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Alright well about 5 months ago my ex boyfriend who was my boyfriend at the time cheated on me. We had been together on and off for two years, but for distance reasons. He left me for the girl he cheated on me with and I was hurt really bad. Well things didn't work out with the two and they split. He came running back. The only problem is I moved to another state right afterwards. I couldn't stand living there and being around that, I knew it wouldn't go for a good recovery. He wants me to move back and move in with him. The problem is I've met this guy here and I really like him. He treats me really good and he really likes me. I've been lying to my ex and tellin him that I haven't been seeing anyone because I don't know what to do. I love my ex more than anything but I'm scared to make such a big move and then he treat me bad again. Because he wasn't all together the best boyfriend in the first place. He had asked me at one point if I had slept with anyone else and I told him yes and he freaked and started crying and everything. I just don't know what to do because I don't want to let him go but I don't want to let this new guy go either. And hurting either of them is going to hurt me. I'm tired of lying to my ex. Any suggestions as how to handle this situation?

Okay. This is really a no-brainer. You want to keep this new guy. If you keep crawling back to your ex, then accept the fact that you will keep getting your heart broken. The reason I say this is because he will probably cheat on you again but will be more secretive about it to the point you won't find out until someone tells you he is cheating. Now think about it, is it really worth playing the fool for? Of course not. Sure you loved him, but 'loved' is past tense. That's why he is called your ex, the relationship could never work out and it most likely never will. Trust me, I'm a guy who hangs around with other guys. I know what they do. I'm not the kind of guy that believes in chearing and I don't believe in being the fool either. The last thing I will say to you is this, you need to cut those strings from that puppetmaster (your ex) in order to be free from his control over you. THE END

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