My name is Summer Hunter. I grew up a farm girl in Manitoba even though my background doesn't look it i am a full Canadian. I have always had amazing adivce to give; probably because i am always very open minded and mindful of peoples concerns and problems. Feel free to ask me anything - even though you may not get the answer you predict you will get. (People tell me i always have an interesting veiw on things.)
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Location: Manitoba, Canada
Age: 19
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i am an 18 year old female.
alright so i have a best guy friend, i adore the kid i really do like him and i am pretty sure he knows i have feelings for him and he has tried getting with me before BUT he has a girlfriend of two and a half years. Its weird though because everyone loves his girlfriend, all the guys think she is like the hottest girl in school but when im with him and other people and someone brings her up, he doesnt really say anything and goes on to a new subject. One time he even denied that they ever had sex and they were having sex for like a year already. Maybe he doesnt want people to know, i have no idea. I know all this well because i am one of his best friends. It surprised me, because usually most guys would admit to the fact they have sex with their girlfriend and i do admire that he doesnt go around bragging to anyone about it. Does this mean anything though? Most guys would love talking about their girlfriends i would think, its not like he has anything to be ashamed of. Sometimes i feel like he is looking out for my feelings because i do get irritated when people talk about her because well she has him, and i'm stuck there watching them two be in love. Maybe i am thinking about it too much but he never brings her up, he never talks about her, when someone mentions her name he doesnt go on blabbing about her. Maybe it's just him, but i have never met a guy like this before!? (link)
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Dear best guy friend + girlfrind,
Imagine this scenario... you have finally caught your best friends attention, even though he is already dating someone for 2 and some years... You laugh at all his jokes and smile and flirt until he falls passionatly in love with YOU! But, the catch is he doesn't know if these feelings will last so he keeps his girlfriend and still goes out with you. You are second best. Then one of his girlfriends friends see you to together doing some dirty stuff (even if that is just kissing) and snaps a pic on their phone or even worse takes a video. Then sends it first to his gf and then to all the friends in her popular circle saying what a creep he is to cheat on her. Suddenly he is the one that is the backstabber and people start dissing him and talking bad about him. His once perfect relationship is ruined and so is his popularity. Every other guy is begging to go out with his ex wanting to sympathis and comfort her, making her even more popular than she started off being. He will more than likely think that you ruined a more than perfect relationship that he was in and will turn from you saying that you lead him on. Besides if he isn't that perfect guy anymore will you still have hots for him? Or are you just trying to be this major popularity seeker? I think that you should leave well enough alone. They seem really happy together and you more than likely will never reach first base with him if he is as devoted to his gf as he sounds. Find someone who is just as devoted as he is just with you. Find someone that will treat you like a princess love you way beyond you ever dreamed. Your real love is waiting out there somewhere. So girl, take off those rose coloured glasses and met that guy. You never know he might be right under your very nose.
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i had sex about a month ago and i was desperaetly waiting for my period well i got it but light can you get your period after havin sex about a month earlier and then still be pregnant?
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Dear Pregnant?
I don't know a lot about the question you asked but i do have so "words of wisdom" that i strongly suggest that you think about. I am wondering if you are so obviously not wanting to get pregant why put yourself in the position to make that possible? Since you sound really scare that you could be pregnant did you use protection and if you didn't do you really think that was the smartest decision you ever made? Do you think that the guy you had sex with will stick around if you are pregnant? Do you think that you are ready to carry, deliver, raise and support a child on your own? Did you talk it through with your partner before you had sex and make a plan as to what you would do if you did get pregnant? Are you going to love this child or treat him/her like a burden because of a mistake YOU made? If you find out that you are carrying a child in your womb what direction will you take? Are you pondering a abortion? If you are, i would really like to tell you about how morally wrong it is. You definatly shouldn't terminate this child's life because of a mistake YOU made. This child deserves to live and is trusting you to bring it into the world safe and secure. If this isn't enough for you i have a couple of things to back my case. Check out the following website (http://www.abortionincanada.ca/health/physical_effects.html ) and you will find the many dangers of abortions from infertility, breast cancer, hemorrhage, Saline poisoning, high blood preasure and even mortality (in human terms: DEATH) I am sure you are a beautiful wonderful women who will surely be coming up to an emotional roller coaster and if you ever need someone to talk to you can reach me at dessypenner@yahoo.ca
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i smoked weed for the second time last night, and at first it kind of scared me and then i finally calmed down. it was apparently really really strong, and i took at least 5 big hits.
