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Last Update: January 24, 2006
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Okay guys. I need help. I've been suffering from anorexia for about 3 months now. i've went from 140 to 105 in those months. my dad is starting to get suspishious. i need help. i hate anorexia, but i don't want it to go away. i don't know. help?! i rate highh, higher than the sky. haha. (link)
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What you need to do is start eating again, anorexia is not something good to have. It can cause death, and really bad depression. I think you should eat, but balance it out with excercise of course. Or you can go get help.
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This is probably going to sound pretty fucking wierd, but it bothers me.
Ok, Im dating this girl. Shes agnostic/athiest, Im christian, formerly catholic non denominational. Up to this point, with the exception of discussion, Ive not really had any issues with religions shit in our relationship. It doesnt bother me that shes agnostic, it hasnt bothered her that Im christian.
So, today we were talking, and I told her I was going to become a reverend in the universal life church. For those of you who dont know, its an online website where you can actually get legally ordained and become a reverend in the eyes of the law. I find this fucking hilarious, and have wanted to for a while, but never got around to it.
She reacted badly. First, she joked that she didnt want to be involved with a reverend. Then she got serious and basically made it clear that it would bother her for me to become a reverend while I was dating her (expressed so that it was clear she didnt want me to do it)
Then she tells me its "disrespectful towards my religion"
This is coming from a girl who Ive watched the jesus episodes of southpark with. Whom I have made catholic joke after catholic joke (Im entitled, I was raised in it) with and laughed with her. Whom I have had frank discussions about the real failings of certain christian sects.
And now this.
Needless to say, I reacted badly. I was, and am pissed at her, for reasons I cant really say. Given that she doesnt even have a religion (because atheism and agnosticism are no more religions than bald is a hair color) I dont see where she gets off getting on me for being "disrespecful" towards mine or having an issue with it when its not like...
Anyway. Enough impassioned speeches, my question to the masses, is what do you think. Am I out of line? Is she? Because Im going to do this, and shes not going to like it. And I dont like feeling guilty for doing things I know arent wrong. (link)
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I don't think your wrong, ...and I don't see how being agnostic is a religion, if she doesn't believe an anything, what gives her the right to jugde the people that do? Maybe I'm wrong, but why is she mad at you in the first place? Thats stupid. Thats my opinion.
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I think I have too many extra-curricular activities, and it's ruining my fun and my life. I might be overreacting a little, bit it feels that way to me.
Every single week, I have two clubs that meet on the same day, so I have to alternate and try to fix whatever I land on to make sense more. Just now was the final blow- My unimportant dress rehearsal for West Side Story where I have a semi-main part (not in every scene) is on the same day as our class field trip to Six Flags, and my mom is making me stay home to go to my rehearsal! I'm really upset and my parents are yelling at me to get out of my "stupid funk" but I just feel worse and worse because it feels like all my friends are going to have an awesome time except for me, who is going to be sitting at home and going to a stupid play rehearsal! I even tried talking to the director, but she said it was mandatory that I attend and if I don't there will be serious issues with the play running. I don't know if it's selfish to want to skip the rehearsal after what she said, but I feel so horrible about not going on our class trip. What do I do, and is there anything that will make me feel any better? (link)
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Make the best of the play, and do something even more fun afterwards. You got yourself into all of it you need to deal with it. I know how you feel trust me I'm a nerd, atleast you get to do all of those things. I would kill for a role in the west side story, or in any play in general even if it is a crappy part I'd take it and preform it to the fullest. I think you feel alittle bit overwhelmed with everything. NOT TO WORRY schools almost over and those clubs are going to vanish over the summer. and yeah sixflags is gonna be here..forever T_T =)
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I've been liking this guy at school. He's been giving me many compliments & flattering me lately. He's been asking to hook up in school several times and I really do want to, but when it comes down to it and we're finally alone in school, I freak out and stop myself. I've waited so long for that kind of moment with him too. We'd be perfect together but I'm just scared someone will see us, I'll look slutty and he won't respect me because we don't go out. Should I just finally do it or forget the kiss? (16/F) (link)
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Everything is within the moment. That could have been the beginning of something or the end. Whatever you felt at the moment is pretty much self explanatory. Don't care what other people say, trust me in the future noone really gives a damn because in the end the only thing that matters is if you can look in the mirror straight and say " I am happy ". Not alot of people can do that. Take your chances while they are still there=)
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Hi. I'm a fellow Advicenator. I have my own column, if you ask, I could leave you feedback with my username. Although I've always been good at advice...I feel lost right now. Maybe I do know the answer, but I just need to hear it from someone else.
