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Member Since: February 13, 2007
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well, i didnt kno what category to use. so yeaa. anyways... this is going to be long and confusing...

so my life is basically retarded right now. i dont have many friends. i mean i do, but none of them are really close, cos people tend to cause drama and screw me over, and i got sick of it, so i pretty much pushed everyone away. when i first meet people, im really shy and i usually dont talk much. i also suck at opening up, even though i want to, i just kinda.. cant. i have one really close friend, and shes not even that close. her mom is really strict and i only see her at school usually. outside of school, i never have anyone to hang out with accept my older friends, but sometimes i feel like im a pain in the butt to them. cos i cant drive and i always need a ride, and i barely talk to them. we dont know much about each other, we just hang out. its weird. i love being out with them though, everything feels better. i hate being at home. my parents always give me shit. they expect me to get straight a's or a+'s, and they give me so much responsibility. then, it soccer, they expect me to be a star player. but i cant, im not that great. they always yell at me when i dont live up to their expectations. they dont know anything about my life either. one time, my dad was asking me about drinking. i told him i dont do it and that i would never do it. he told me i wasnt fun, which was weird. truth is, ive been drinking since i was 12, and ive smoked, both cigs and weed. it makes me feel kinda guilty when they compare me to my sister and say how shes so bad, yet im so good and obediant and stuff. with guys, its been shit. ive had two boyfriends, neither of which lasted very long. im more of a tomboy, and im the youngest of all my friends that i hang out with outside of school, who are all boys, pretty much. theyre all either seniors or older, except for 2 or 3 of them, and im a freshman. there was also this guy that ive liked since i started talking to him in the beginning of the year. he kissed me, but told me it was just spur of the moment. then we didnt talk for a while. after about two or three months of little contact, hung out again and he kissed me and.. we had sex. it was a mistake, but i dont regret things.. so i guess its not really a regret. now we stopped talking so much again. i also like one of my senior friends, but hes.. well, i dont know whats up with him. hes a real gentleman, so hes never really like "dayumn, shes hot" i only heard him talk like that once, and it was just me, him, and two other guys, and they were saying they would fuck one of the teachers at our school for an a. he was just like, "oh yea, me too" but kinda in a quiet "not really" way. theres one other friend i have, and hes.. well, i feel kinda close with him. like, i feel like almost like siblings, or maybe just like best friends. but yea, i dont want to get attached to him because hes so bad. he goes to juvi school and is in gangs and stuff. well anyways. in school i always use to get good grades and never get in trouble. this year, my grades have dropped a little, and i have already gotten 3 referrals. ive been ditching and stuff too, which i know i shouldnt but.. i did. i want to go somewhere far away but i cant. my parents are giving me so much responsibility, they want me to like, save all third world countries. seriously. i dont. i want travel. my parents dont know any of my friends. not my guy frinds anyways. she thinks im always hanging out with my "nerdy friend" amanda, but im always with my guys.

sorry, this jumped all over the place. anyways, i just wanted to know your perspectives on my life and what i should do and stuff. i know i do bad things and hang out with bad people, but i dont want to stop hanging out with them. them make me happy. so i just want to hear what you guys think of this and stuff... (link)
I cant think of anything really good to say, tbh... but i'd just like you to know you're not alone. I saw myself in alot of that. We'll get through it. Just keep your head up and try and live day like its your last. Don't let anyone get you down


Okay well the last time I had sex was 7 months ago (it was also my first time). Since that time my period hasn't come. I know I'm not pregnant because my belly hasn't grown and I don't think I've had any pregnancy smptoms. My question is "Why hasn't my period came?" (link)
i'd get it checked out. Thats really not normal.


When i have sex i feel like i have to poop. and its normal sex. i think maybe when it hits my cervix it makes it feel like it but how can i get rid of that or is this normal? (link)
I think thats fairly normal. Just relax more cause by worrying about ti you will probably notice it more.
When you have sex is it hard or rough? Try doin git softer, you might feel the difference.


me and my bf broke up like a week ago. i broke up with him actually because things were getting really serous and i never liked him in the first place. i liked that he liked me and he liked that i liked him. well wehenever we could hang out i wouldent be so into him but afterwards when i was thinking about it i did like him so basically i liked the idea of him. 2 days after we broke up he asked out my bestest friend. she asked me if it was okay. me and her are 100% truthful with eachother and i really was okay with it so i said it was fine. he was what youd call a "good boyfriend" who never forgot to call me back and whatever. now whenever i see them dancing at partys or whatever it kinda hurts because i knew 2 weeks ago that was me. i dont want him and i dont mind him not liking me, i just dont want him to like anyone else. how do i get over this? most of the time im good just being with my friends but somtimes it really gets me. its kind of bringing down my self confidence and i hate it because i used to think i was the hottest thing ever. if your gonna be mean about any of this please dont answer. thank you (link)
I know the feeling. I went out with a lad once and i was never into him as much as he was me.
As soon as i dumped him i kinda regretted it.
That was 2 years ago, and even to this day I get a bit jealous when i see him with another girl.
It'll get easier, in time. Just try not to spend so much time with them when they're together.
keep in touch with him aswell, me and my ex did and now we're so close we're like brother and sister.
Hope it goes well for you xxx




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