i kept me all weirded out for a while, but then i got sick and threw up all over the place.
could someone tell me what might have been wrong? i doubt im supposed to throw up on weed. -.-''
thanks. (link)
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MR/MRS I'm so brilliant i got high,
First let me tell you right off the bat that you need to get a life. This is coming from as you can see a very beautiful sexy girl (and if you are a girl there are very sexy hot guys) i would never ever go out with some one who smokes anything even cigarettes. It is gross and disgusting. Secondly you need to get inrolled in a firm GOOD friendship group. A group of friends that you can hang out with and do things with. I DON'T MEAN SMOKE! Thirdly since you are either deaf not to have heard all the terrible things that happen when you smoke marijuana or anything else or dumb enough not to have listened i will tell you some disturbing statistics. 1. The amount of tar that you inhale when you smoke weed is 3 - 5 times more than when you smoke a cigarette. Which will even sooner leave you with lung cancer.
2. A person high has the same lack of corrodination as a severly drunk driver. Meaning it will be easy for you to kill someone driving and end up in prison for your life. Also you are under the influence of the drug which will make you do things that you normally wouldn't do. Like rape an innocent girl or guy/break in and enter/ rob a bank or anything of the sort. 4. Marijuana contains 400 deadly toxic chemicals (way WAY WAY worse than tobacco smoke) 5. The risk of a heart attack is 5X more likely. Meaning humans already have a very short life span and you have cut yours in half. Are you ready to kill yourself at 50? 6. Marijuana and other drugs are just as addictive as cigarettes and even harder to break off of. Your body not only needs the drug but it is also a chemical balance that is interrupted in your brain that demands that you need it. Fourthly, I bet you are a great person that has just come in contact with a rough part of your life. Everyone has the same potholes and cracks in the road that you have; me included. What really matters is how you deal with them. Are you going to be a coward and cover up your problems with an illegal substance. Or are you going to be a man (OR WOMAN) and face your problems.
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im 16, and never had my first kiss yet. even though im pretty sad that i still never had one, i love to hear stories about other peoples' first kisses! it makes me excited for mine :) so whoever reading this, hopefully youll share your story! thank youuu:) (link)
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Dear First Kisses,
Really not being kissed at 16 isn't that big of a deal. If you rush it making it so important that you have that kiss you will go out with any random guy just to get it. This will mean he won't really care about you, your feelings, or your dreams. If a guy decides to just like that go out then he probably isn't wanting to get to know you, he just wants to USE you. This will mean that you are trusting him with your first kiss. A kiss that he either will accept, blow off and won't appreaciate OR he will abuse it and take you farther than you want because he thinks your that kind of a girl. Many girls also form an emotional bond with their first love and if he doesn't love you hi will treat your heart like it is a trophy. Not as a treasure. My best advise is to WAIT. There will come along the right guy for YOU! When that perfect guy comes along and you know he is THE ONE you will feel terrible that you didn't save your first kiss. A first kiss in my opinion is alot like one's virginity; once taken it can never be given back.
