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I'm young, but learning about life every single minute. I make bad decisions sometimes, but I never regret them.And though I sometimes dont know what to do, I know what I should do. Thats why I want to help people.I want to help them prevent the mistakes I'm learning on my own.So yeah, thats pretty much it.

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Well, i'm 14/f and my best friend is a girl and my age. We've experimrnted a couple of times this early year. She ended it in july this year (2005)cause she wanted things back the way they were when we didn't experiment and were close soul sisters (as we call ourselves to each other). I never got to say my total feelings about the whole thing. She says at times that she wishesi could be her girlfriend but in this world it isn't logical. I can't help, but want to kiss her and hold her passionatly. She's about to go on a cruise on Christmas eve this year and the i finally want to show her how i feel so the last day when i spend time with her i want to before a walk out the door i wanted to say this: I want you to so much be with me, but unfortunatly in your logical world that's not possible. Then i would hug her and kiss her softly on the lips and rush out the door. i just wanted to leave her with a thought in her head as she was on the cruise to let her know finally how i feel. Should i go for it?? PLLLLZZZ HELP ME!! I RATE HIGH!

~queencece~

You know what? I think you should actually go for it. If you still like her, maybe she still has lingering feelings for you.Take the risk, if she doesnt want to after, then she doesnt,i dont think it will change anything. But if you do it, that might just pull the trigger making her take that risk too. It could always make her forget about whats right or wrong and just go for what she truly wants.
Lol, by the way, this reminds me of a music video that has that same concept. It's called 'all the things she said' by Tatu...Maybe you guys should see it together, might help.

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I'm not allowed to date....but i have a boyfriend..but if my dad finds out he will like kill me!!! i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!

Ok. Well, the obvious thing is to not let him find out. It may not even last that long. But then again, what if you really start liking your boyfriend like a lot and want to make it official with your parents and everything? The best thing to do is to mature up, start doing chores and acting mature and responsible. Then sit with your parents and tell him that you think you can handle a relationship. Point out all the things you do, and maybe that will convince him. Even if he's not convinced, taking a risk and introducing your boyfriend to him may change his mind.

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okay well there is this guy that asked me out last year && i saw no. but now i regret it..because i guess i like him now..but now he is going out with my friend && everybody is like saying they are PERFECT for each other..&& i heard that he brought her a ring from jared`s && now i can`t stop thinking that it could have been me. but i`m not sure if i tell him he likes me he might reject me && me && my friend may not like me anymore..

Before you do anything, think. "Is he something you might risk your friendship for?" I mean, relationships come and go, but friendships last trough years. If you did tell him, and he dumped her for you, your friend would be hurt. And on top of that mad at you. And all those people would probably look at you in a bad way. And theres also the possibility he might say no. Then what? You would lose almost everything. Maybe you dont even like him that much. Maybe you're a bit jealous of your friends having something that could of been yours. You shouldnt try to take it away from her now. Just ignore it, something better will come your way. Or maybe they'll brake up and you'll have another chance with him. Then you wont look like a bad person in front of everyone.

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my friend says shes gonna kill hetself how can i stop her without telling anyone

Well let me tell you, many people can say that they are going to kill themselves. But when they have the knife in their hand and to their wrist, it's really hard to go trough with it. Many people think they can do it but dont have the guts. Im not saying your friend wont do it, and that you shouldnt do nothing

Because even if she's not going to do it, this is a time when she needs support. Take her out somewhere, or just sleep over at her house. Spending quality time reminding her of how some people care about her might help. Remind her that life will get better, but she wont feel better if she dies. She wont feel nothing at all. Suggest a hobbie for the two of you. Keeping her mind occupied on other things will help greatly.

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I have a really, really big website that I work really hard on, and it gets over 1,000 visits a day. I spend a lot of time writing the site, and researching for it, and sometimes I even spend money buying newspaper articles for my research. I do it because I like it but I DON'T like it when people plagiarize my site! I will spend a long time making a page just right and then someone will copy what I wrote and put it on their site without even saying where the info was from!

I have a page on my site explaining that if you're going to copy from me, at least put a link to me, but people don't listen. Just today I had to write another email to someone complaining because they had ripped off my site. Most times people agree to remove the stolen information or to put up a link, but sometimes they won't do anything and then I don't know what to do. Is there anything at all that I can do to prevent this from happening? It really makes me angry to see my hard work posted somewhere else without attribution.

Well, i dont think you should stop putting stuff on your site. Sure it's frustrating when someone takes something that is yours without permission, but you shouldn't let that stop you. In my opinion what you need is to go to google.com, put disable copy, and put one of those codes in your page so noone can copy your stuff. You can get one at http://www.hypergurl.com/norightclick.html
And remind people that it's an ilegal act to plagiarize, and they could get in big trouble for it.

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well theres this boy i think he likes me but im not sure we always talk on the phone abd stuff
he always joking around and stuff to!

how can u tell when he likes you??

Well, you could always see what he does for you. Like he's talking to some friends, if you go up to him and ask if you guys could talk in private and he agrees, it's kind of hinting that he does. Just flirt with him, see what his reaction is. If he flirts back, you definetely have his heart.

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well im relle upset right now because ok i liked this guy in one of my classes well this girl i didnt know that well kinda figured it out and started becoming my friend but she relle just pumped me for information about this guy and then told him that iliked him and a bunch of stuff i didnt do or say and he believd her and now i dont know what to do i think im over it but i feel used.....i feel so bad right now im so mad right now....:(

It's normal to feel used after someone you trusted backstabbed you, but dont let this bring you down. Remember karma, what goes around comes around. Dont do anything bad to her to get even, be nice to her and make her regret saying bad things. Eventually she'll get punished by luck. And about the guy, dont feel embarrased and just go talk to him. Ask him what she said and then tell him it's not true. I mean, if he believed her why wouldnt he believe you?

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