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I am dating a guy who is AMAZING! he has a 4 yr old who i love! my problem is that when we have her EVERY WEEKEND he sleeps in her bed with her every night! and when i tell her or ask her to do something he underminds me because its not what she wants!
he says he trys to give her her way bc he only hets her on the weekends... but its making it where im about to GIVE UP and tell him to pack his stuff and hers and get out of my apt!
but i really love him... so idk how to handle all this! (link)
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I once dated a man who had a child from a previous relationship, and at times it was a struggle.
If you really love this man, than you need to be sympathetic to what he is telling you about this situation ... he feels guilty that he is not there everyday.
All you can do is tell him that you understand and assure him that you want his daughter to have fun when the 3 of you are together but you also want her to have rules and boundaries.. the best thing for that little girl is for the 2 of you to give her a "family" environment on the weekends that she is at your place.
He should stand by your side when you have made a decision. Perhaps the two of you need to sit down and communicate a little more - u should ask him what he expects from you when his daughter is over on the weekends. Maybe he thinks you are asking to much of her...
I also gather from your message that you are getting frustrated that his daughter is over every weekend... Is it possible for him to spend some time with her during the week and than possibly her spending every other weekend...
In the meantime, it sounds to me like you and his daughter need a "girls day out" ... sounds like there is some tension and if you truly love this man you need to bond in a positive way with his little angel and if you can't than you should just let them go ... she is never going anywhere and she is only going to get older ....
I don't know your details like how long you and him have been dating and how long he has been a single dad .... this might be all new to him as well in respects to having a girlfriend and a daughter ....
good luck
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Hi, I'm in desperate need of some advice. I am a 26 year old man who has been dating a 36 year old woman for about 5 months.I am very concerned about the age difference and what that will mean for us down the road. Just last week we broke up and it has been killing me. I really like this girl and I want to be with her, but the age thing is just a 24/7 nagging issue in the back of my mind. We split up because she is wanting to be in a relationship with someone that will in a few years materialize into a family and having kids. I am terrified of this. I want a family and kids, but i'm 26 and thinking about that happening in the next couple of years scares the hell out of me. On the other hand, I really do not want to lose her, she is wonderful in every way, and though we are 10 years apart we are on most of the same playing fields, intellectually, physically, professionally, etc. I have been in only 3 relationships that have lasted more than a few months, and have dated many girls, and this is the first one that has ever meant something to me, the short of it is, I have fallen for her and I have been down and out since we split up. I need some objective advice. Do I try to get her back or do I just move on and accept that our age difference is just to much to overcome. Thanks in advance for the advice. (link)
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you have to follow your heart.
If you are thinking about the age difference this early in the relationship than maybe u should reconsider.
At least be honest about it to her...
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me & my boyfriend are both virgins, we have done everythink else wev bin goin out 4 6 months. hes 16 and im 15. wel we had dry sex ages ago he came all over me and did sorta entr me 2 but only a little bit. aneways that was 2months ago i havent had a period since. can i be pregnant? (link)
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time to see a doctor.
even if your not pregnant, you are starting to be sexually active. you owe it to your body to have regular checkups now and you owe it to your future to go on the pill.
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I have a girlfriend but i'm falling for another girl again and i really like them both what should i do? (link)
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looks like it is time for you to do some soul searching.
If you are seeking companionship from someone other than your girlfriend than either you do not love her or you are not getting everything u need from her.
Regardless, you chose to find someone else, therefore you determined the outcome of your relationship. You owe it to your current girlfriend to set her free so she is able to find a man who will be loving and loyal to her. After all, it's the least you can do ...
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so there's this guy he is pretty much amazing
we are really close friends.
he's been gone for a month and just came back today and i was acting pretty shy, it wasnt really obvious but like when i would lift my glass, because he was there, i would be shaking really quickly. and before he got there and before i knew he was like 20 minutes i was fine. i dont know its just weird. and i really like him. well pretty of girls like him i'm sure. and i get jealous when i think about girls that i know like him. what should i do. like i definitely can't talk to him about it because he would just tell his whole family which i'm close to and he has a really big family and they are really close and i just cant tell him but can you give me some advice on this please. (link)
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try to get some alone time with him.
If there is a mutual hobby you guys like thats a good place to start.
Or ask him if he wants to go and see a movie .. or go and get a bite to eat..
If he makes an effort to see you than you have a chance ... just don't wait to long..
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ok i went out with this boy then i broke up with him but nowi still like hi a lot and i regret breaking up wth him i still talk to him and were still friends but not like best freinds what should i do? (link)
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you either have to get over it or tell him how you feel.
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