I am doing the swim unit in school and boys and girls do it together. I was too scared to do it because I will be showing off my body to everyone then and girls seem to be vicious monsters that will humiliate anyone, so I asked my mother to write me a note so I can sit out. Now I just sit and watch but it seems no other boy is nervous about having to wear just trunks in front of all the girls, they look like they are all having fun, How are they able to do this?
Hey there,
Different people have different levels of confidence in themselves. I'm guessing you're in middle or high school, which is a time of growth and change in our bodies that can be quite frightening at times. However, some people handle it better than others. What I would guess is that the other boys in your class ARE nervous, too, but are hiding it better to feel macho and manly. It's perfectly ok to be shy about your body, but at some point you need to realize that your body is your body, and it's not going to go away. At some point you need to accept you for who you are. Or, if you really don't like your body (say you're overweight or something), there are things you can do to change it, like exercising or working out.
And yes, girls can be quite vicious at times, but they can also be the sweetest people, too. Remember, when someone makes fun of you, it's almost always so they can feel better about themselves. Find those people who like you for who you are, and stick to them as your friends. The others aren't worth your time.
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So I'm an Arab and a Muslim. I am not what you would think of when I said Arab. I wear shorts and am a blond with dark hazel eyes. I'm as pale as Snow White and have delicate arms but strong muscular legs(socce player) I am so tired of being judged for being an Arab or not covering up. Just today, I said I couldn't have pork because I am Muslim and asked for a salad instead( in the caf during lunch) and the girl wearing a scarf behind me said," you are not a Muslim. Cover your hair. Mabey then well accept you." And walked to her group of friends all wearing scarves. Last week a boy called me a terrorist and later thet week wrapped his jacket around his head ( imitating a scarf) and pretended he was bombing a building and said look I'm hannah!( I'm hannah) WHAT THE HECK! I am not accepted into either society. I have friends but it is still a stab in the back.i mean first off, no where in the Quaran does it say to cover your hair.it says to dress modestly ,which I do!! Islam is all about being kind to one another and to accept others. I wanna yell you're not Muslim! You are showing no acceptance! Now about the boy, Islam the actual word means peace. The people of the Taliban are not Muslim so don't connect me with them! I just feel like I am proving this to myself, am I right? Please don't judge Muslims or people in general. I just wanna say that the American Muslims are not all what you see on tv. We are regular people! We still celebrate Christmas to celebrate a prophets bday but we do not celebrate a gods or gods son bday on Christmas. We don't all look the same or talk the same. Just help me out and don't judge.
Hi Hannah,
In my opinion, you've got the right of it. People shouldn't judge you by the stereotypes they see on TV. That said, they're going to. It's an unfortunate truth that it is easier for people to conform to society's stereotypes than to try to fight them. As an Arab and a Muslim (even though you don't necessarily look like either), you're going to be discriminated against for much of your life. But trust me, it gets better.
I'm guessing you're in high school. Once you become older, you might find that people are more willing to look past stereotypes. High school is a time of growing and learning, and some kids become overwhelmed by all the changes, so find it easier to be like everyone else and act like people on TV act. However, once people begin to grow up, they realize that their stereotypes are unfounded and unfair. As you age, I hope you'll find friends who will accept you for WHO you are, not what you are.
Lastly, you have to ask yourself this: if these people are discriminating against you and being cruel, do you really want them for friends? Even the other Muslims at your school may not be good people to be around. I know it's hard, and feels lonely a lot of the time. I would suggest trying to strengthen the relationships with the friends you do have. They obviously like you for you, and those are the people you want to have around you.
Hope this helps!
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ok, so I'm 15 years old I know I'm young. But I started birth control for my pms but I want to start having sex. Part of me wants to wait for marriage but another part of me just really wants to do it. I really don't know what to do. I know the perfect guy to do it with but I don't know if I should. Can someone just help me I really don't know what to do.
Hey there,
Honestly, there isn't a right answer. Personally, I would advise against having sex at your age. It can wait. You have so much of your life left to live, and waiting for marriage is a great idea. Sex is an intimate, wonderful thing, and when that is paired with the emotions and feelings of healthy marriage, it makes the sex (and the marriage) that much better.