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so i have a major crush on my gym teacher (he's a guy .. im a girl) and the other day he was talking to me and my friends and he kept looking over at me (not in a creepy way -- just in a conversational way) and smiling and i was smiling back .. and then when he walked away my friend told me i was blushing! and i didnt even mean to do it! i thought i was playing it cooll. hahha but i was pretty embarasssed. but my question is do guys like it when girls blush? im pretty shy too .. i mean i know guys like outgoing girls but what do they think about a little shyness? and do you think my teacher knows i have a crush on him? haha
ps those questions dont have anything to do with my teacher -- i just thought i would share my story haha (link)
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Dear Blushing,
To tell you the truth i think that this relationship or crush is really really not a good idea and will not go far. You are probably anywhere from 13 - 18 i would guess because you sound like you still are in school. There are some things you might not know about dating or liking teachers. Since you are most likely not an adult, going on a date or showing that you like your teacher can be embarassing and unnessasary. To put your gym teacher on the line like that isn't fair either. He could easily loose his job if it got out that he likes you or is having a "secret relationship" with one of his students. He would get fired and never EVER get hired as a teacher again or in any other government employment. That means the 3-5 years that he spent in university to become a gym teacher would be worthless. Don't think that it won't get out either. Any parent can file the report in that the see that he is liking you. Are any of your friends going to let it slip that you have a crush on him to your parents. Imagine the problems you would have at home if your parents found out. You sound like a wonderful girl who really just wants to be loved and you think that an older guy will make your friends look up to you. Find someone your own age that can apreaciate you right now. I hope you all the best luck.
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how can i tell if my boyfriend of 1 month (sat.) is going to break up with me. my friend is saying im over reacting. cause he doesnt always text people back. but lke all this 3 day weekend i barely talked to him. he either didnt text me back. or he didnt text me first. and im so scared hes going to break up with me.so i say im not going to text him or anything so he wont be annoyed but then it kills me. cause i want to talk to him so bad. and i get all these jealous urges. and im really working on them. so someone please tell me what are some signs he is going to breakup with me. am i thinking too much? or what? please! and thankyou!! (link)
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First of all he is your boyfriend of 1 month not 1 year. Lady you do have serious jelousy issues that YOU need to fix before you can ever trust your boyfriend. There isn't a very strong trust vibe floating around. You are always going to be saying to yourself when he doesn't return his texts Where is he? Is he cheating on me? Is another girl with him?... You will work yourself into such a tiszy that when he does return your texts you will be insulted or suspicious or angry and as much as you try to hide it guys are not THAT dense. He will pick up on your feeling and inturn feel insulted and become defensive. What you have is what i would call a perfectly faboulous wonderful relationship. DON'T mess it up by acting like an untrusting female.
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Alright , so I had sex with my boyfriend not because I felt like I had to but we both wanted to and I figured that I loved him and he felt the same way about me. But , since then it just hasent been the same we dont have the same connection that we had before. I never know where he is and I lost my virginity to him and before me he had sex with about 8 people. He's 4 years older than me so calling him all the time and being like where are you makes me feel like im getting annoying, but when they say whoever you lose your virginity too you become emotionally attachted to him and thats exactly how I feel. Its like a HUGE deal for me he took my virginity you know ? and to him I feel like im just another girl he had sex with . So should I talk to him and tell him how I feel or just let him go even though I love him with everything I have and he "claims" to feel the exact same way about me ?
Thankkyouu ! (:
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Dear Afterward Feelings.
--I am betting it would be a big deal for a girl to loose her virginity. I am still a virgin so i can't give much advice on the way you should feel. I really believe that you two need to sit down and talk about it. Talk about all of it. It might be embarrassing but it will be a lot better than just sitting around and waiting. He may be feeling the same thing you are and is just to scared to admit that he might have feelings for you. Explain to him that it is a HUGE deal to you that you two had sex. Explain that it isn't something you would just do with any guy and show him that he's special to YOU! If he has had sex with 8 other girls that you know of there is a good chance that not all of those girls were what you would call the most upstanding people. He could have a history of thinking that all any girl wants is sex and once you have that there is nothing more to share. Show him that you still care. **Remember: DONT act defensive turning the blame on him for leaving or not being there or not caring enough. He will very quickly turn away from you. DON't act weepy or clingy either guys don't like that. A little tears and a lot of smiles is what my mom always used to say. Good luck- I hope things work out for you.
--MissingRomeo
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