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Out of curiosity...
Are there any females or males who would get mad if their significant other were playing online games (like W.o.W. or S.U.N.)and flirting with people on it? What would you do? How would you handle it? Etc. Thanks!
It depends on the type of person you are: if you're really jealous or have trust issues, or if you're really confident in your realtionship with your significant other.
Online games are nothing to be worried about. Your significant other is probably just having a little fun & means no harm by it. If he/she is hiding it from you..then maybe you should talk about it. Otherwise, be confident in your relationship & trust each other.
15/f
I love my ex-boyfriend because he was and is still one of my most important friends. My other close friend, my current boyfriend, and I both love each other very much although he's cold and not open with his feelings very often. (he loves me and says it but never directly) He tries his best and I really appreciate him for it.
My ex attempted suicide a little less than three weeks ago by overdosing on tylenol became very close to needing a liver transplant. It scared the shit out of me. Since then, understandably, he's been an emotional wreck and has placed a lot of pressure on his friends. Almost all of us have left him for himself except for me and one other person in our group.
I love him and care for him a lot as a friend but last night I told him that I wouldn't see him anymore because I was only making anything worse. He's delusional and thinks he's in love with me and threatens to kill himself. I can't handle it and have been struggling to sort out my obligations to him as a friend. I really only want what's best for him and for him to get better so I came to the conclusion that me leaving him alone for the time being was for the best. He's leaving for a mental hospital type of place for the rest of the year after this weekend.
I love both my ex and my current boyfriend very much and care a lot for each of them and they've both gone now. My boyfriends left on a trip for the rest of the summer and I'm probably never going to be able to see my close friend/ex again.
I have abandonment issues and am a very touchy person and feel as if I'm going through some type of withdrawal from living without the presence of my friends. I don't live at home for the majority of the year and don't have much of a family at home. My friends are my family.
We each have emotional issues we've needed to work through. We've all been suicidal, and we've all repressed emotional issues we need to sort out.
My problem is that i'm missing them and I don't know how to handle any of this situation at all. I've no one to talk to at home and all my friends who would be there for me are gone or about to kill themselves or just as unstable as I am. I feel alone and worn out and completely....jaded. I've no idea what i expect from posting this because there's no real question here but, i suppose...i'm not sure if it's an affirmation or answer or anything. I've just no one to go to.
so, yes. I'm apologize for the lengthiness of this and would really appreciate some advise.
thanks
It appears as if you've got a lot of weight on your shoulders, trying to solve your problems and other people's problems all at once. It's nice to help others, but not at the cost of your sanity.
You did all that you could for you ex, now let the hospital help him. He will get better and then you can go see him. You should go see him seeing as you care a lot for him.
I know how it feels to not have anyone to talk to. Everyone runs to you for advice but you have no one to go to yourself. It's as if there are people around you to talk to but you feel like they can't help you or that they might judge you for the way you are feeling. Go buy a small book and write. That's what I do. I write poems to express my feelings since I do not have anyone else to run to. It's safe and no one can judge you.
As for your need to be with people, why don't you call up a friend who is available this summer spend time with him/her? You don't have to talk about how your feeling or anything, just chill, go out for ice cream or a bike ride to get your mind off stuff. He/she might not be your closest friend, but who knows, maybe you can make a new close friend. I understand it's hard to trust people sometimes, but it really does take time. Just open your heart to the possibilty that there might be someone out there who can listen to you and/or someone who you can just waste time with this summer.
There is always an answer for everything. You can't always find it in books or hear it from others. Sometimes you just have to look within yourself.
If you still need to talk, you can always write back to me.
so there is this guy. we were cool and everything. he showed interest in me. like he would look at me all the time and turn around quickly. we would look at each other. he would get into my conversations. and so i started showing interest in him back. but then i guess he figured out i liked him because he told my friends. and one of my friend was like i kinda think she does like u and he was like yeah i think so too. well when i talk to him he would just look at me and dont say anything back. but then he will talk to me sometimes and its okay but if i say something its like he is ignoring me. so im like confused. he is like younger than me and he doesnt date alot so maybe thats probably but its not like i was trying to date him. i dont know im just confused
It's alright to be confused, guys tend to do that to girls. But look at it this way: the word is out. He knows you like him and it shows. He is probably just as confused & doesn't know what to do. He might not know what he wants and is afraid of hurting you if he leads you on & then changes his mind.
Just give him his time. Let him figure it out. Maybe you should initate less conversation with him and wait for him to come to you. If he does, then you know he likes you, even if it's just as a friend.
If he doesn't come to you at all, then forget about him, there are a lot of other guys out there.
16/f iv only had two true to be boyfriends, one for a year n a half, the other for two months. The thing is though my two best girl friends tell me im to much of a flirt and even a bit of a tease.
they say i seem like it by how i talk even posture, and i have mainly guy friends. i dont do anything with guys other than if their my boyfriend, i dont even give hugs really other than my best guy friend which means nothing. i dont notice i do any of this, yes i do flirt but not to every guy and i dont think im a tease. iv grown up being the only girl in my family n relatives. i dont dress very showy and im not even a girly girl i am who i am not how anyone wants me to be. a few guys do like me but i wana stay single, both exs cheated on me.
what do i do about this? do you think im a tease? is it bad to be a flirt if i am? any ideas i dont want to even be thought of as a tease. i dont tease
Hey dear, I'm not that much older than you and I'm in the same position as you. You should do whatever makes you happy (and I know you don't need me to tell you that).
Now, your best friends are looking at you from an objective pov, so they might be right by saying you're a flirt, and you just don't notice it. Flirtiness is a part of the teenage life! Especially for single ladies like us. I do it for the fun of it, but I try not to tease if I'm not looking for anything serious with a guy who likes me, because then that's just cruel.
It doesn't matter what people think of you, as long as the guys you flirt with don't have a problem with it, then you're good to go girl :)
So I have this friend and I really do still like him but he has feelings for someone else and thinks i don't have feelings for him anymore. I don't want this to be complicated and I really want to just move on because I love having him as a friend and he is the best one I have ever had.... how do I get over him fast....... ! I am desperate.
Feelings can be very complicated to deal with. But it's always best to follow what your heart tells you.
Take a step back & figure out if you really would like to move on. If it's your time to move on, you'll know. Don't just move on because of complications. Don't lose your chance because he's interested in someone else.
But, if you really feel like moving on is the right choice, then it will take time. It will hurt to see him with another girl, at first, but your heart will heal over time, i promise.
Maybe you should start looking for another guy. Keep your eye opened, because there are other great guys out there, who just might have an eye on you.
Good luck.