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Q: I just found out I'm pregnant and I know I should give my baby what is best for him/her but I really don't know much about pregnancy. This is going to be my first baby and it was completely unplanned so I'm pretty nervous/scared.
Anyway, I got to thinking yesterday about the things I eat and how healthy they might be for the baby. Then I was thinking...like, you're not suppose to give dogs chocolate (or so I heard) and stuff like that...you know, rules about foods...is there anything I'm not suppose to eat while I'm pregnant?
I have a doctor's appointment in two weeks but I want to get a jump-start on this...so if anybody can list some things I can and cannot eat while pregnant I would be really happy so I can show my doctor that I'm serious about caring for my baby.
Oh, and what about things I NEED to eat while pregnant?
Yeah, sorry, all these crazy pregnancy questions...haha...thanks for the help though!
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Avoid
Unpasturized products (such as soft cheeses though most soft cheese in the United States is pasturized. Check the label.)
Raw meat and sushi (california rolls are okay because the fish is cooked)
Large fish (swordfish, tilefish, etc). They tend to have a higher mercury content. Other seafoods like shrimp, crab, tuna, cod, salmon, etc are okay to eat and actually very beneficial to your little one just keep them to a minimum. 1 or 2 servings every 2 weeks.
There are debating studies and opinions about the use of artificial sweeteners during pregnancy. It's up to you whether or not you decide to ingest them.
Any products with raw eggs (cesar dressing, mayonnaise, cookie dough)
Heat deli meats and hot dogs to steaming before you eat them. There is a small chance of a listeria infection.
No alcohol or cigarettes
Keep fast food and chinese food to a minimum. They are loaded with salt and MSG.
As far as what you should eat, just make sure you are eating a healthy, balanced diet. Plenty of vegetables, fruits, proteins, whole grains, etc. Take your prenatals and DHA and you and baby will be fine.
Congratulations! Being a mommy is wonderful! You will love it!
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Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and he really, really loves me a lot. We lost our virginities together, we went to his prom last year together, and I was with him when his mom and dad divorced. I understand that he loves me a whole lot. The problem is that I don't love him and I haven't for awhile now.
I use to love him just like he loved me. As time passes I notice I don't have much feelings toward him. It's not that I wouldn't care if he died or something but I don't have any emotional pull toward him. I don't have that bond like we use to share. I don't feel butterflies when I see him or when we kiss. To be honest, I don't even want to talk to him or see him so often. I would be happy and satisfied if we only talked once every two weeks and "went out" once a month tops.
I stopped having sex with him two months ago but I didn't tell him it was because I felt guilty about doing it with him and not being in love. I told him that we really couldn't have a kid right now and I had had this realization of it. He bought it but I feel bad for lying to him about that sort of thing.
How do I break up with him? I know it's time to get it over with and tell him that we aren't meant to be together and that our relationship is not working out. He is crazy about me though. I don't want to hurt his feelings. His parents love me and I'm sure they're going to be upset about this too. How do you break-up with somebody who loves you when you clearly don't love them back?
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There really is no easy way to break someone's heart. Regardless of how you tell him, it is going to hurt. The best thing you can do is to just be truthful with him about the way you feel. You two have been through alot together and he deserves that much from you.
Don't give him reasons about not being ready for a relationship, feeling like you need time apart, etc. that people often give when they want to break ties as kindly as possible and prevent hurting the other person. Either way you are going to hurt him and to him, a guy who is still very much in love with you, it will sound like the possibility is still there when it's not.
I have been in your shoes and I can tell you that while he is going to grieve the loss of your relationship for awhile, he will move on and he will be okay. I found it best, in my experience, to break ties while he healed. Maintaining a relationship with him right after the breakup made it harder for him to understand that things really were over between us.
Don't take it personally or be surprised if he is angry about your split. He is grieving the loss of you and grief has stages of anger as well as sadness. It will take time for him to work his way through the process but trust that he will get there and he won't feel that way forever.
Good luck. Everything will be okay.
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Website: Gender: Female Member Since: February 26, 2010 Answers: 2 Last Update: February 27, 2010 Visitors: 627
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