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I've been friends with this boy for almost 4 months. Its got complictated to the point where he tells me he loves me and we talked all the time on the phone and through texts and everything and we were both really close. Suddenly, about a month ago he says he wanted a break, not just from me, but from everyone he said. I told him that he could cause i just wanted everything to be back to normal but he ended up not taking the break because he said that "he couldnt not talk to me", upon hearing this i got extremly happy. But, ever since this time things have not been the same. I havent talked to him on the phone like we used to and he doesnt really text me at all...I usually text him in the morning to say good morning and we will talk a little before school and usually he would text me after he was done school because his school got out later than me. He stopped doing that so i just text him before bed to say goodnight and he will say goodnight i love you.
My brother just left for afghanistan during the midst of all this and he knows ive been upset and he would usually call me and make it better but he stopped doing that and ive tried to ask him if something was wrong but he always says that nothing has changed between us when obvisously something has.
My question now is should i try to keep talking to him about it or is this the point at which i say its over?
Help please, I'm really confused. I dont want to lose him but its really making me upset
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I would say talk to him
Now this may seem bad, but the relationship seems to be going down, and unless you talk to him about it, you're going to break up anyway.
So give it a try with the talking. Because this relationship seem like it could be saved, however it's not going to have a chance if you just suck up your feelings and deal with it within yourself.
Best Of Luck, TheseFewPresidents
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I am an 18 year old male and I have been a pretty emotionally dead person for...well since my early childhood. And when I say dead I don't mean depressed or really down or anything of that nature. It's nearly impossible for me to feel anything genuine and I can only put a mask of fakeness on so I don't seem so far out. When I was in a psychology class I read about something called anti-social personality disorder and it almost disturbed me how similar the symptoms were to my own character. I've done enough to put myself away for the better half of my life and I haven't felt a shred of remorse or conscience. Anyways, I'm wondering if my lack of emotion is a cause of concern. Nothing brings me joy, pain, or sorrow and I can't even feel love for my own family anymore. NOTHING will make me feel anything and it bothers me. All I feel like is a body and a brain without a soul. Something is wrong with me but I don't know what. I'm a very intelligent person and all it seems I can do is succeed with material things like work while my relationships are built on false pretenses and emotions I never even felt but acted like I did. My question is: If there is anybody somewhat educated about this...what could be wrong with me? Do I have anti-social personality disorder?...and am I stuck with this? (link)
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I think what Nick has said pretty much sums up what we're thinking. I suffer (well that's not the word, but you know) too. I just wanted to explain myself and then add a point, and hopefully get a response. Now from what I hear, my part hasn't gotten as bad as Nick yet, however I've gotten worse. It started when i was around 8. And it eventually got worse, but I realised that I had to conform to avoid being found out because i knew I was wrong in some way, so I sat back and learned a bit. Well I've come a way from going through the trying to feel phase, like Nick said, haha well I should have really understood not to do stuff in public as well, I cut my arm up with scissors in 6th grade, and tried to feel the emotional side of pain for a while. But there was nothing, all it was was a logical point that it's just nerve cells firing.
Has anyone else had violent thoughts of a morbid sort? I think I might be a lower functioning, as I still have a violent tendency, however I keep it under control. Also has anyone had episodes? I've felt emotions in little bits, but often when I get excited as I'm feeling an emotion, it goes away as soon as I realise pretty much. However contrary to Nick I get adrenaline rushes when.... those who are experienced adn accustomed to suprises I would say, got a rush.
However the main question I would like to ask anyone who looks and has AntiSocial Personality disorder, do you feel emotions rarely from music? I sometimes catch a song, and only a new song, after a few listens the vaguest hint of emotions goes away, but I still feel a little bit depending on the song. When my grandfather died when I was 10, but after that, It felt like I wore out my emotions, as in, my aunt died 6 weeks after and I wasnt sad or felt any grief. And just recently my other grandfather died, and tehre was nothing.
Anyway, that's me, signed up just for this discussion I found, but cheers :)
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