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Well... I've had a lot of columns here, but it's been quite a while! (: Basically - I'm an eighteen year old girl living with her lovely boyfriend Andrew and our dog, Duke. :] I graduated from Utica High School in 2007 and moved out shortly after. I've been a manager with McDonald's for roughly three months now, and it's okay. :/ I really like helping people though, so if you guys have any questions - guys or girls, I'm pretty sure I'll be able to help you out. I really love to listen, to laugh and to love!

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so im 16 now but way back in the day when i was a bad kid, i used to steal and i got caught when i was 12. so i think i got arrested.. i was put in handcuffs and got driven to the police station and was put in a cell.. i also had to take those pictures of your face and the side. so i had to go to court and everything and i think they told me that in about a year or 2 i could call in and clear my record but i just did and they said i had to go through all these steps. but anyways. today i went to fill out a job application and i said no of ever being convicted. so basically my question is: is stealing considered conviction or no?

On most applications, it'll ask specific questions like "Have you been convicted of a FELONY". Stealing isn't a felony.

I think you'll be alright.

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Okay so I met this boy in December, and he is pretty much hilarious ha.

When I first met him I was talking to my friend Alex and Tommy comes over and says: Alex, is this the girl you always talk about?
Me: Ohh, Alex, what do you say about me?!
Alex: Nothing, he's just like that, ignore him.
Tommy: No, Alex, Come on, tell her!

Anyways we started talking a lot after that. Then we slowly stopped and now we barely do. I think I sort of like him, but I don't know?

Last Saturday, I was talking to him and he said to text him, so I texted him Sunday at like four and said hey and he never answered so I did later and said we need to hang out soon.. and then we were talking for awhile. Well we decided to go to the movies Friday.

On Wednesday I texted him and said hey but he never answered. Thursday I said go to to the movies on Saturday, and he didn't say anything. Yesterday(Friday) I heard he went to the movies, so I felt kind of bad.. So I texted him and said Tommy(: , but he never answered and he texted my friend and asked who is this.. so I was just like wow, but I dunno I'm going to the movies tonight, so I might see him?

So yeah I don't really know what to do? What do you think? Thanks.



PS; I don't plan on talking to him for awhile if I don't see him tonight, because I feel kind of annoying.

He's not interested. If he was, he would have went to that movie with you.




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EDIT - You rate me bad because... what? You said you made plans to go see a movie and he went without you... so if you guys made plans and he just went without you... it doesn't seem like he's to into you. Get over it.

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has a girlfriend
its been a month since we broke up
we were together for 5 months
when he broke up with me i was a wreck.
i was a wreck before i knew he had a girlfriend
now that he does its worse
this is torturing me
i hate this
i cant take my life
my friends arent supportive
i hate where i live
my grades dropped since we broke up
i cant handle school
i know there are worse things happening in the world
but on my own scale this is the bottom.
help me please.
ive been trying to get over him
i had oppurtunities with other guys
i didnt take them because the only guy i can think about is him
i cant believe he moved on so fast.
it was both of our first relationships
both our first kiss.
help me please.
i cant do this.


thanks;
hopelessxx

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This is a sad question. I'm sorry you had to experience something so tragic. First of all, your friends are dick heads if they don't support you when you're obviously so upset. This is a pain that cannot be explained in words, of taken away with words so my advice for you is; cheer up!

Realize that this boy wasn't the only guy in the world, and statistically, you'll have many more before you meet "the one". If he broke up with you because of YOU, then it's a blessing in disguise. You learned that he's way to immature for you and he's inadvertanly giving you a chance to be with someone else [the other guys?]

Take a step in the other direction and give another lucky boy a chance. You will not regret it.


PS: coffee icecream and some good cable will make you happy!


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Prom is comming up soon for me and its not that i cant dance... i live in a small town where nobody dances. and i feel that if you go to a DANCE.. you should dance. (prom is the only dance i want to go to because i need to save college money.. so this is my first one).. but i know they will play some rap or hip hop and i want to be able to dance to it. if i try to dance to it "the way i feel" i dont move and i just stand around because i dont get how people dance to that stuff(grinding???? i dont even know what to do with that). can anybody tell me how im supose to dance any moves or whatever that people do or soemthing because i feel REALLY dumb being a girl and not dancing.. please help or explain anything. thanks.

First of all, if you have a date/boyfriend, this should be very easy. "Grinding" can go two ways. Your back could be facing him and you just sort of move to the beat of the music. If you're facing him, it's the same thing. At prom, they do play a lot of hip hop songs because people wanna just dance and go crazy. :] [I've been to two] Slow dancing is way easy.. just hold eachother and move to the beats of the music.

If you don't know how to measure beats, [for example, clap along, stamp your feet, etc] then you're hopeless.


Good luck!


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Hello,
My son is 15 and he's always been a ''rebel''.
Me and my husband are relaxed with him, so if he wants piercings, we let him get them...but we defenetly don't let him drink or smoke.
The other day I found out that he had been having sex with his two year girlfriend. It isn't like our family believes in ''no sex before marriage'' but it was kind of shocking to me because I always though that he would wait until he was (at least) 16.
He has been out a lot lately and yesterday he came home with an eyebrow piercing. I am not against piercings at all, in fact, I love them, but he didn't even tell me that he was going to get one.

It seems to me that he's not communicating with us anymore, and he sent me a text this morning, asking whether he could go get drunk with some friends. Now, I am defenetly against drinking...but I know he will do it anyway, even if I say no!
He smokes ''socially'' as he told me, I don't approve but I cannot do anything about it. He's always been a popular boy, but I want to know how I can make him talk to us more, trust us and also, not get drunk whenever he goes out!
What do you think I should be doing?
What are some punishments I could use?
And just advice how I could feel better?


Thank you.

PS! He gets mostly A's in school, some B's and he doesn't spend his time at home on the computer or playing video games...or watching TV. He spends his free time at home playing guitar, writing songs for his band and so on...so he's not a lousy student.

First off all - Your kid is his own person OBVIOUSLY so you're right. Even if you told him not to get drunk, he'd do it anyway. A good way to have him trust you is to say things like "You know that I don't approve of you drinking, but I know you're going to do it anyways. Please just have a designated driver and be safe." Something like that so he knows you're not trying to get too nosey or "mom-ish" but at the same time, he'll know he can come to you with things and know you're not going to freak out.

As for the sex - Simply tell him to use protection.



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