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I'm Seventeen, and I've had many boyfriends okay. I mean I have had one that I'd really considered love, but everytime I would get out of a relationship I'd just say it really wasn't love. What is wrong with me? I mean I have this guy who is really sweet, and nice and perfect, he and I were dating about three months, and then a couple days back he dumped me, because I have a guy friend coming to stay with me because his mom is a real nice piece of work. Anyways, this guy is really nothing to me okay, I mean yes I admit it.. I lied and told the guy who is moving in, "yeah I love you.. blah blah blah.." But were good friends.
Problem is I have like no sympathy. I mean this amazing guy brakes up with me,and I feel worse for not feeling nothing. I reasontly talked to him, and he told me that he was hurt and he still loved me and he wants to give me a second chance MAYBE. I just, like.. I don't know if I really love him, or just love the idea of him.
I don't know if I've ever been in love, or not. I don't know if I have and just deny it cause it ends or what. I'm so confusied. I hate being a teeager, I am so fed up.
Someone tell me what is wrong with me, advice, commets, HELP! I swear to god I wish sometimes I was just not here PREIOD.
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Gosh, guys really do screw everthing up dont they?!
your ex seems to be blowing things abit out of preportion, becuase if he did really love you, wouldnt he have stuck around to show this other guy that your HIS girlfriend??
and if you lied to the other guy saying you love him, is he just your rebound?
if this guy is so 'amazing' you WOULD have felt SOMETHING.
maybe this just isnt the right time for you.
if you're still friends with him in a few years, or moths depending, tell hm that you..
i dont know, DO you still care about him? if you do tell him that, but give him some time to recover first.
if you move on, nd he see's that, he should be able to move on to. Maybe he thinks he needs to wait until YOU move on BEFORE he can, even if he doesnt know it himself.

As for love, only someone whos been in love can tell you, but i think
if its love, your heart will speed up when you see him, and you will always be wondering, somewhere in your mind, if he's wondering about you too?
yoi'd probably want to show him off to the world too.
hope that helps, any more questions, or if you didnt understand a word of what i just wrote, message me
XXX LaLaLaJai XXX


14/f

Ok so I've been best friends with my best friend since 3rd so like 7 years. Her birthday is next month and I want do something really special for her. Like not the normal get giving thing. I want to make her something. I was thinking scrap book or something. I don't really have alot of pictures of the two of us though. Most are from when we were younger. I guess I could use those though. Is there anything else I could do for her? Just fun creative stuff would be appreciated! Thanks! (link)
Heyy
Well, my besty moved to another country recently, so i gave her this really big handmade pillow, (you can buy a pillowcase- a nice one) and i decorated it with like dimontes and stuff, and made it really personalised and she really liked it
is that any good??


Ok, I am really really into rock. My favortes right now are Paramore, Evanescence, and Fly Leaf. I am into kinda dark music but not anything like worshipping the devil. totally christian person here, but i love the kinda depressing song. i like any kinda rock but right now im into metal. can someone tell me about a couple of groups that are like these. I like classical music too so if someone knows of any good classical music that would be nice too. Please and Thank you!!! (link)
i LOVE paramore, but i also like Plain White Tee's, Urm.. Jason Mraz is really good, specially Bright Eyes and Im yours.
Also, sara Barellies is pretty good, i like her alot too.


This guy told me he liked me, I told him I liked him, and now, all the sudden on facebook, he's in a relationship with his ex girlfriend and her status messages are all ... " (link)
that yous a total Loser.
You could probably do SO much better.
And if you think they are HAUNTING you..
i reckon hes probably just tryin to mak eyou jelous if he really likes you.
Just dont fal for it, guys that will use pople are just a waste of perfectly good space,tbh.


ahh so theres this new kid and i thought he was really cute so i had my friend tell him and he sed he didnt want a gf but hed talk to me so he talked to me and we had only shared a few words but later (though i told my friend not to) she told her friend who is friends with him tht i thought he was cute and the kid i liked sed he wasnt intereseted and didnt want a girlfriend .... so i was bummed or w.e but i was like w.e thats his loss but now yesterday he added me on myspace (after rejecting my friend request months ago) and now he commented my picture saying cute pic and today he smiled at me in the hall....shuld i comment back? is he interested? i am so confused please help. (link)
Comment back babe!
If he's commenting, the ball's in your court now.
Play as hard as you can.
And yeah, he probs didnt want to look vunerable, guys have ego's way too big for their heads.



There's this dude at my school. I really like him.
I get butterflies when ever I talk about him and
shit like that.

He sits pretty close to me at lunch, like about...
3 meters away (in another group) I always find
myself accidentally staring at him. And sometimes,
I find him staring at me.

Nobody but me thinks he's hot, he has extreme
acne, and he's not very attractive. But I think
he is.

We talk sometimes, but only like once or twice a
week. He beat up this dude for me because when we
were going out he use to abuse me. [:

So, I think he cares. Plus one of our neutral
friends told me "He said you're really cute and
hell funny."


Yeah... well. I know he likes me, because so many
people say so, even a teacher asked me if we were
going out! So, what I want to know is, how do I
work up the courage to ask him out or w/ever.

Help.
xx (link)
Hey
Urm, well, tbh, its not up to other people (unless they know you REALLY well) to figure that out
if you think of yourself as independant, and you AREN'T afraid that he might reject you, ask him, but ONLY if your sure, and best do it in private
If you DONT have that much confdence, either drop super subtle hints, or just wait for him...

so bsicly, it depends on what type of person you are, kay?
XOX


eyeliner.. whats the best and popular brands of eyeliner? (link)
Bonjour- its awesome
miss sporty- pretty cheap, but its pretty good
Rimmel- Again, cheap, but awesome. (:




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