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Q: Ok I asked a question yesterday about what I should do about my crush and stuff on this fieldtrip. =] Well... I hungout with him the whole time and he asked me out :] Tomorrow I think Im going to the movies with him... However, uh.. I'm kind of like scared to. I've never made out before. All the boyfriends Ive had were immature and shy i guess.. so they never made the move, but I did kiss them but it took a LONG time for even THAT to happen. 0.o Anyway, this guy is different. I mean, we've already kissed and its only the first day so I'm sure tomorrow he's going to make the move and I dont want to feel this way. It's probably normal, and im always going to be worried about my first make out until i actually do it... What should I do? I want to do it, I just know Im going to make it awkward and Im going to tell him that it's my first time, I think... Please help!

I might be late...Am I?

Q: I'm 15/f and a freshman in high school.

I know it's almost the end of the year but I've had a crush (god I hate that word) on on of the junior guys for the longest time. He's a really sweet guy and we only talk from time to time but I couldn't stop the "school-girl crush" from happening. Is it even possible for a junior to like a freshman? Or am I totally out of my league?

Thanks in advance,
Little Freshie

Their is no problem with him liking you. Honestly, I don't believe in the whole "Out of my league" theory. Everyone has someone to love, and because he's older doesn't mean you two can be together.

Q: So, there's this guy... He's amazing =] I've been getting to know him and I really like him. I told my friend that I liked him a few days ago. He randomly told her the other day that he's starting to get feelings for me, and she told him that I liked him too and he was really happy and we've been talking and so it's all good. The thing is, I barely see him... I see him maybe once a day, not even. But I talk to him all the time like for hours about everything. Tomorrow we're going on a fieldtrip and he's going to, i want to hang out with him but I don't know we kind of have different crowds and I'm worried he might ignore me, you know? I really have no clue what's going to happen tomorrow. What I'm asking is, how can I make it so that I DO hang out with him tomorrow... I really want to, but I'm pretty shy. Any tips? =] Thanks.

Dear Shy one:

So your shy. So what? Sometimes the best thing to do is keep to yourself. If in fact you are in different crowds, then it should prove weather or not he's really the one for you. He should still like you and try to spend as much time as possible with you. Even though their different, they always say opposites attract.
Smile. Smile, smile, smile. Or give the face that you know makes you look cute.
And again with the shy thing. Don't talk much, and just smile!
Most guys love a mystery girl.
And by doing so, He might try to get to want to be around you more, you know, to make you crack a word, or a chat, to see what your into. If he walks up to you, do something like this:

You: "Oh... Hey." *Cute mystery smile*
Him: "Hey..."
If he starts talking say this with that cute mystery smile:
You: "Oh umm.. Can I get back to you hun?"
Be fore he answers, say
You: "Thanks!"
Make sure you're near your friends.
As you walk away slightly turn around and give him that cute smile one last time if he's still standing there.

It's bound to have him craving for more.

P.S. Tell me how it went tomorrow night!

Yours Truly,
Rhaychull

Q: You know how in movies where cops or some other martial arts guy makes someone pass out by pinching a spot in there neck? Are they killing them or making them pass out? And is that even possible without long term injury?

There is a pressure point in your neck that if it twist, or turns, or breaks, you can die.
To answer your question, probably death.

Q: 14/f
i hav only had sex twice but now i feel horny alottt. Like almost all the time. its really annoying because i cant just have sex everyday, and now me and my bf broke up so i really cant get any. is thos normal? will it go away?

Dear HORNY,

It's called hormones. It's completly normal! It happened to just about everyone and eventually you will be able to control it.

Yours Truly,

Rhaychull

Q: At school I have a group of about 5/6 friends, but out of that group of friends only 2 are my closet friends. Well, we got out of school on a half-day and I invited one girl to hang out...lets call her Victoria. Well, somehow Sierra finds out and wanted to go, but I really wanted it to be just us-( me and Victoria)! Anyways, the Sierra just self-invited herself because she came up to me the day of and said, oh hey I'm coming with you after school...THAT IS NO WAY TO ASK SOMEBODY. So after school, before we were leaving I tried to explain that she should have asked me cause my mom doesn't even know her and etc. Well, she didn't get it so she ended up coming. Well, at the time I let it go, but later that night I wrote her through myspace saying how I didn't like what she did and how I feel like shes using me...etc. So now shes being all dramatic saying I'm not her true friend and has been ignoring me for a while now. Ive called her and said sorry but shes taking this way to far, while I didn't mean to hurt her feelings as a friend we should be able to talk to each other without the other reacting so poorly. I never SAY anything or stick up for myself so saying this was really big for me and then she went and made it seems like I was out to hurt her and how I'm not her true friend. So I question my question is...do you think I should leave her alone and forget about it....or try to become her friend again...( b/c of right now we aren't friends). THANKS SO MUCH!

Dear... Confused.

I know how you feel. My advice is to leave it as it is. If what your saying is true, than shes the one who isn't a real friend. Acting immature and poorly like that is just unreasonable. Truthfully, just forget about her. You might not want to but TRUE friend don't do that. But if you're still considering being her friend, give it some time. Eventually you never know, she might come running back to you. But for now, leave her alone and make her feel how you felt.

Karma sweetie.

Yours truly,

Rhaychull

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Obviously I love giving advice. But I also love getting it. I can't say I've "Seen it all" But I can say I put a lot of thought into my advice. I can also say that I've been through a lot. A lot more than anyone will every realize. But hasn't everyone? I will assure you with an honest answer.
I can't tell you weather to trust me or the advice; You can be the judge of that.