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I am 15 years of age and I have an enquiry. I know that during puberty your face changes but to what extent? Do you change dramatically from certain ages? When does your face reach full maturity? Does your eye shape change? What changed the most? Also, do you lose a lot of fat or a little? (link)
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It generally doesn't change a lot, only to a small extent. Your features stay the same and you'll be able to identify yourself without seeing a major change. For eg) if you currently have large eyes, they will continue to be large
as times goes on and they will be the stand out feature on your face. Puberty ends at age eighteen for females and twenty one for males. The face changes throughout one's lifetime,it's a gradual process. If you lose weight, you'll lose any chubbiness in the face and you'll likely have a more visible jawline.
It also depends on genetics, in terms of which features change the most during certain ages.
Don't focus so much on your appearance, your personality and character is more substantial than how you look and should serve as a reminder of what you should place your attention on.
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So I met this amazing guy in June. He's literally everything I want and I fell so hard for him right off the bat. We met at a bar and then he traveled for the rest of the summer so we have been texting ever since. From the start the relationship has been one sided which was usually me reaching out and us having good conversations but him never making an effort. So in September I decided to stop trying and make him come to me.. Then we didn't talk for two straight months and out of a moment of weakness I reached out again. To my surprise ever since we have gotten REALLY close. We unfortunately live in different cities but nothing too major. He's made more of an effort and instead of going from talking every 3-5 days we talked everyday. He still gives me the most mixed feelings. I decided with the help of my friends to stop wasting time, tell him how I feel and see where I stand with him. It was pretty embarrassing.. He was a little rude about it and didn't see how I could have real feelings after we haven't hung out more than once and he couldn't have those feelings.
I decided it's time to move on and didn't reach out. A week passed and he texted me and after a good old time convo he brought it up and wanted to talk about it. He said maybe if we hangout again he could feel that way. I decided i still needed to move on so wasn't going to reach out. He texted me first which is so unlike him for a week straight. We had some good convos and we were closer than ever. Last night he started texting me pictures of a girl he was taking on a date which took me really off guard. He then said "sorry should i not be talking to you about this" and i said no, its a little weird after i recently told you how i felt. He felt really bad. I felt like it was calculated so he could see if i still felt a certain way. I know I am never going to change his mind since he is in med school and will be gone for the next month so we don't have the option to hangout. But I want him so badly. But all my friends say that him sending me those pictures of another girl is really rude.
Can anyone give me an outsiders opinion on what they think he might be feeling/why he would do that/what I should do?
Thanks so so so so so so much (: (link)
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From the beginning of your interactions with him, he never initiated contact. You were always contacting him and he didn't appear interested in contacting you back. You mentioned he finally put the effort into contacting you more often after you had shown interest in him on a number of occasions. Though he may have only done this out of guilt for not contacting you as often as you had reached out to him. This doesn't guarantee that he was ever interested in you. He may have also treated the interactions as casual and could have just perceived you as a friend to talk to every now and then.
You mentioned he had mixed feelings which suggests he wasn't certain about the prospect of dating you and wasn't sure whether you were suitable for him. When you finally told him how you felt he alerted you to the fact that he didn't have feelings for you. Though at that stage there would always be the possibility that he would have changed how he felt about you after spending more time with you and growing attached to you. Finally, when he told you he was dating someone else, he may have included that detail because as I mentioned above he may have perceived you as just a friend and felt comfortable talking to you about his love life without believing that there would be any repercussions, as he may have felt that you could have decided to consider him as just a friend when he told you he didn't have feelings for you.
Also, he may have mentioned he was dating someone else, to subtly insinuate that the reason for his overall lack of interest in you
has been because he was pursuing someone else from the very beginning though didn't mind socialising with you as a friendly only. You should move on, he's clearly keen on another female and you've already told him how you feel and he's told you he doesn't have feelings for you without any mention of the possibility of him having feelings for you in the future.
Next time, when you're pursuing men you shouldn't wait for a few months to see if they're interested in you. You deserve someone who is genuinely interested in spending time with you from the very beginning of your
interaction with him. Instead of you constantly chasing a guy who is most likely pursuing another female and simply doesn't have a desire to date you.
Also, don't let this experience affect how you feel about yourself. You should remember that you are a worthwhile person that deserves to be happy just like everybody else. If a male doesn't show interest in you, it doesn't matter - not all of them will. It's best to be realistic about the situation and remain confident. I'm sure you have a lot to offer in a relationship and any guy would be lucky to have you.
I'm sure you'll find a man that deserves you. I hope this helped you-stay strong. :)
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