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Dragonflymagic
Thank you for reading my question.

I am just confused and will like some help on gender identity. Here we go….

I have been assigned the gender of a girl, but I don't always feel that way. Before you start to think "Transgender?", let me get to a point.

For example, one day I feel feminine. I look in the mirror and I absolutely love my body. But the next day I look in the mirror and I hate it so much. (Wait, I'm not done yet.) Then the day after that, I look in the mirror and I don't really care. As in, I don't feel feminine or even masculine. That was just an example. Each feeling could last a few days at the most.

Sometimes, and this just makes it more confusing, I want to wear makeup while wearing a tomboy outfit. Or even the other way around. I want to wear a dress, but no makeup.

This might seem like normal, but I am just very confused on my gender. I think I have one, but sometimes I feel like I don't. But I know that I'm not agender. Please help me.

Thank you so very much. (link)
Clothes and makeup don't determine your gender; it's perfectly fine if you wear traditionally masculine clothes and still wear makeup, and it's perfectly fine if you wear a dress without makeup.


I had this gym teacher in high school school last semester teaching my gym class who is young, (30 I think) and she teaches physical education and English. She is a pretty cool teacher and nice. We will be about to do the swimming unit. When she was describing what stuff you need to bring she mentioned to the boys in the class (out of earshot of the girls) that with the boys not wearing shirts she can see how you really look and how fit you really are. At the time the boys laughed and nobody cared but I’ve been told by some people a comment like that is wrong and she should have not only got in trouble but even fired. Should she have? (link)
Yes, she should be fired. Imagine if a male teacher said that about a group of female students- he'd rightfully lose his job, so it shouldn't be different with swapped genders, in my opinion.


Can a girl lose her virginity though anal sex(yes or no) (link)
Yes.



I'm a female. I work for a home health agency and I visit clients at an assisted living facility. Some guys were gossiping about my uniform/body and the executive director made a complaint to the home health agency I work for. Some of the guys referred to me as the girl with the big _____. Wth, isn't that inappropriate?

They didn't even get in trouble for talking about me. The executive director called my agency to tell them that I'm a distraction, and he's not sure where I get my uniform from, blah blah. I wear scrubs to work everyday, nothing inappropriate. I'm a modest person. I bought some scrubs that were elastic/stretchy. They were good quality scrubs. I don't have to throw them in the dryer and they don't wrinkle. I let them air dry.

This isn't the first time that comments have been made by men at the job and all I do is mind my business. I don't think my boss cares. They just need someone to work. (link)
Those 'men' are being dicks. I'm a man and would never dream of doing such a thing. Report it to your boss.


I had to make a pause in playing games as I had my university exams.
After I've returned I fill a bit discomposed.
Most of the forums I used to love a year ago are dead now. I can't communicate with other people there, because no one actually is online!
Is that true and forums are dying? Am I getting old and young men communicate somewhere else on the Internet now? (link)
Whilst many forums are now defunct or outdated, there are still many TV based forums such as Digital Spy, TV Forum, and Previously TV.


Basically, at school this girl and I have stopped being friends and it has driven a wedge in between our friend group. The name I'm going to use for this girl is Barbara(I've never met one in my entire life) Our friends are corrupt. They will literally call me and complain or talk about the things they dislike about Barbara to me. I don't want to drive Barbara's friends away because Barbara was a best friend to me once and although she has said some very hurtful things, I wish nothing, but well on her. But the gag is after her friends talk about her to me, they hang out with her. I value my friends and I don't want to lose them. Along with a lot other stuff this is not good for my already terrible depression. (link)
It is not clear whether you are talking about your own friends, or Barbara's friends here.
If you're talking about Barbara's friends, the best thing to do would be to ignore the entire situation, but with your own friends, that would be a lot more difficult.
If you're talking about your own friends, try and find out why they dislike this "Barbara", and if you don't agree with their opinion, try to convince them otherwise, and tell them all the positive things about Barbara.

I hope this advice helps you, it must be terrifying suffering from bad depression.


24/f

I have recently gone on a trip to Egypt and I was highly disappointed by what I have experienced. I have researched incidents that had happened to me to see if this was common, I have only found one blog that had stated the same thing with comments stating the same thing happened to other tourists/visitors.

Because of this, I have been inspired to create my own travel blog (to explain to readers what to REALLY expect, all pros & cons, not just pros). I have a history and reputation for being "brutally honest" with all things.

However, I was told starting a blog called "Brutally Honest" would probably scare away readers. I was hoping I could get some ideas here. Any ideas would help! Thank you! (link)
Egyptian Escapades perhaps?
Travel Tips?
Tricks of Trips?
Veto Vacation?
Weak World?
Trip Blips?

Hope these are helpful.




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