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I'm always getting angry at the little things and I don't know why. I try to keep calm, and it's at my closest friends. Well, they don't feel close anymore to me atleast because I feel like they're just there I guess. What should I do?

(Answer:) It sounds like you are describing anger issues. How one overcomes them is by identifying why you are feeling angry. What is the cause of this anger? Find that, then remove the cause, or remove yourself from that cause.
One good method is to vent. Go off by yourself and then list your problems. Deep down you know what's bothering you. You just need to bring it out.
If you can't identify the problem by looking inward on your own, I would suggest seeking the help of a trained professional. There's nothing wrong with going to see a psychiatrist and working on your problems. In fact its better in the long run to admit you need help, then to try to do it all on your own, if you don't know where to start. Often times we need someone to point us in the right direction.

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okay. i know alot of people say that being a homoselual is a sin. or in proper terms an abomination. Im gay and i would like to have a relationship with god and christ. but could i really have salvation, being what i am. I dont know because i hear reverends from both the liberal and conservative christian faiths give their " biblical facts" and i just dont know. any help will be great, thanks. :)

(Answer:) If one believes in the bible then one must by definition believe what it says. The bible does use the word Abomination in Leviticus when it talks about Homosexuality.

Lev 18:22-23 "You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination."

There are other verses both in the Old and New testaments on the subject of homosexuality.

1 Cor 6:9
1 Tim 1:9-10
Rom 1:26-27

So in a biblical context Homosexuality is a sin, but remember murder, adultery, premarital sex, kidnapping, lying and idolatry, are also sins.
The bible says "All have sinned."

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If I am over-weight and know that being overweight is bad for my health is eating chocolate suicide? If I smoke is smoking suicide? Why is this different that shooting myself? Where does it say in the bible don't kill yourself? I don't know the bible but I don't think God ever dealt with suicide.

I don't like my life, or myself and want out. I have a long list of why but it really doesn't matter. I think living is hell and death is peace.

(Answer:)
The definition of suicide is:
1. The intentional taking of one's own life.
2. The murder of one's self.

The Bible Does say in the commandments,"Thou shalt not kill." Other translations say "Thou shall not commit murder."

So you say, "What about Murderers then. Does it mean all Murderers go to hell?"

The answer to that in the bible is, not if they repent and ask forgiveness of God.
1 John 1:9
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

But how can one repent and ask for forgiveness, after they have already died?

Suicide is not only seen as Murder of one's self but also as cutting yourself off from Gods mercy, because there is no way to repent your sins afterwards.

Acts 3:19
Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord,

By deciding to commit suicide, you have decided to commit murder of yourself, and have closed the door on ever being able to repent.

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I'm a teenage girl. I have been a Christian for much of my life, but recently I've felt like I'm not meant to be a Christian.

Here are a few things I want to say:
- I appreciate diversity in religion as well as many other things. I think people should be accepted for who they are, regardless of what they believe.
- I believe that all people have worth and all people need a voice.
- I'm not sure about my beliefs about death, but I know I don't believe in Hell.
- I believe that God is everywhere -- I think God is the spirit of life that is in us and all around us. I don't think of God as a deity that can alter the workings of the natural world.
- I believe strongly in being kind to other people as well as the Earth.
- I think of Jesus as a teacher who showed people how to live a life of love and compassion, and I admire the power of his love and the way he lived. Not too much more than that.
- I think people should never stop exploring their beliefs and values.

Thank you for any advice you might have. (By the way, I'm very sorry if what I said offends anyone in any way. I know many people think differently than I do, and I do not intend to insult anyone else's beliefs.)

(Answer:) Every person is free to explore their Spirituality as they see fit. This just happens to agree with the bible. When god had created man, he gave man the power of Free Will. Man could choose for himself the path he would take.
In many eastern traditions the concept of freewill is paramount. Buddhists believe that the choices we make not only affect our lives but those around us as well. This is true, when you consider the interactions you have with others.
What a person believes, or has faith in will determine their path in life. Faith is necessary for spiritually. It is belief in something you can't explain. Some will say that if it can't be proved logically it can't exist. However humans are not the logical creatures we think we are.
The Human mind has a logical and illogical side. The illogical is imagination, faith, belief, hope, emotion. None of which are logical. The logical side is the reasoning side, where we interact and classify what we see and touch. Where we solve problems and use our experience to keep from making the same mistakes. This logical side, however, can't explain the other side.
Think of it this way:
Pick up a book and read one page from the middle. You will understand what the page says, but will you understand its place in the book or the whole book? Probably not. If you read the whole book you will understand the pages place in the book, and the book as a whole.
The book is like our minds. Logic alone can't explain the whole mind because part of the mind is illogical, however the mind can understand logic.
When you explore your spiritually you will come across things that you can't explain. That's what spirituality is all about. Something more than what you can see and touch. Take that leap of faith, it might not be logical, but logic can't explain faith because it's not logical.
Search inside yourself and discover what it is that you truly believe. Hold true to your convictions. Let those who believe different do so, because a belief is something very personal. Something you carry in your heart.
In the end you alone know what it is you believe. So as Shakespeare wrote: "This above all, to thy own self be true."

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