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19/female.
can a guy tell if you've been fingered or not before? i suppose by like the way you act, but i mean physically? (link)
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No, there's no reason that a guy would be able to tell. There is the possibility that your hymen will break, which can be painful and kind of awkward, but that doesn't necessarily happen the first time you're penetrated by anything. But really, no guy is gonna care about whether or not you have, and no guy cares about a hymen breaking either. In fact, I think it's pretty important to talk about it with your partner in order to make yourself feel more comfortable with the experience. Otherwise, you're just associating sexuality with feelings of guilt and discomfort, and it's just as important for women to be able to enjoy sexual encounters as men.
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i hope you can help because everythings really weird and i cant figure out what to do. ok there's this guy and i met him about to years ago over the summer. we went out for about a year all together (it was an off and on relationship & he had other girls and i dated other guys) but i cant shake the fact that im in love with this kid... even though its been about 3 months since the last break-up and hes had 3 other girls. i like too other guys and the both like me. ones older ones my age (im 15 - if it helps any) the older one i like more ... alot more and hes always there but he wants sex. the one my age we hang out and always have fun but im not quite sure if hes on the same page as me... please help!! soon
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Ok first you need to make it clear to this older guy that you don't want to have sex. If he really does like you for who you are he will understand, if he doesn't understand then you can do SO much better. If that doesn't work out then you need to really be sure that you like this guy who is your age. It doesn't seem like you care too much for him and you need to be sure so you don't end up miserable. As for your ex, I think you should date other guys for a while and see what's out there instead of insisting that you are in love with this guy. If it was meant to be, he'll come back to you... in other words, time will only tell what will happen with you two. So that's all the advice I can give you and I hope it helps. Good luck!
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alright...there are 4 guys you need to know about in this story: Nathan, TJ, Michael, and David.
1.Nathan is my boyfriend of about 2 months. i liked him for almost a year before we started going out.
2.TJ is one of my best friends. I love him so much, and he really likes me (that way). He left our school on thursday though. Now he's homeschooled. i cried for 2 days. (he's coming back next semester, i just found out!!)
3.Michael is a friend that i liked, and he used to like me. Now he has a girlfriend, but we've both said that if we both have problems with our relationships, we'd probably go out.
4.David is also one of my best friends. He also likes me, and we're always hugging. so many people think we go out and it's annoying.
ok...now here's the thing: i might like the last 3. i don't know what to do...i've been thinking about breaking up with nathan, but i might change my mind after i do! I can't really go out with TJ, even though i think i really want to...because i'm friends with his ex (they went out for 6 months), and she still likes him, knows he likes me, and hates it. I can't go out with David, because my best (girl) friend really likes him. And michael's taken...for now.
so now that i have thoroughly confused you, take a moment to make some sense of all this, and then tell me what you think!
please! i'm so confused! (link)
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Ok so the first thing you need to ask yourself is do you still like Nathan? Chances are you do even if you don't know it since you've liked him for over a year. I know I've liked a guy for a while and I didn't feel it for a while anymore, but then I went back to liking him. The second thing you need to ask yourself is who would make you the happiest? Two of my best friends are going out right now and I know my guy friend drives my girl friend crazy because he never finds time to talk to her or see her. It even drives me crazy as a friend when he does this to me. I don't think she's really happy with him, but she's probably just afraid to end things with him because she still likes him. Do you really want to be stuck in a relationship where you're unhappy? The third thing you need to ask yourself is will this ruin any friendships? I used to be so much closer to my last boyfriend before we went out, and we're still friends, but it's still a little weird for me. My advice is that you and Nathan take a break for a while. Tell him you have a lot on your mind and you need to think things through. He'll understand if he cares about you. Take that time to figure out all your emotions and don't make any decisions unless you're absolutely sure. So many people I know have been miserable from making the wrong decision. Another thing is, do you really care about any of these guys if it's such a hard choice to make? I hope I helped! Good luck hunny!!!
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