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Hello! I'm 19 years old. My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex. We had a pregnancy scare before and the thing said negative.
I started birth control and it skipped my period. But I ran out and got my period for a month.
We had once again and now I haven't got my period.. I checked the date and I haven't had it for one month and one week. But haven't had signs but mood swings. And stomach feeling iffy..
Am I pregnant? (link)
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The most probable cause is the birth control. Because your body needs to adjust to it REGULARLY and you haven't been allowing it to; the pill is causing you to have an irregular period.
If you take it regularly, not just on and off, your period should regulate itself in time (2 or 3 months).
The first month you take it can cause: longer period, no period, spotting, or a "regular" period. Each body reacts differently, and you experienced two different reactions, possibly because you had it for a month and got it in your system (but since it was new, your body didn't know it wasn't supposed to prepare for motherhood and had a LOT of lining in the uterus to shed; giving you an elongated period).
Then, after being off of it for a month before going back on it, your body recognized that the pill is supposed to make you not prepare for a child but had no withdrawal to shed.
When you have your period while on the pill, you're not shedding the lining of your uterus. Instead it's called "withdrawal blood", and if you don't have any "withdrawal" to bleed; you miss a period without it being a "symptom" of anything.
Another thing that causes missed periods is stress and other strong emotions that are similar.
If you're having mood swings during the time you feel you should be menstruating, it's most likely because your hormones are still going as they should but you're uterus doesn't know it's supposed to shed anything because the pill has told it there won't be any babies for it to prepare for.
So I wouldn't worry about it, your body is adjusting to the birth control. Give it time to adjust to the changes you made when you decided to use that contraceptive.
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I'm 19, female and my ex boyfriend is 20, male. We were together for over 2 years.
He broke up with me a couple weeks ago. In the moment he said it was because he didn't feel the same. He's not very good at communicating, so our relationship was more difficult than it should have been because he couldn't really express what he was thinking.
So we didn't talk for awhile after he had broken up with me. Then we hung out, got some food and talked. He said he was sorry for the way he did it, apologized for not being able to tell me what was going on, ect.
He told me he was stressed and is confused about our relationship. Not that he doesn't care about me anymore, but our relationship had some pretty stressful moments. So we went over and talked through them, figured out where we both went wrong in handling certain situations but in the end he said the relationship was unhealthy.
So at this point, I'm really not sure what to do. We talked about getting back together, giving it more time. But then he said he still doesn't know yet.
So I don't want to wait around because who knows how long, or even if he'll actually want to get back together. I did reflect on whether or not these problems we had can be fixed. I do believe he cares about me. I know he just doesn't want to have the fights we had before. So I've been getting advice from people on how to handle the certain situations we've been having problems in.
To be honest, I'm scared of asking him. If he says no, I'll be upset of course. But if he keeps telling me I don't know, then what do I do? Just let him go and move on? I'm thinking of giving it a couple weeks till we talk again. Good idea or just wait till the next time he contacts me?
I talked to my dad about it. He told me he's a good guy and all that, but if he can't figure out what he wants in two or three weeks, then don't wait around.
I've never been in a situation like this. I've dated quite a bit before him, but was never broken up with. I always ended the relationship or the "talking". He truly is a good guy, just a very confused good guy...he has good qualities and is overall just amazing. Even though I was mad at him for how he handled the break up, I can't really talk trash about him. So hopefully that helps showing you how I feel about him.
Just any advice at all would be appreciated. Sorry it was long. (link)
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You feel you truly care about him, that much is obvious. But if you'll allow me to be cliche; what's meant to be will be.
Give him a couple weeks to sort himself out, but don't sit waiting by the phone. Tell him that you're not going to wait around on a maybe, and that if he doesn't know in a certain length of time that you'll move on. If you still have feelings for him at that point, and still want to get back together, then tell him you're not "slamming the door". Let him know that you dating other people isn't telling him "never". If he decides he wants to be with you, even if it's months or years from now, he will try to get back with you.
If he wants to get back with you, but doesn't act on it (possibly claiming that he doesn't want to break you and someone else up, doesn't want to bother you, or makes any excuse at all) then he's feeling for you are NOT genuine.
Also, if he says he's "confused" there can be different meanings behind that word when it comes to relationships. The most common involves someone else. Maybe he developed a crush on another guy, and wants to see if he's gay (or bisexual) or if it's just a "man crush".
Unfortunately, it's not always confusion of sexuality. Sometimes it means they found (or remembered) another girl. Maybe an ex he never truly got over started talking to him out of the blue, or that girl he works with started to show him attention. (Please note I am NOT saying this is the case!)
Perhaps you need to talk to him about just what, exactly, he's confused about. Although being in a stressful/unhealthy relationship is difficult, it rarely leaves either party in a state of confusion about whether or not they should be together.
If he acknowledges that the relationship wasn't good, he shouldn't be questioning whether or not to get back together. If he is he may have an attachment issue, and doesn't want to be alone (which would make any relationship even more unhealthy). If it's an attachment issue, it's usually just that (no other girls [or boys]). Generally it's thought to be a "girl thing", but it does indeed occur in both genders.
Whatever the reason; the best thing to do right now would be to tell him to sort himself out and decide what he WANTS. If he continues to be indecisive, he isn't worth waiting for (regardless of how much of a "good guy" he is).
If there's someone you've noticed that you thought was interesting but didn't do anything because you were taken; perhaps text him in two or three weeks to ask him how he is (maybe hang out sometime).
Don't handcuff your heart to your image of him, you need to take off rose coloured glasses to see if he's someone you truly want to be with. Perhaps in the two/three weeks you gave him to decide if he wants to be with you, you might decide you don't want to be with him.
While he's thinking about whether or not he feels you're worth fighting for (to him), figure out if he's worth waiting for. Yes, you care about him (and you may always have feelings for him)... But is he worth all the fights and stress? Or would you rather be single (with or without him as a friend)?
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