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Q: I'm 15 and I love the emo style a lot of people say I look Emo. Anyways I have never cut myself before and suddenly I got really mad at my mom for something stupid and suddenly felt like cutting, why?
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Most people cut because they find it relieving from anger or sadness or because they suffer from Depression and they think they need to punish themselves. It can become dangerous because they can come too close to cutting a vein. I did it for 6 years because I found it to be calming and I was disgusted in myself. Cutting can be addictive once you start so If you feel like you can't stop then you should talk to someone about it, whether it be family, friends or even a professional therapist.
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Q: You answered a question before for me, about how I had to be either depressed or bipolar.. And it's getting worse. I went out last night with a friend, and we had a blast- I fealt normal.. But right when I got home, and was alone... I started thinking would she miss me if I died? Could she? I can't sleep at the moment because my brain won't shut off.
I had such a good day yesterday, how could that girl be me?
I tried telling a friend that I've had thoughts about dying, and instead of trying to reassure me even though I wouldn't believe her anyway she told me she didn't know what to say.. And we haven't talked since. I'm afraid to go to school tomorrow because I don't know how she's going to look at me. It's not suicidal thoughts though...
But I don't know how to tell my mom. Is she going to react the same way Devon did and not be able to talk to me and think I'm a freak? Also, I'm so good at faking it that it sometimes scares me. But I have to try to hard to fool everyone, what if she doesn't believe me?
What if she just thinks it's a cry for attention, especially now. Friday doctors found a lump in my Dad, and the doctor who found it wouldn't tell my dad what it was, but made an appointment with our primary doctor to tell him, and everyone is worried that it's cancer. If it's cancer, how am I supposed to handle that? How do I tell my mom I've been thinking about dying when that's happening to my Dad.
And even if she does believe me, what do I tell my Doctor? Depression runs in my family, my Mom suffers from it, and so has my oldest brother Scott since the age of seventeen. I don't know if that really is heritary...
It's different like this, because I don't know you. You could be judging me, but I wouldn't know it. My doctor though? Being face to face with him and havin to tell him the thoughts that I've lived with for months infront of my mom..
I need help, because I'm tired of being sad and trying so hard to be normal but having no way out. But I don't know if telling her would help anything.
I'm sorry for randomly asking you a question, but I was hoping you would answer this quickly because I'm scared.
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You're not the only person to ever feel like this. I know what it's like though, feeling like someone won't believe you and instead call you a freak and call you an attention seeker. There's a friend of mine who told me straight up that he never knows what to say when someone tells him they're going through something bad and so, I hold back on telling him If ever I'm having negative thoughts, Suicidal or not, but I do tell my therapist and it helps. No matter how big or small, you should tell someone, anyone who is willing to listen.
Sit your mom down and say "so this is how I'm feeling" and explain what's going through your head. There are a lot of people who tell their parents and don't get a helpful response in return, and that doesn't mean they don't believe you or don't care about you, they just don't know how to react. Don't be afraid to seek counselling if you feel like your friends or family aren't listening. Yes, they are strangers, but they are trained to handle people's problems and they do not judge.
It's terrible what your Dad is going through and I'm sure he has a lot of support, but it's not good to hold in your feelings, because they will get worse and eventually you'll snap. I never told my Mom or Dad what I was going through, instead my teachers read something I wrote and decided to get my parents involved, and even then, my mother didn't care much because she has severe bipolar so I felt the need to put my feelings aside to run to her rescue, and It put me on the edge because I too needed help, but I never got it until I got worse with my thoughts. Both you and your Dad can have support at the same time. It's not about who's problem is bigger that needs more attention.
I know what it's like to think "Would they miss me if I died?", I think it all the time, but I know I have people who care about me and who would miss me if I died. Some days, I just don't want to talk to anyone because I think "What's the point?". I also sometimes feel like my doctor is judging me but I know he can help by referring me to a therapist or even talk to me about it a little. Doctors are there to help, not judge and it may feel like they are judging, but really, they aren't doing anything but worrying. When I went out with a guy, I always thought he didn't care because he was a bit distant but later on I told him in the heat of the moment(more like yelled it) "This is me. This is how I'm feeling and I need your damn help", and he did help. Some people just need to be told straight up. Never be afraid to ask for help.
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Q: There's something wrong with me. I always cry, just yesterday a guy yelled at me and told me to shut up and I cried to hard I had to leave the room. I hate large crowds, and feel uncomfortable always. I have mood swings, but not like one minute to the next, more like one day I feel like I'm on top of the world- next I can barely get out of bed. Mostly though, I have to modivate myself to get out of bed thinking of reasons to go to school. I've tried thinking of happy thoughts, I've tried setting goals of happiness to achieve and nothing is working. I try so hard to be happy, and I never seem to be. I always ache, and I'm always tired. Even if I went to bed early. Going to bed anyway is impossible because my brain never shuts off. I can drive myself insane hearing the same thought go over and over in my head. I listen to my iPod constantly, always have a headache because I don't like communication.
I also have thoughts... But not what I think is suicidal thoughts more of thoughts like if I died no one would miss me and tht I'm not needed.
This isn't normal.
I'm sixteen, and a female. My Mom says it's normal to be moody, but to cry all the time? To never be able to have a genuine smile even when something good has happened.
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Your age shouldn't give it an automatic "miss", It should still be taken seriously. I was 13 when I first started experiencing exactly what you wrote. I even got so angry for no reason that every noise irritated me and I had to walk back and forth to control my anger. I'm now 19 and been on lexapro for almost 2 years, before then I took other medication and been in therapy.
Your situation does sound like depression and maybe even mild case of bipolar, but since there are no tests to say whether you're bipolar or not, you'd have to talk to your doctor and explain what you have done here and he will go through some options with you, and one of them could be to try medication(if you want and your mother agrees). I know how you're feeling, trust me, it sucks big time to feel that way all the time, so go talk to your doctor and even organise to see a counsellor.
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Q: ok everyone i want your view on something...
lets say hypothetically that a guy and a girl like each otherthey have all the aspects of a relationship without the titlenow lets also say hypothetically that the girl decides she wants to kiss someone else without repercussionsBUT the boy cant do the same because the girl says he cant(there will be repercussions)what are your views on that?is it fair? not fair
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No it's not fair. If he can't kiss someone else than neither can you. It would only be fair if he can do it too.
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Q: so i see this guy in the hallway a lot
and i think he likes me and i like him because we both look at eachother everytime we see eachother
im just to shy and scared to approach him but everytime i don't i feel bad and like i missed out
i think he might have a girlfriend
i keep thinking about it and its annoying me
what should i do
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If your too shy to start a conversation, maybe walk past him and as you do, hand him a piece of paper with your phone number on it saying to call you. If he's in one of the same classes as you, you could ask him to help you with a certain assignment(even if you don't really need help). You's don't have to talk all the time, but the more you do, the more you'll become less shy and the question if he has a girlfriend might come into a convo, or maybe he'll even ask if you have a boyfriend. Good luck :-)
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I'm just a 20 year old girl trying to find her place in this big crazy world.
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Gender: Female Location: Australia Age: 20 Member Since: October 28, 2008 Answers: 5 Last Update: April 11, 2011 Visitors: 1522
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