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So I met this girl in school and I've known her now for a year, and I really like her but she has a boyfriend. Now I'm friends with her on Facebook and I looked at her boyfriend and he looks like a low life, degenerate, douchebag. And I've called this girl sweet names before like sweet heart and stuff like that and she said that's one thing she likes about me because her boyfriend doesn't call her sweet names and I would take time out of my day to talk to her when her boyfriend wouldn't even talk to her when he's watching TV. But I went on one of those sites where you can look up people's info from there email and username and I found out her boyfriend has been on dating site and I know they didn't meet on one because they met in school together. But I'm not sure how I should tell or even if I should tell her at all. I was going to do it anonomysly through a fake email, because she already knows I like her, so I didn't want to tell her straight out because I know how girls think and she will probably think I'm a nut job or a psycho to go that far to get dirt on him and I don't want her thinkin I did I to break them up so me and her could be together. So I need someones opinion on what I should do.
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She's 15
He's either 16-18 I don't know because he can drive and I'm not sure if he lied about his age on Facebook (link)
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I'll be honest, that's a pretty rough situation. If you knew for a fact that her boyfriend was cheating, I would advise that you find a way to tell her. Even if it damages your chances with her, which it may, she deserves to know, and as her friend you would be obliged to.
However, since you aren't certain, the risk of hurting the friendship (and your future prospects with her) seems a bit high. Even if you do it anonymously, she might figure it out, and at the very least would probably suspect you. I can understand that you don't want to just sit on the information and do nothing about it though. The only option that I can think of, if you really think she needs to know, would be to inform a mutual friend whom you trust and ask them to investigate it for you. If they share your suspicion about his activity on the dating site and think she should know, they can tell her and you don't have to be directly involved. Ideally, this person would be someone who is very close to you, but only loosely knows her. Otherwise, they may also be concerned about alienating her through the information. Hope this helps.
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