Member Since: October 23, 2009
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I have been on and off with my husband for almost 9 years, we have been married for one of those 9. We have a child together, our own home, and a happy life for the most part. Recently, my husbands ex, of just a few months, has gotten in contact with me to tell me that he told her everything that he tells me now. That they were engaged and still together when him and I got back together this last time. I asked my husband about this but he swears up and down she is lying just to start problems. She told me he bought her a ring and everything, and that she broke it after she found out he was with me. My husband has been known to lie, but so has this girl. I am not really sure who to believe at this point. I am so hurt and confused. (link)
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Theres two things going on here: This other woman is just trying to get a reaction from you. She maybe hurt by your husband and doesn't want him to be happy or with anyone. She feels that if she tells you all of this you will doubt your husband and your relationship, which you are. This woman is not your friend, so why would she feel that it is important to tell you that your husband is a jerk? she doesn't!!! Your husband does not sound like an angel either, but you and him need seriously figure this out. In the end it's better to know now than 10 years from now. Last words: DON'T WORRY ABOUT THAT OTHER WOMAN!!!
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alright i really need your help...my friend was on and off with this guy for about 2 years.towards the end of their relationship she fell pregnant and decided to keep the baby. so once she gave birth to her baby boy the father visited the baby once in like 3 weeks.he doesnt have a job and isnt looking for one,he doesnt have a car to drive and has all these pending tickets from the police that he hasnt paid and cant afford to pay.all he does is drink and smoke dope.
anyway in the end after like a month of not seeing his son because he didnt have transport to get to her house they decided that once the baby was 6 weeks old (i think) she would take him to his father's place every sunday for aday.my friend soon regreted this because the father doesnt take care of the boy,he smokes around the baby and doesnt wash his hands after hes been smoking doesnt pay for baby's food and dipers etc like the mum doesnt think hes capable to be a good father figure for the son. she txted him today and told him that shes going to stop taking the baby to him( she didnt want her son growing up like his father) so now the father is txting her back saying that if he doesnt see the boy hes going to kill himself. the mum told me that he always talks like that when they argue(always says hell kill himself)just for attention. she asked me for advice and i told her to ignore the txt and not to txt back. she listen to me and didnt but then he txtd her again and said hes going to do it and wrote her a letter for her to read after hes killed himself.she txtd me and asked me what to do.i told her that if shes sure that she doesnt wnat her baby seeing the father then not to txt back because if she does the father will just try talk her into letin him see the baby etc. she put me in an awkward position and asked me if i was sure it was the right thing to do and i told her its what id do.now im just really scared he might kill himself.i dont want to get blammed for anything.what should i do?should she let him see the baby even though he doesnt have a job doesnt pay for anything because thats abit useless i rkon.what should i say to my friend??i dont wnat to be too late.would he actually kill himself??omg help!!!just anything tell me plz!!1 (link)
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Okay so I have several friends and people I know who have gone through this or are going through this, and bottum line until he becomes clean from the drugs and partying he shouldn't and will not be a good father to that baby. And usally people that say they are going to kill them selves general are looking for a reaction. Your Friend needs to leave him alone completely until he is clean and grows up. Also no bodies "tries" to kill them selves. If you really what it to happen you make it happen. This guy does not belong in your friends life and if she doesn't want your advice or help then let her learn for herself, because she will in the end anyway.
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OK... Here GOes... I meet this Guy... About three weeks ago... I really Liked him Fo a LONg time ANd... WE finally Exchanged Numbers... Anyway since we have been Talking... He have never paid me to much attention... He only answer his phone... when he wants to... And when I text him... He rarely text back... So Saturday nite we kinda hooked up sexually... I mean like orally so... And now I feel real bad... I did it to impress him... And he still is the same... I really can't live with myself for what I've done... And I feel real bad about it... I'm 24 And I'm a female... And for most of my life I've been in fail relationships... Domestic abuse...and I have a child but his father abandonded us when she was first born... I dont understand why I continue to let men treat me lke crap but yet... I do and no matter what I continue to choose men who treat me like nothing... I don't know what to do and righ now I can barely live with myself... Help me please (link)
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Your are giving yourself your own advice in this question. You keep letting yourself get hurt. You keep letting these men hurt you. People don't pick bad. unheathly relationships, they pick us and only because we let it happen. We see the signs and ignore them, we pretend it will get better and most of the time we think we can change the person. Leave him alone for awhile. No phone calls, texts or emails. Let him play the game with you a little and then you will know if he is the right one. Don't rush anything, especailly a man into a relationship, because it won't happen that way and you will save yourself the hurt in the end.
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I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months today, and it's just not the same. We both know things have changed. He told me he still loves me a lot, and i feel the same way about him, but we're bored. Nothing to do. I want to be with him so much, but it's just so frustrating and it hurts because he doesn't show me that he cares about me anymore the way he used to. I'm so tired of feeling so lost in our relationship, but I'm afraid of losing him. I love him and want to be with him, but I'm so tired of not feeling like he cares.
I've tried and tried talking to him about it and nothing really gets resolved, except that he still loves me.
Can anyone please help.
I really need any advice that can be given.
Thanks you. (link)
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Hello, well for starters you really shouldn't be say I love you after 10 months. The "L" word is a very strong word and gets used to easily these days. It labels the relationship this early on too. It makes both partners feel this need to be serious now and to not have fun anymore. Also How old are the both of you? and There is always a reason that someone in the relationship doesn't show interest anymore. Do you two live together?
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Im getting really stressed out because im 19 and i have not had a proper girlfriend yet. I think about it everyday. But the problem is im really nervous about meeting people (social phobia) and all the time im being reminded of the fact that everyone else my ag has gotten layed and i havnt kissed anyone properly yet.Also im not an ugly person but my clothing and haircut leave something to be desired.if i dont sort this out soon it might never happen. what should i do? (link)
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First of all I have a few questions for you: Where are you going and meeting people at? Do you go alone? and Why do you want a relationship at 19? If you feel your clothing and hair cut are out of date or are hurting you than those are easy fixes. If you suffer from soical phobia (which I don't think you do at 19) then at first don't go out alone.
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