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Does anyone else in this world only reiceve 75 dollars a month in child support and this month I have only recieved 55 dollars. (link)
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Yes, one thing you do have to understand is that weather we like it or not its based on a number of things. How much the father makes, how much you make if your employed, if you have help from family members, if he has other children and what he has to pay them, and also if he has other living expenses. The courts wont make him pay more if he cant. If you and the father get along maybe you can talk to him about helping out more. Any other questions just ask. My ex and I work something out with eachother.
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thank you for your input, but the one major detail I'm sorry i left out is that there is a 50 percent chance that the child may not be mine. "A" believes it is mine. i figure who's knows more than she does about who was, and wasn't, there at the time. how do i handle the situation not knowing if the child is mine or not?! (link)
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Didnt really touch on the situation with "A". The best thing you can do is be supportive, while respecting the relationship with "B". "A" respect that. Even if you dont know if its your child there is a possibllity, you dont want to act like the child isnt yours and then miss out on important things that come up through out the pregnancy. Once the baby arrives you should get a dna test as soon as possible. You should figure out what you want once you do that everything else should fall into place.
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hey I have recently become the center of a huge problem. I have been in a relationship with a girl for seven years, we have a two year old daughter, and have had ups and downs, we will call her "B". also there is this friend of mine, a girl, whom Ive known for 10 years and is one of my closest friends, we will call her "A". One day 5 years ago "A" and "B" meet and become best friends,almost like sisters, closer than I am to either of them, and it stayed that way for 5 years. in 2007 "B" cheated on me for three months with an ex of hers, "A" was by her side the whole time. it blew over, I got over it, we settled back into our life again. things go back to normal, until six months ago, me and "B" were going through a tough time again, nothing major. but through the arguing me and "A" became very close again. I start spending more time with "A". showing less and less attention to "B". Me and "A" flirt, play, talk, laugh, and then, we tell each other how we feel about one another. I like her, she likes me. so we talk about my girlfriend; (her best friend), and what we should do. We don't want to be together, but there are feelings that haven't been addressed through out the friendship. We realize if we continue on this way someday soon a line will be crossed, don't know when, don't know how, just "something is going to happen". Still, we both decide to ignore it, and someday came about a week later... i went to her house one night and spent the night... nothing happened really, kiss, hug, touch, all behind my girlfriend's(her best friend)back. we decide it was a one time thing, it will never happen again. month later, it did...And then a week later, and then a few days later, and then every day, taking it further and further, until.. we had sex in February 2011. I then kept going to her house regularly through out February in to March, lying the whole time, too "B"s face. "A" lied too, saying anything to hide what we were doing, at this point it was like living a double life me and "A" were "together" when not around everyone and in public or around "B" and just friends. I couldn't take it anymore. I told be I'm breaking up and doing things on my own. I moved in with "A" and we were pretty much an unofficial couple. That lasted a month. April first I moved back home because "B" and "A"s ex decided two can play the game and were fooling around. me and "A" couldn't deal and put a stop to it. so I'm back home trying to mend the scar i have torn into "B"s heart all while she is hating me and her best friend for doing this to her. things are getting better, a month goes by. i have stopped talking to "A" at this point, and "B" and I are good. I receive a call from "A" hailing good news and bad news.. Good news, she a very healthy 21 yr old young woman. Bad news, I'm gunna have another little baby... yes, she is six weeks pregnant. "B" was listing to the convo because I assumed I had nothing to hide. So yet another scar cut open, not only did i cheat on "B" with her best friend, and leave her to be with said best friend. Now I am having a baby with her to. which brings us to the present, Me and "B" are still together trying to work things out at home for our daughter. I rarely talk to "A", who is now five months along. I did go to the first ultra sound about a week ago but we have no other communication other wise. things are tense at home and i am having trouble figuring out the right thing to do, about everything "A", "B", babies, I just don't know anymore, it all just seems like a bad episode of jerry springer. there are way more details if you need them, but can anyone give me advice on what to do next??? (link)
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First I think you need to figure out what you want. Do you really want to be with "B" and does she really want to be with you? Or are you together because of the child. If so you two shouldnt stay together just bc you have a child. If you do decide that you want to be with "B" then both of you need to forgive and forget and start over. I understand "B" is hurt and yes you have a baby on the way but she isnt completely without fault in the relationship either. Start there Any other question feel free 2 ask.
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So, a few weeks ago I met this guy and we clicked from the very beginning. Mentally more than anything honestly. We decided to kinda jump the gun and be with each other, so we would purely be one another's. One weekend a couple of my friends and I went to his place after a bbq to drink and hangout. To summon it up,later in the night, I left to go get smokes and what not down at the 711 and when I got back..one of my friends was sitting on the bed with him and she kinda shot up once I had entered.
I went outside and she followed me, stating that my boy tried kissing her. At that moment I left in a drunken rage, passed out somewhere for a bit, and came back to his place to see him passed out with beer all over his bed. I finally got him to wake up and we talked the rest of the night/morning. He admitted he has a past with cheating and couldn't believe he already fucked up with me. He cried a lot, explained some. I told him in the end he has to prove himself to me, to show I can trust him. I'm giving him a second chance because I've done wrong in the past too when I was drunk, and I never got a second chance. Him having a history is what puts me off, but supposedly "I'm the one who he wants to change for".
After all that, a week or so later he introduced me to a bunch of his friends, including a lot of his family, which meant a lot, seeing how he's actually a very family orientated guy. He also cut back on the drinking for me, like he said he would, since he knows alcohol just doesn't mix well with him, at least too much.
And now, he's out with his family again for 6 days, he took the time off since his mother is visiting from out of state for two weeks. I haven't really heard from him the last two days, and the last day we spoke he was a bit short with me to an extent, he didn't even get back to the last two texts I had sent him.
There's a lot more to be said, but I've already said a lot, I think this guy has a good heart really, or maybe I'm a fool. My mind is spinning, I'm just so tired of head games and heart ache. I need some advice, please.
-Jess (link)
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In my experience once a cheater always a cheater. If he really does care for you and wants to make it work he will put forth an effort to show you, which it sounds like he has. But if he truly does have a problem with cheating he will do it again. Not to say he doesn't care for you, want to be with you, or that it will have anything to do with you at all but he will still do it. Since the relationship is new you can give him a chance, but if there are any further issues I would move on. Hope this helps.
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