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I am really worried right now. I'm talking to a friend of my sister's and he seemed like a happy go lucky guy, making jokes. He's a little overweight, really funny, he stutters, but he's still awesome to be around. Well, I've been talking to him privately on facebook and he's talking about killing himself, saying he can't get the girl of his dream, he can't talk right, he's hated, he's reached everything he's capable of and whatnot. He's about 14 or 15. I'm getting worried because he keeps saying he's gonna do it and he's trying to decide which way to do it. I want to tell his mother, someone, ANYONE, but I think I'm the only one he's told and I don't want him to hate me for trying to help. I'm trying to contact his mother. Is this the best thing to do? (link)
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Perhaps you could tell the school counselor. You never know what will happen with that though. Some of them are naive and do not understand or believe the seriousness of his remarks. Of course this would only help if he would be willing to open up to them.
The risk is greater if he not only says he wants to die but that he is going to do it. The more specific he is about when where and how (especially if he has something like a gun) the more serious he is. If he starts giving away things that is a sign. Sometimes they abruptly get this rather bizarre sense of peace which is not really victory over his problems but resignation.
If you think he is in immediate danger do not try to play counselor. Call the police. I called the police on a friend of mine once for that. I did not care that it offended her. What are friends for if not to keep their friends alive?
I have dealt with this sort of thing before. Only a few weeks ago. She mentioned her depression and said she was afraid to go home because of what she might do. I ended up taking her to the hospital.
Ordinarily they keep them overnight for observation. In some cases that is what they need. It gets them through the crisis. Who knows? Maybe it will motivate them to get some help.
He really wants help. He just feels helpless and overwhelmed and does not know how to stop the pain but even though he hides what he is going through he wants to talk. Encourage him to see a therapist.
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I am an 18 year old male and I have been a pretty emotionally dead person for...well since my early childhood. And when I say dead I don't mean depressed or really down or anything of that nature. It's nearly impossible for me to feel anything genuine and I can only put a mask of fakeness on so I don't seem so far out. When I was in a psychology class I read about something called anti-social personality disorder and it almost disturbed me how similar the symptoms were to my own character. I've done enough to put myself away for the better half of my life and I haven't felt a shred of remorse or conscience. Anyways, I'm wondering if my lack of emotion is a cause of concern. Nothing brings me joy, pain, or sorrow and I can't even feel love for my own family anymore. NOTHING will make me feel anything and it bothers me. All I feel like is a body and a brain without a soul. Something is wrong with me but I don't know what. I'm a very intelligent person and all it seems I can do is succeed with material things like work while my relationships are built on false pretenses and emotions I never even felt but acted like I did. My question is: If there is anybody somewhat educated about this...what could be wrong with me? Do I have anti-social personality disorder?...and am I stuck with this? (link)
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I have experienced much the same thing. Although I have emotions part of my emotional spectrum seems to be missing. I don't miss people. I don't grieve. I don't care if I see friends or not. When people are there I can focus on them and when they are gone it is as if they do not exist. Like you I am not unhappy. I even feel tranquility because I am insulated from so much human pain but something missing in it. I could be cruel but I CHOOSE to love instead, not because I feel it. To me that is strength. Going the path of least resistance is easy. We do not HAVE to be tin soldiers or feral animals. That is a choice. Sometimes I think all those people who love for an emotional high are really the ones who are shallow. I have studied a lot about this and while I do not know you personally I have found that it is almost always an attachment disorder. We have to learn to connect when we are very small. It is one of the deepest survival instincts in all mammals. If something goes wrong at the early stage of our lives it affects all our human relationships. There are other causes. Very often the experience has multiple causes.
Your emotional state does not necessarily make you a sociopathic personality. The very fact that we lack a subjective sense of realty makes it hard to understand what is going on inside. You cannot diagnose yourself because of your condition.
I used to be much worse but I have gained a great deal of emotions. Change is always possible
One movie that I related to was the one from the 80s - The Dark Man" He lost sensation too and wore faces made of synthetic human skin to make himself look like others. Watch it and see if you can relate.
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