hey advice seekers!
I'm a teenage girl who knows what it feels like to be alone. When it seems like there is no one to talk to. Well, if there is anything you need help with...im here for you! :)
Ask anything you want and I will try my very best to answer it to the best of my ability.
Hope that all your confusions are soon cleared and that you can be as happy as can be!
And my favourite quote:
Life is too short - laugh until you cry, cry until you realize it's not worth it and smile until your cheeks hurt!
xo. daddy's-lil-girl .ox
Gender: Female
Member Since: November 5, 2007
Answers: 2
Last Update: December 11, 2007
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Okay, I'm kind of confused in the middle. my boyfriend asked his parents to pick me up tomorrow so i can see him, since i don't get to see him that much. and something happened, he said his dad said "no" so my boyfriend started crying. then he texted his mom saying "I never thought i would say it but i hate my life now i never wanted to move I'm probably gonna loose my girlfriend soon cause of this you're the one that promised to take Mary to our house and back in the first place! and it may not seem like a big deal to you guys but it is to me!!! she's the only person that makes me smile if ya'll take that away from me I'll do something very drastic i promise.. you better not mention to this to dad." and he told me that his dad said that him seeing me is enough once a week, and that his mom back stabbed him, by dragging him out of his room into the living room and started yelling at him and saying that if i really did love him then i wouldn't leave him or anything. and that they might come to my house and tell my parents about us and then break us up. (my parents don't allow me to have a boyfriend especially my dad because I'm the daddy's girl). which kind of confuses me, because he says that his parents LOVE me... i mean LOVE me. then all the sudden his dad texts me, saying: "Mary, please try to help Adrian (he's depress) we can't understand why? if his relationship with you is affecting him then we need to take care AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, since we want the BEST for you guys, PLEASE don't forward this message to him, otherwise we will think you don't REALLY love him.... thank you for your understanding, Please respond." so then i was confused.. and his dad called me to tell me to help my boyfriend and stuff like that.. and that they have reasons why they can't take me and stuff like that. and i understood.. but i don't understand why all of this is happening. they say it's because my boyfriend(Adrian) is depressed about it.. and doesn't do anything besides sit in his room. then his mom texts me saying: "Please don't think that we are blaming this on you it's Adrian that don't understand that we can't take him to see you everyday and we had our reasons to move here. he will be able to see you more often i will get his driving permit on Friday so he can learn how to drive but i just need you guys to be more patient"
they told me to help him on school & etc.. but yet it's kind of hard to believe who and stuff.. help me please? how can i help him? and what is the right thing to do?
PLEASE & THANK YOU. (link)
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Alright. I see what's happening. So, your boyfriend moved away...but im guessing not that far away because if it was too far, than his parents wouldnt even consider driving. My suggestion is this: talk to him about how he is behaving. He seems he has really fallen for you because he is all depressed that he doesn't get to see you as often. Like he said "she is the only one who makes me smile". the best thing you could tell him...is to stay positive. Tell him he needs to look on the bright side of everything. That's the only way someone can learn to relax and take one step and day at a time. If you do love Adrian...tell him. If you do have strong feelings for him...tell him that you dont like it when he is depressed...that it makes you sad and you want him to be as happy as ever. You know what I do when my boyfriend has had a rough day and feels down? I write him a huge email. I have not written a single email that hasnt made him feel better. In your email, tell him how much you care...that things will get better BUT it's important to say positive. From experience, the more positive you think, the better you feel and the stronger you become. You can face harder things without getting too upset. Another suggestion would be...keep in contact with him. Check up on him daily (like asking "how was your day") If he is upset...try and get him to talk about it..then just comfort him. As for his parents asking you to help him with school..if you think you can help, go for it..but if you dont think it'll do much good...then tell them honestly that it might not be the greatest idea.
Okay, this also sounds like a long distance relationship. Im gunna tell you the truth, they dont always work out. I've had many friends get hurt because of their attempt at it. Some people do figure out something though =)
Adrian, seems to be emotionally crushed when you arent around. You are gunna have to tell him to relax more. That becoming all sad doesn't do anything...except hurt him.
And when you talk to him if he says anything like "but i miss you..i wanna see you noww!!" then just calmy say (or type, text, whatever) "you'll see me before you know it :) and we can hang out. im excited, i cant wait :)" ***the important thing is you keep sending him smiles. he'll eventually get the point that you are happy..and that should help him out***
Well, that's about all I can tell you. Good luck girl! I hope everything works out for you.
Keep positive..and smile as much as you can (as i always say "smile until your cheeks hurt!" :)
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Okay, please don't judge me for this or laugh, because I am totally serious. I am absorbed in the CW's new show "Gossip Girl". All I think about in my spare time is how when I go to high school (elite, private school) how much I want to be like the girls from Gossip Girl. I know this sounds really stupid, but I am obsessed with this. I know they do things like drink and have sex, which I KNOW is bad, but I feel like I just can't wait for their life. What's wrong with me? And please, haters, go away and scream at yourself for being stupid, but I don't want to hear it. (link)
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Okay, there is nothing wrong with you. So you can relax =). Okay, so I completely understand that you want the life of those girls on the t.v show, but you have to understand something. T.v is for your entertainment.it's not exactly real. Thing is, when I was your age, I actually thought the same way. There is so many movies and shows out there that are about high school. So far, I haven't come across one that is EXACTLY like high school. High school is a great place. But, you have to be smart. If you choose to really live like the "gossip girls" then that's your choice, but you are still really young, and you really need to consider the consequences. I don't want to sound like your mother or anything but trust me - even though im still in high school and i've seen my fair share of 'bad' decision making - you really have to watch what you do. Because as you get older - you'll see how much more your decisions have an affect on you. I'm just saying, be careful what you wish for. So, when you head to high school - promise me you won't jump into the 'gossip girl' life right away. Give yourself a little while to absorb what high school is like - hey, you might figure out a different kind of life you want. Just don't rush into things. BUT if you do go to high school and you still crave the 'gossip girl' life - then i guess no one can really stop you because it is your life. just remember to be smart! If you choose to drink -have plans (including back up plans - ways to get home..make sure they are safe), drink responsibly, and if you choose to have sex - have safe sex. Use protection - you've probably heard that a lot. Especially from teachers and maybe your parents...but seriously..you are WAY too young to have to deal with being a parent. I had a friend who though "oh- won't happen to me...whatever" ...turns out she got pregant. She died, eh? She was too young. I'm not trying to scare you or anything..but you deserve the truth! I know this is probably WAY more stuff than you were expecting, but I'm just telling you what i think. So out of all that... im gunna sum it up in a few sentences. *
Don't worry about being obsessed with the t.v show. It's normal..nothing wrong with you at all. I've had my fair share of obsessions over t.v shows :P
and also - if you wanna be like the gossip girls - that's your choice...but you are young.. so don't stress about it! relax..enjoy being a teenager! it's a crazy/fun/horrible/amazing experience.
And remember: don't jump right into the gossip girl life. and be smart!!!
*Good luck girl! enjoy life! and do whatever makes you happy and feels right!* =)
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