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OK...i have a problem...im 15 years old and every saturday my mom and her husband go out to a bar around here and if my sisters working me and my bestfriend are stuck babysitting...I cant do nothing til my sister getz off and she dont usually get off til 10 and theres nothing to do really then but i hate to tell my mom "no" because she has done stuff for me that she didnt wanna do but i have to do this Every Saturday and im SICK of it...it is causing alot of problems with me and my friends and it caused problems with me and my ex for a long time and i dont get to go nowhere on saturdays without hauling him around and hes only 3 so i have 2 take a car seat...diapers...juice and everything for him and most of my friends doesnt like to put up with me when we go out and i dont blame them...what should i do? Tell my mom No? Or just let it go?
15/female
*jess*
Having a social life is always important. Friends are the ones who keep us sain. If this is causing trouble with them it is a problem . You should site down with your mom and ask her if she can find a way you don't have to babysit every saturday. Tell her that you don't mind babysitting your brother but when she has you do it every weekend it bothers you and your friends. Don't accuse her of ruining you life or causing the fights but tell her that you want to spend saturdays with your friends. Ask her if there is a way she could find a different babysitter or not go to the bar every saturday maybe every other. It isn't fair for you to have to do that every weekend even though your mom does stuff for you. She may call it a little favor but it realy is somthing that could be planned and you could get off doing it. Tell your mom this on a Sunday so she would have time to find an alternate plan for your brother and she dosn't have to worry about him.
All right so I haver this awfully annoying brother who actually tries to be annoying. Seriously. He is constantly trying to be obnoious, just for the fun of it. Once, when I wanted to go to bed, i asked him to turn down the football game so I could go to bed, and he just replied with a "NO!".
I stand up for myself, but I can never really change anything because he is a iolent kid, and I am not. He is willing to pull my hair, and I have never plled his hair or hit him at all.
What do I do to try and make him respect me, without being violent?
thanks,
elephant love medley.
Kill him with kindness. Now this does not mean oh I love you! Do you want to play with this sharp knife? Ignore his bothersome behavior and the fun of pissing you off goes away. Take it from a younger sister. It's only fun to bother people when you can tell that the other person is annoyed. Your brother can't respect you if he enjoys bothering you. Soon your brother will absolutly adore you!
on december 26, a new family is moving in to the house next door to mine. my mom talked to their realtor (another neighbor) and found out that the family will have a 3 yr. old and a 5 yr. old. by the way, I'm 13.
the question that i have is, how long should i wait before i introduce myself, and how should i do it? i really want to babysit for them, and i work really well with little kids. i've never worked for pay before, just as favors for my aunt (with kids age 2 and 7) so im not really sure what to charge either.
i know this is really long, and has a bunch of different questions. but any answers will be appreciated to the tone of a 5! thanks in advance!
Moving into a new house will probly be stressful for a family. Especialy with young kids. I am sure they would be releived if you introduced yourself and offered to help. When your realy babysitting for them charge between $7-10. I charge ten and I babysit a 6 year old angel. The younger the children are the harder it is so I am sure the parents will think your rate is fair.
Dear Loserface,
My sister is 13 and a butt head. She likes to listen to the rent soundtrack when I have a huge exam to study for! What should I do? I'm all out of anti-stupid gel to put on her... I'm stumped!
Love,
The Immortal Double Helix
Dear The Immortal Double Helic (aka Erika)
As much as you cared about this test (I can tell you didn't because you found time to find this link and write the letter when you could have been studing) I am sure your darling little sister was provoked. I have a feeling you had been a bitch to her and did not let her borrow your markers so she felt the best way to get revenge was to sabatage your test. Maybe you should save your "anti-stupid" gell for yourself next time. I think you should be nicer to your sister considering your friend is borrowing her season of Friends.
I hope this helps
YOur loving sister Kasey
okay so im 13 female and im so sick of one of my friends. she get on my last nerve all the time and wont stop calling me. how do i tell her i want space without being rude?
You should tell your friend that she is bothering you. Tell her that you do need your personal space and that she needs to call you less. You shouldn't have to compramize your happieness to spare being rude. If she dosn't know that her behvior is annoying she will do it to other people to. They might not be as concerend with her feelings and they could realy hurt her feelings. It could be benificial just to be straight and tell her if you care about her feelings.
My best friend is moving next june(2007) and I won't have any body to relate and hang out with in jr high(9th grade). My 2 best friends in the 5th grade moved away and now this is happening. We both can't believe what's going on. She's told her mom that she was not moving and that she would glue her feet to the floor. She sais that Me and her boyfriend should become best friends b/c we have a lot in common, I just don't know what to do. I feel really depressed right now. What should I do?
