That's not the case with my daughter; in her childhood, she talked about "cute boys" and such, and she's even said that this is something that evolved in her over time. And I don't think it's that she was afraid to tell us; my wife and I have always been very open with her about our position that there is absolutely nothing inherently wrong with being gay. She, in turn, tends to have very little shame about revealing her feelings about people and things (often to a fault!).
My question is: Is it possible for one's sexual preference to change with the onset of puberty? Is it even possible for it to change AT ALL? (link)
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i can help you . please tell me where are you located
my contact is doctorpirzada@yahoo.com
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I've already been to the doctor, and I will describe what happened here, in the question. But, I'm really trying to get an opinion from someone else that perhaps, has gone through what I've gone through.
PROBLEM #1: I'm 25/f and I'm just extremely tired. I wake up more tired than when I went to sleep. When I wake up, all I can think about is how much longer until I can go back to sleep. I just feel genuinely exhausted. I'm always being urged to go on vacations, but I don't seem to be interested in them. When I think of having a three day weekend, the last thing I wanna do is go on vacation. I just want to catch up on sleep and maybe some television. I have my bachelor's in education and I worked as an assistant teacher for some time. But, I had horrible experiences. I did it three years. The first year, it was terrible because I was still in school and I had another part time job. I would work from 8:30-3:30, then go to my other job from 4-8pm. Then, I would typically have class from 8:30-10:00 at night. I would get home by 10:30 and if I was lucky, I'd be asleep by 11, and do it all over again the next day. It was horrible. Keep in mind, too, that school requires work outside of class. So, it's not like I had the weekends to relax. It was just go go go. I became so anxious that I had to start taking medication to relax. I thought that I was having a heart attack one day, unable to breathe, but it was really just anxiety. So, I took that for a little while, and eventually, I felt better, my schedule leveled out, and I was able to come off of it. But, I enjoyed my job and my kids so much. Had it not been for everything else, I probably would have loved it more. The second time, I was working in after care, and it was completely different. There were no lessons and it was super boring. All I did was basically watch children play. No challenge, no stimulation. Then, the third time, I just got stuck with a horrible teacher. I guess I wasn't the only one because I heard from an old friend of her's that all her assistant's quit. That she was impossible to work with. That was the straw that led me to leave teaching. I quickly enrolled in a higher education master's program and started working in a university office. I've been working there for 9 months now. Honestly, though, this is not what I love to do. In addition, having a year round 8-5 schedule is not something I was use to. My goal now, is to get back into teaching and eventually, become a guidance counselor. But, I lack the confidence. And it's not because I don't have the credentials. I do. I just really lack confidence in so many areas of my life.
PROBLEM #2: I recently moved into my own house. I was very excited about this. My mom is single and lives with my grandparents. My uncle recently divorced his wife, and he and his daughter (my cousin) are living with my grandparents. My mom was given her own efficiency room (which I had been asking for since the time I was 19), and she refuses to stay there as a way to protest my uncle's staying there. She cries every day saying she wants to go home and wants her room back. But, she decided it would be more appropriate to stay with me. She now refuses to stay in the guest room. She sleeps in my bed. I have an efficiency in my home, which I rent out to tenants. So, I only have one bathroom right now, on my side of the house. She's made a complete mess. I never had my own room growing up. All I was excited about was getting my own room, then I got my own house, and she took over my room. I don't think I should have to move into my grandparent's efficiency and give my mom MY HOUSE just because she decided. I should be able to stay in MY HOUSE. She's the one that needs to go home.
PROBLEM #3: my mom controls my relationships like you wouldn't imagine. There's one I've had to keep a secret from her because she's threatened my safety. I have felt suicidal about this and couldn't shake the thought of escaping the prison she's put me in. I would never follow through with this. But, it's not an easy thing to live with. Ideally, I just want to leave this city. But, eventually, I will have to face her if I decide to continue this relationship. But, the fear eats me up alive every day.
All of these problems, I believe, are leading me to feel depressed. But, if they disappeared... if I suddenly felt more confident and happy in my career, if I was able to feel rested after a night' sleep, if I had my own bedroom, if my mom wasn't involved in my relationships, if I could date whoever I wanted at 25, if I could go out without my mom calling me 24/7 about when I was coming home... I think I would be happy. I look at people's pictures on Facebook and there's these 2 girls in particular that I know who are SO cheerful! I'm sure they have problems and I'm not naive enough to think they've got it all together. But, their cheerful. I can't even be cheerful. I'm constantly worried, afraid of my mom, and tired. My uncle took over her home and now she took over mine. I would leave the city sooner, but I'm still finishing my master's program.
So, do you think I'm depressed? That I actually need medication... or that these are circumstances causing me to feel this way? They will always try to get you to be on meds for "a little while" but, why should I have to put unwanted hormones into my body just because my aunt decided to leave my uncle? Because my mom decided to take over my house? It's just not fair. Why do I have to be medicated because of irresponsible people taking advantage of me? Taking pills isn't going to change the problem with my mom and the dating thing. It's not gonna take my mom out of the house. My mom watches TV in my room till 11 or 12. i have to be up by 6. So, yes, I'm tired! Why should i have to take pills because my mom won't let me sleep at 9:30/10:00? Or do you think this is deeper... and I need pills?