For the past few years...Something hasn't been right with me. I'm tired of not fitting in, I'm tired of always needing to get good grades, I'm tired of people not telling me anything, tired of being ignored, hurt... I'm one of those 4.0+ GPA students. Friends would describe me as hyper. Heck, that's even part of my username. But all this time it's been a cover up of how I really feel. Crying by myself sometimes make me feel better, but time doesn't heal, like they say. Things get worse for me.
This year seemed to work out so well. Until last Friday I realized that this year has all been a lie. A friend told me about something my other friends have been hiding from me. I found out that the people I LOVED, my FRIENDS, were talking trash about my boyfriend and me.
They don't realize that WE HAVE ALL CHANGED. I know I have changed, and I accept that. I accept that they have changed as well. We all want our "old" friends back, but what can we do? I miss them, but I cannot change what has happened between us. My boyfriend has brightened up my life. I thought they would be happy for me. What's funny is THEY were the people that pressured me into saying YES to my boyfriend sooner than I expected. (I don't regret it at all.) I could have gone for months, not giving him an answer. "OMG, say yes already" "Oh, he's a nice guy" I remember lots of quotes, CLEARLY. And now, here they are, talking trash?
My REAL friends are supposed to be there for me. They're supposed to talk to me, even if it's something I don't want to hear. They need to at least try to see things my point of view, and NOT talk trash behind my back. They need to either talk to me about it or keep it to themselves and NOT spread around how I'm such a changed and horrible person.
The only person that is giving me the will to live is my boyfriend. I feel bad he has to see me like this. He tells me he knows how I feel, but he doesn't care because he has me. I'd like to say the same, but honestly, it hurts too much. I love him, but the pain won't go away.
I don't know what to do.
At first I wanted to like yell at my "friends" and go rawr! But then as these few days passed I just wanted to forget. But then I can't forget the pain... I see them every day. I think to myself, maybe if I forget, we can all pretend it never happened because I don't want to ruin things even more. But then I tell myself how could I pretend when something like this has happened? My brain goes back and forth...all the time.
I want to thank you for taking the time to read this. I apologize for the length...I really needed to get that out... Please...I need some wise words. (link)
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Its okay things come and go, I can relate. Atleast they didn't literally dump you when you created the group of friends yourself. Remember the future is bright and keep those grades up. I wish I could keep a 4.0 GPA, maybe because I built this wall against society. Don't worry about the people that never really cared for you because a few years from now it will just be a blurr. Drama is what happens in school, don't dwell on anything too long, and time does heal things if you let it.
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I have this friend, and i really like him more than a friend. But i dont know if he feels the same way about me. He talks to me sometimes, but out of school like at sport he usually talks to me. He is kind of rude, he calls me dumass (lol) and tells me to shutup. But he only said that once.
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- _ -;; hah awh chick he likes you I think from what I hear. If he is the flirtatious type than you should ask him, because well flirtatious people flirt with everyone. You should talk to him about it and see where it goes, he would proababley find you more attracting because you had the nuts to come and consult him. Guys like that for some odd reason =) oh and take your time don't rush things because men hate commitment...they get freaked easily 0_o
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I am 14/f and SUPER shy and I really like this guy and its not even that i know him or anything cause i havent said one word to him and i need a way to let him know that i like him without really saying "hey i like u"... uhmm.. i see him in skool at lunch and sometimes in the hallways and i dunno hes not even that cute or anything but somehow i am attracted to him and ive seen him looking at me and then he would turn away when i looked at him but im really not sure how to show that i am intersted in him :( please help...i am so desperate cause i really really like him. and if u have any advice slightly related to this please jus say it! thanks! i rate high! (link)
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awh! I know what you mean -_-; I get shy alot too, just start off a conversation. Just one day randomly say hi and take it from there. Remember to introduce yourself and stuff ^ _________^ because before you really start to like like him you need to know how hes like >''< try it! and if you get too shy just yell out hi! lol it works =)
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