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Hello, world! My name is Angel C. Williams and I am the author of "Love--and such things". Currently, I am working on a new book called "All roads lead to God, anyway" which will be available at the end of the summer. I am originally from Philadelphia, PA, but have been enjoying the great state of Texas for the past five years. Although my passion has always been writing, I have longed to offer advice in love, life and anything resembling a relationship--and now I'm going to do it. No subject is too wild and out of control for me to handle because I've heard it all. So, ask me your questions on love, sex, family or friends and I promise to give you "nothing but the God's honest truth"!
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Location: Killeen, TX
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Age: 29
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Ive met this great man and we get along in all aspects, but from the start he has said hes not sure about a relationship because of his past. Hes been so hurt and has built this huge wall around him. I have made it clear from the beginning that i do want a relationship. Who doesnt want to be loved as long as its with the right person? He has just recently figured out that i have started having feelings for him and it scares him. Now im scared of how honest to be with him about it because i dont want to lose him from my life, hes also a great friend. On the other hand i wish there was something i could do to get him to see how great we would be in a relationship. Help me, ive been seriously hurt in the past as well and i dont like this feeling i have in my stomach. What should i do? I am 33 years old and hes 36 and we both have children from previous relationships.
Don't press a relationship no matter how great the guy is. When men with "bad breakup baggage" tell you that they're not ready for another relationship, they're not feeding you some full of crap line--they're really not ready to open their heart again. You may be the best thing in his life as far as giving him the tenderness and understanding he probably didn't get from his last relationship and that's wonderful, but wait for him to reach out to you. The moment he realizes that he can't live without you will come in time as long as you don't push the issue of relationship (or even marriage, if you feel that strongly about him) The best thing for you both is to just go slow. Try going slow. I mean, let's-be-friends-before-lovers kind of slow. Embrace the fact that friendship will be the very thing that will make this man see that what happened in his past won't happen with you in the future. Trust me on this and give yourselves time to establish a foundation of trust, honesty and unquestionable friendship--and then watch how he warms up to the idea of being in an official relationship with you.
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if your best friend told you that they like you and they are the same sex as you. will you stay friends? or not? please explain.
if they ask you this question "why did you seem okay when i told you how i felt about you?" meaning when the best friend told you how they care and love you more than a friend, why didnt you responed to it. do you like me back or afriad to tell me you hated it when i told you?
this happen to me, i told my best friend that i like like her. she didnt responed to it but very surpized. this happen 3 years ago. now i cant stop thinking about the talk. why didnt she answer my question when i send her the note that read:"why did you seem alright when i told you how i felt?"
i was expecting for her to not talk to me or not be my friend, and stop being close too. but till now till this day she is still my friend and we are close too. (but not in that way)
Someone's sexual orientation should not be an issue if you're dealing with a true friend. I think your friend is very open-minded see you for who you are and who you've always been: a true friend. Three years of friendship will not be thrown out the door because you confess a deeper fondness for her--and I think that's beautiful. As for myself in a situation like this, I've been there. I've had several friends that made that same confession and it never made one difference to me. I mean, honestly, some people feel that the moment something like that happens you should withdraw your friendship immediately and run for cover. Ridiculous! The mere fact that when you told her and she didn't flip out and act crazy means she has a certain amount of trust in you and in your friendship. Kudos to both of you!
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Hi I am Renee and my hubby Ray is working this job and he says it is for a better life for us but he is never home and when he is home all we do is argue, well he has cheated in the past so you know that runs in the back of my mind all the time but I took him back because I believe in my vows and it was great. Well now he works with this girl that is around all the time, and he comes home all hours of the night. My question is how do I make things right between us and get my point across with out fighting and make him understand me? I love him and I think I can trust him but I don't know how much. Please help me and tell me what I can do?
Don't argue. Don't dwell on the past, because it will only put you in that mindset of depression and disbelief (drepression because he cheated and disbelief that you're still married, trying to pick up the pieces.) You have to plan what you're going do about your marriage very carefully so that neither one of you does anything to further damage your relationship. Here's what I suggest: Don't stay up at night to argue with him when he gets home. If he comes in way past dinner time, make sure that you're in bed getting a good night's rest. Fatigue and anger serves to start an arguement and drain your energy once it's over. You don't need that. Get up an hour or so earlier than him so you can unplug the phone, hide his car keys or fix him his favorite treat/meal and run a bubble bath. Yes, a bubble bath. Tell him that you want to do something nice for him since he works so hard and offer to scrub his troubles away in the tub. (It's called catering to a man's ego to get what you want.) And what you want is to talk to him about your future together. Be smooth. Don't open up with "I think we need to talk about last night...or five moths ago..." because every man sees it as a negative and will put their guard up in preparation for a fight. Instead, ask him what he generally wants out of life. (bathe him and talk at the same time.) Allow him to talk about his hopes and dreams, all the while you're politely inserting some of your hopes and dreams. This is an opening exercise for the real talk that you want to have with him. Spoon-feed him understanding and sensitivity when you get around to asking him to stay at home so you can work on your dreams together and watch the man open up to you like Oprah. But remember to be smooth. If you had just taken the keys and refused to let him out of the house unless you guys "talked about it", then it probably would have given him a reason to go out and get drunk or do something equally stupid. Make one of his days off a day just for the two of you and remind him (and yourself) of a time when the loving came easier than the arguements did. The whole point of this is to have your own kind of inexpensive theraphy. Try to do things like this as much as possible and I promise you that the late nights will eventually stop and that girl will be nothing more than a distant memory.
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