My name`s Ana and i am open related person, so anyone who needs help for whatever it is -i`m here .
E-mail: velkova1@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Macedonia
Age: 22
Yahoo: ana_starkoska@yahoo.com
Member Since: December 14, 2010
Answers: 1
Last Update: December 14, 2010
Visitors: 934
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20 year old female. Second year in college.
I have problems making friends in person. It's so simple online when you say whatever, and people "add" you for liking the way you think, or liking your sense of humor. I feel like I act the same way offline as I do online, except I'm a little more shy in person [even tho' somtimes I can be pretty quiet online as well].
SO I pretty much act the same way both on and offline... why do people act differently towards me? For example... I can be getting along well with someone from a class, then the next time I see them they act as if they don't know me. Why would they do that? VS online, when greeted with enthusiasm.
Also, I've gotten more compliments on my looks online than I have offline. When I have gotten compliments offline, it was usually to get me to buy something [or for modeling, when I was a kid]. But the only guys who have approached me were womanizers, just trying to get into as many pants as they possibly could. They were pretty indiscriminate, too. I've never dated anyone since no one ever approached me, and I never thought too much of myself, either.
But the rare occasions I've showed a picture to people online ["i'll only show you my picture if you show me yours"], i get "9/10" ratings [i wouldnt even ask for one, so this always makes me feel weird] and people saying how beautiful i look and how they're surprised i was never asked out on a date, etc. I tell them not to say things like that if they wouldnt dare say it offline... All this makes me feel strange, and I wonder:
-why is it that people act kind towards me online, and shun me out offline?
-what makes me unapproachable offline?
the only people i have been interested in [to date] i've met online. ive been told it's pathetic to meet up with online people for dating, even tho there are a lot of dating sites and success stories, but i keep getting told i seem like the kind of person who would be successful offline. I'm just really confused and sometimes I feel alone and sad over this... (link)
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First, Hello.
When I read your "story", first that get on my mind was : why you are so obbsesed with internet so much ? I understand you very well, and i really share that one with you: people when are online are acting free and are talking all kind of stuffs wich when they meet you will think twise would they dare to say all those same net-sharing talks in your face . But it`s the human nature and you should not be so negative and hard to your self. You are not the reason for that kind of responses and as i said It`s the human nature . So I will give you next advise : 1st- try to make friends more in real world , forget the internet for a while... And if that does not help you you can always try next : When you will chat with someone online try to get him/her to ask her/him self what kind of person you are and dont "undress" your full personality in front of her/him.Hugs and I hope you will understand the point here , and that is - don`t get so opsed with that internet friendship couse there are always those Real friendship .
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