Either choice you make, you have to be prepared for what people will say. If you wait, like I have, people might think you're a prude, or weird, or not having sex because no one wants to have sex with you. If you choose to have sex, people might call you a slut or a whore. Honestly, I'd rather be called overly cautious than loose with my morals.
Finally, I know you think you've found "the perfect guy." I'm going to caution you now: most high school relationships don't last. People aren't done growing (emotionally, physically, or cognitively) until their early 20's. You'd be surprised at how much a person can change once they leave high school and go to college or enter the work force. And if you choose to have sex with your boy, remember that you probably won't be sharing that wonderful, new, once-in-a-lifetime experience with your husband, but rather with your high school crush.
Hope this helps!
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Hello,
So when people choose a new phone on here, which is the most important factor they pick from.
Please note this is not for commercial purposes, just research I am doing for a piece of writing.
Thanks, and if possible please only give one reason!
I think the most important factor to consider, especially in this age and day of smart phones, is what you truly want your cell phone to be able to do.
If you want a good mobile calender, E-mail capable, and app-heavy phone, get a smart phone.
If you just need a phone that makes calls and possibly texts, just get a cheaper, basic phone.
It all comes down to what you think you'll use it for.
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is m pregnant? my bf rub his penis on my... but he was in his underwear and me also
but i was wet and may b he also wet...
i am not getting my periods .. am i pregnant?i am worried
No, you are not pregnant. Your period will come. It's most likely just a little late. There is only a very very VERY small chance that you could ever become pregnant without actually having intercourse. As long as you both keep underwear on, you'll have nothing to worry about. And remember, if you two do decide to have sex, wear a condom. If he doesn't want to, he's not worth having sex with.
If you're still worried, you can always pick up a pregnancy test to be sure.
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So, I think I've been depressed for a while now.. the thing is I got used to being sad and down all the time.. nothing affects me anymore.. not even my long-distance boyfriend. I'm 16 year old female who does not feel anything anymore. I used to love my boyfriend so much, and now I don't know what happened.. it's not just with him its with every person I know.. even my best friends and my family.. they just annoy me.. I find no pleasure in anything anymore.. Sometimes I find myself happy with everything and I get my love back for him and everyone.. its just so frustrating.. my mother thinks its just because of hormonal changes in my teenage years.. but is it possible that I just dont love my beloved ones anymore? I feel crazy..
To me, it sounds like you hit the nail on the head in your first sentence: depression. Several symptoms of depression, which is incredibly common in your age and gender group, include loss of feelings, apathy, and anhedonia (lack of ability to take pleasure in things). Additionally, hormonal changes certainly can cause havoc in a teenager's life (I was there once, too!). I can imagine how the possible combination of hormones and depression would make you feel lost, so here's my two-fold advice:
Seek help. Don't feel like you're somehow weak or insufficient by going to a counselor. I have close personal friends who highly recommend counseling as a way to deal with day to day issues as well as something as serious as depression. Anti-depressants can completely change your life around and cognitive behavior therapy (the most common therapy treatment for depression) has been shown to work in most cases. Clinical depression isn't something to mess around with.
The second part of my advice is to fully open up to those that love you and you love yourself. Fighting this war will be so much easier with support at your back. It seems that you've open up to your mother a little already. Don't stop! You'd be surprised how much just talking about what you're feeling may help. Talk to your boyfriend, talk to your best friend, talk to your siblings (if you have any). They want to be there for you and help you. I know it seems scary to face this thing by yourself or even with help, but the first step is always the hardest. And know this: you are NEVER alone. Some studies have shown that roughly one in three adults has had depression at some point in their life. Find those people and learn how they overcame it. This isn't something you have to tackle alone.
Good luck, and remember that there is always something worth living for, if you look hard enough.
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I need any topic
Try picking something controversial to write about. Abortion, stem cell research, euthanasia are all excellent topics. However, if you pick one of these, don't be surprised if you step on a few toes!
Alternatively, if you want something a little more safe, try looking into alternative energy resources, such as solar or wind power as a topic.
Hope this helps!
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