Thanks in advance
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Dear girl you need a through medical check up . for detailed discussion please contact me at doctorpirzada@yahoo.com
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Hello,
I'm 26 years old and I'm ready to have a baby. I have a master's degree in education and I have a great job. I'm financially stable right now. I own a house. I have the space, time, and resources to have a baby. I got my period when I was 9 years old. I don't know how long I'll be fertile enough to get pregnant. I'm ready to be a mom. But, I have some issues with relationships right now.
First of all, I have some issues with sex, overall. For the most part, I find sex to be very painful. It's not something I enjoy. I have been diagnosed with a condition called vaginismus, which means that my vagina pretty much rejects sex. It closes up when a penis is trying to enter. I find the idea of oral sex repulsive. I don't understand why anyone would want to stick someone else's genitals in their mouth. I don't mean to sound insulting to other people, as I know that pretty much everyone does it. But, I'm just trying to point out how disgusting I find it!
To be honest, I don't think anyone would want to marry me with these issues. Who would want to marry a girl who doesn't want to give them a blow job? I've thought about this for a while, and while I'm ready to give up the dream of getting married, I'm not ready to give up becoming a mom. It's what I've always wanted. But, without a partner to make babies with, I'm left with the option of adoption or a donor.
I am adopted. I'm very okay with adopting a child. But, it's extremely difficult, and as a single parent, it is even more difficult to adopt. It's actually nearly impossible. A lot of people think it's easy, but they are actually very misinformed. First of all, it costs a lot of money. My parents nearly paid $40,000 in legal fees to adopt me as an infant. As a single parent, that too would be a lot to pay in legal fees! Not to mention that single adopters are at the bottom of the waiting list. But, as an adoptee, I could relate to the child in ways that maybe other people could not. However, with the donor, I have some fears. I know that donors can father a maximum of 20 children or something like that. That's quite a bit of children. It seems like that would be traumatic for someone to know that they have 20 siblings out there and not know who they are. I know my biological family, so I don't have the issue of being afraid to marry someone I'm related to or something like that. It's a little different being adopted because even if you don't know who your siblings are, most people wouldn't assume they have 20.
My question is this. Have any of you used a donor? What is your experience like? How would you describe your child's feelings towards it?
Any information is helpful.
Thank you! Best!
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Dear
It is no problem and is totally curable . I am a doctor and a sexologist and have cures many such cases . If u r interested pl discuss ur matter with me at doctorpirzada@yahoo.com
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First off. Im 26 female. Full-time job. I have not had a significant other in 4 going on 5 years. My last guy left me very heartbroken. And kept reappearing in my life . which allowed him to fully move on but not me. Last august i started therapy for depression, loneyness, panic attacks and anxiety. On a good day, things are good and hopeful. On a bad day.. Im very unconfident. I feel like my friend's dont put any effort in to invite me to things, And i feel like i will always be alone.I am on 3 dating websites and it seems like no one wants me. Most of my friends are hooked up so they do not want to go out past 9pm or they dont want to go to events that i might meet people at.
I try to be strong. To be hopeful. But my some days my love keep being just that.. Somday. I know im missing that part of happiness. I just dont know how to be happy with being alone and not having friends or someone to share my life and different events with. Im almos to the point of love will never happen to me again. I had my chance and it failed. I also keep hearinf my brain say somepeople just dont get their happy endings. But i hate saying itbbecause it makes me realize just how sad i am. And theres nothing i can do about it. Does anyone have advice or things i can read to beleive. It hurts being alone. Its so quiet. :(:'( (link)
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dear where are you located i will guide you a nice solution
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Years ago when I was around the age of 13 going on 14, I was friends with this guy (he was 17). We both had a group of mutual friends, so we camped out one night. Me and him were in the same side of the tent, and he started kissing me, which I was okay with, and we did other stuff, which I was also okay with. Then he asked me if I was a virgin and, of course, I said yes because I was, and I wanted it to stay that way! I told him that I was, and he said ''we won't have sex then'' and I said ''okay''. A few seconds later he put it in anyway, and I had no idea what to do. It took me a while to realise what was happening (I was a virgin, I didn't know what sex felt like!), and when I did I started panicking, I had no idea what to do, I thought it was too late to tell him to stop. So we ended up having sex, and when we eventually finished, I cried myself to sleep, and the next day I rushed home as quick as possible, not telling anyone. And the very next day I felt so ashamed of myself that I did it again, I slept with him, again. I've been beating myself up about it and I take my virginity very seriously, before then I had a purity ring! I started to feel very depressed after that, and I tried to kill myself. Every time I think about it I cringe, panic and cry. How do I stop thinking about it? Did I lose my virginity to him or was he taking advantage of me? Please help!! (link)
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Dear Girl virginity is considered as an important rating of a girl as pious in some cultures. However it is not the sure sign of virginity since hymen can be torn or raptured by any means without undergoing vaginal sex Now regarding restoring this property of a virgin girl as a doctor i can guide you a shot medical way . If u are interested pl contact me at doctorpirzada@yahoo.com
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