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Gender- Male
Age-14
I am a very intelligent and shy person. There was a beautiful girl at my school by the name of Kamryn. I had liked her for a very, very long time, even though we didn't know each other very well. After speaking to one of my best friends (who is also one of Kamryn's best friends), I discovered that she liked me as well. On February 12th I finally worked up the courage to ask her out. I had gotten her a heart-shaped box of chocolates and a rose (as cliche as it may seem, it was almost Valentine's Day). She said yes, and it was then that I had my first girlfriend. I tried to do everything right; I sent her goodnight and good morning texts every night and morning, I compliment her everyday (I tried not to compliment her to much, as not to dilute the meaning, but simply couldn't help stating my mind). We still didn't talk too often during school (as we are both very shy and soft-spoken people). We did, however, text each other all the time. I attempted to make conversation with her whenever I could, but she never reciprocated. I am an INTJ, and contemplate every finite detail very thoroughly. I took any blame or negative aspect out on myself. Out of the blue, after only twenty days of dating, she told me that there are a lot of things going on in her life, and that she thinks we should break up. I understand her point of view, but as a person of pure logic and reason, I am having a constant internal battle of reasoning. I am seeing two equal and true perspectives. I keep analyzing all of the possibilities; perhaps she only said yes to spare my feelings. I have been deeply depressed. I haven't slept more than three hours a night, and haven't eaten anything since the breakup, nor have I spoken to anyone for any reason. There is no advice that can help me, but I never speak of my feelings to anyone, so I figured, "why not?" I expect to see all of the things that are all too common and all the less helpful; "It will pass," "You're young, you'll go through a lot of girlfriends," "You can't let it get to you," and the classic, "There are plenty of fish in the sea." (link)
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We have all been where you are. When it was me, I lost a bunch of weight I was depressed and alone. But then I dont know exactly what happened, but I realized that I am fucking awesome, and nothing can stop me from living. I would get up and listen to my favorite song, eat what ever made me feel good, and every time I saw that other person, just think about how fucking great I was and how they were missing out on all this amazing. Also obviously if she didnt work out, there is someone else out there who needs you much more in their life and vise versa.
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*** I'm so sorry that this is a little bit of reading, but please read. I am so confused. ***
Okay, so I realize this is sort of a weird question, but I need advice on if I should do this or not. It'll sound weird at first, but please bare with me.
A little background about me; I'm 15, in my first year of highschool. I have extreme anxiety and social anxiety (Which explains why I'm even asking this question in the first place).
Now for the question. I can't decide if I should make a personal instagram account. I am in a "special" private program at school (Due to the anxiety), and I have absolutely no friends at all. I only go outside once a week for school. Yes, I know it's depressing, but I'm at a tough point in my life that I'm currently trying to get cured for. Anyways, I don't know if I should make a personal instagram account and here is why; I am afraid of someone stealing my pictures and impersonating me. I am also afraid because I was bullied in elementary school and a little in junior high. I'm afraid of getting bullied on there too or something. I know, I know.
I'm still thinking about it. I wouldn't post any pictures of me at all (At ALL) except for my profile picture. I would follow old friends and stuff like that. That may sound awkward but yeah. Should I? I'd really just post things I'm interested in or whatever if that makes sense. Please help me make a decision, I'm so stumped. (link)
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Thats the great thing! You dont have to post anything you dont want to. Yet you can still socialize and comment to others. (And you were saying how what if people steal your pics and impersonate you...thats because they probably think you are beautiful and would love to be you...not that you want that but come on!) I also believe that its a great first step. But if you are still questioning it I suggest flipping a coin, and before you look at the coin think about which answer you are hoping for... and that is the decision you should make.
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