Member Since: August 24, 2010
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Nobody really comments on my wall and I see all these amazing pictures of other people with their friends having fun doing pretty much anything. but i only have a picture of myself cause i dont have any friends who invite me for things outside of school. i can literally count in a handfull how many times i've visited a friend's house, and I've been invited to less than 5 birthday parties (not family) in my entire life. I just look at the other people on facebook and feel so jealous. I want to remember high school as fun but I feel like Im just really missing out and I dont know what to do. How can I become better friends with people? I want best friends.. I've never really had one. Since I dont have anyone to hang with I spend most of my time on the internet, and even online I dont have best friends.. just nice people I randomly talk to. when i think about it it just makes me sad.. i mean im an optimistic person but i dont know what im doing wrong. i dont think i have major personality flaws or anything.. i feel like i should maybe get skinnier over the summer and wear better clothes.. but my family cant really afford much of the things i want. im really into music but i cant even get an ipod. i love fashion but the majority of clothes i own are from middle school and I'm 16! i just dont want to get depressed or anything, with keeping emotions to myself. i love to talk and have a good time but ughghgh. i look at other peoples facebooks and im just so jealous its redic. i never hang out with people.. this summer im in a new school and im trying to invite people for concerts cause i dont know how to invite people to my house. ive never done it before. where i used to live friends never came over.. and now i feel like im socially inept. i dont know how to handle that situation.. what to do and everything. i constantly worry over boring people or making them think im annoying. i got my first cell phone when i was 15 and i made a group on fb and everything and some people who i thought were friends posted their numbers and id text them and they'd be like "whos this?" so they dont even care about me. but those were people from my old school. i hope its different in this new one.. but i just feel heartbroken cause Im having the worst high school experience so far. i dont love being a loner.. im not really a quiet person. but i just dont fit in anywhere. and people seem to like me.. like i dont think i slip through the cracks, but nobody really goes anywhere with it and im too socially inept to know how to start convos like that! i dont care about being a loser or unpopular as long as i have friends. i dont even need that many.. 1 best friend, for start, would be amazing. Ive never met anyone who i've gotten along with great. i just feel like crying right now cause its so pathetic. and then i see albums on fb and people seem to have had the funnest time this year and they leave cute comments on each other's wall.. and im just a f***ing outcast. i like the way i am and everything.. i just want other people to like me too. it seems like i get along with people a lot better online than in RL. I havent even had a birthday party since age 10. im so mad i didnt have a sweet 16. my family was in the process of moving and we didnt have enough money to throw anything and i didnt even know who to invite.. even people i considered "friends" i wasnt really sure how they felt about me. im posting this now cause it was just a blow when i saw someone who had an awesome sweet 16 recently.. and then in the new town im in this girl i was talking to i thought we were becoming friends and she has a killer sweet 16, this huge party, and she doesnt invite me! i dont want the same thing happening again. gosh someone please please help me, i dont know where to turn. i have an older sister whos going through depression because of friend issues as well.. i dont want to go down the same route. things got very bad for her this year as well as my family.. its part of the reason my family moved to a different town.. in a totally different state. we're still trying to help her recover but there's still way to go. im not even best friends with my sister anymore.. we were when we were little but we broke off around the time i was 10 and she was 11. ever since we dont really know whats going on in each others lives.. like i didnt really know her friends or anything. we'd just go on the computer a lot and stuff. i wish we could be best friends though.. but its just hard now too cause of my sister's depression and we're very different people. we cant even share clothes, which i'd be fine with but she doesnt want it and my mom says its bad cause she shared things with her sisters and she talks to them a lot on the phone but i barely talk to my sister in person
my life from age 7 to now, age 16, is terribly boring. over the summer i rarely do anything significant cause my family cant go anywhere! my parents arent really interested in going to the beach or anything. i lived in freakin nj and i only went to the beach 3 times in 10 years. and i only went to new york city ONCE. cause my parents thought they should just work all the time while we stay at home on the computer all day! activities were too expensive.. i mean i play some sports but thats pretty much it you know. i cant even get a guitar or art supplies or etc. i cant get a job cause my parents wont pay for driving lessons or a car, and they wont want to drive me all the time. i feel like such a failure even though i know ive done some good things.. i feel like crying again. am i the only one like this? how can i change?
I feel like the highlights of my life so far was when I was 2-7 years old, and when I was 10. I dont want to grow up and tell my future kids that I didnt really do anything from ages 11-16 and maybe more.. like gosh i dont really have cool stories and stuff like other people. ive never really taken silly pics with friends or all those things i think people take for granted. all those movies like sisterhood of the traveling pants make me jealous too
please make this a priority question advicenators. i always turn to here when i have big problems cause people here really help. i know this is a long question but if i cant get help from here i seriously have no other place to go and i may become depressed myself. i just feel like banging my head against the wall now that i type everything and realize even more how much my life sucks. i mean even really poor kids often have good friends and everything. why is it so hard for me! (link)
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get a girlfriend! straight up dude everyone sees you got game they wanna be your friend, males and females. be yourself and put that person out there. even if a girl shoots you down instead of making it all awkward make it funny... laugh it off and keep a smile always. i only had like 3 girlfriends in highschool but we would date for a while and when your chillin with a cute girl a lot of dudes are gonna try to chill with you. save up some money and use it around those girls cuz ladys love a guy with a fat pocket.
keep your head up little homie... think of it this way everyones your friend. your just not theres!
the best way to make a friend is to be a friend. ask to hangout and always say yes when an opportunity comes at you
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