Make new friends now. You can all hang out with them. That way you can have people who miss your friend too. Also you wont have to be lonely next year. It's not that you need to replace her but having a few best friends will make the pain of her leaving ease a little. Maybe you should try and become friends with her boyfriend. I bet your friend knows that you would get along and she wont have to worry about you (or him) having no one to relate to. Enjoy the time you can spend with her and try to make new friends also.
I'm worried that my best friend and I are growing apart. We used to be extremely close - so close in fact that often times people referred to us as _____ and _____ instead of just one person. I think the main reason we're growing apart is because of our different interests. Also, she's making other friends and hanging out with them instead of me. I'm happy for her, but sometimes I miss the way we used to be together, and sometimes I could care less about her. What should I do to possibly salvage our relationship?
I know just what you mean. I think I am growing apart from some of my friends too. At the same time I'm gorwing closer to the ones that I lost a few years ago. I had known one girl since kindergarden and we hadn't talked in a while. This year we did way more together. I sometimes wish we never grew apart but "time makes the heart grow fonder". For me time was the right thing. However growing away from friends is crap so I sugest that you still stay as close as can be. Make time to be together but not so much that she becomes unbarable. I have two friends just like that. I used to be jealous of how much time they spent together but now it's just fun to be with the two of them. If your anything like they are I'm sure that if you make the effor to hang out more often you'll be friends forever.
Hope it helps
**Renter
okay so i'm around 13 years old and i like this guy, and i think he likes me back. but he won't admit it. i already told him that i like him and i even asked him out. but he said no. we r always on the phone together and all my friends are saying he will ask me out. but it's just so confusing and i have no idea what's going on. i don't wanna do anything else cuz then i seem desperate, and i want him to make the next move, but what if he's to shy to? i am lost...
Maybe this guy is shy. Just stay friends with him Soon enough he will be so happy that he has you as a friend that he wont want a moment without you and he'll ask you out. Or maybe you should just ask him if he does like you and tell him he is sending you mixed signals. If you are already good friends he will know your not desperate just you like him as more than a friend. He probly like you too.
I have this friend, and she's one of my best friends. She's really great, and I love her to death, but sometimes, she ca be SO annoying. She also thinks that everyone likes her, but a lot of her "friends" really think she's annoying, and can't stand her. I don't want to tell her and hurt her feelings, but I also feel bad for letting the people she considers her friends talk behind her back. Should I tell her or not?
I think you should tell her but not be like every one hates you. Be like you know its realy hard for me to say this but blah blah blah said that ........ and I dont think its fair because she is your frined and I think we should ask her(s) to stop. And also talk to your friends and tell them that they can have their feelings but its not very nice to say them to mutual friends. I have a friend who had openly dissed my best friends because she dosn't like them. It bothers me too. I told her a totaly contaradicting thing and she stopped imediatly so maybe try that too.
My friend says she hates this one girl. And yet they are always together. It bothers me so much. The are always with each other and then when she is with me she says how annoying she is and then she goes and hangs out at the mall with her or somthing. If she is saying to me she hates this girl and they are always together what does she say about me when I'm not there. I don't know if I can trust someone who trashes the people she "pretends" to be friends with or hangs out with out of pity. Can I realy beleive she isn't repeting everything I say to the other girl? Why do girls have to be so mean?
Maybe you should talk to your friend and tell her that if she realy dosn't like this girl why is she always with her. It might turn out that the two realy are friends and YOUR friend can tell you don't like her friend and is trying to make you feel like you are more important than her. I think you can trust your friend. She might be a bit of a hypocrit but no one is perfect. I am sure that your friend would never betray you. Girls are mean because they need to feel superior. They don't always mean what they say. Girls are gossips.
My friend is always calling me and I don't know what to do. She' sa realy great friend but now I just want my personal space. I realy do value our friendship but I want to hang out with other people too. It realy is too hard to tell her. I have tried so many times but I don't want to hurt her feelings. I also don't want to tell her on the phone or online because that would be worse than not telling her at all. I don't know what to tell her but I want her to leave me alone. How can I break it to her without making it seem like I hate her or that I am being a bitch?
You should tell her that you realy want like being friends with her. But tell her that you want to spend time with your other frinds. Don't just blow her off. Also don't make up lies so you don't have to hang out with her. Tell her in person so you can make sure everything you say is said how you want it to be said. Tone is everything.