my name is Michelle. I'm 19 years old, currently working as a recreational supervisor. I love going to the gym, swimming, running, sleeping, reading, looking at the stars, talking on the phone, hanging out with my boyfriend and friends, and just generally like to have a good time.
I'm happy to help with any questions you might have - I'll answer them the best i can!
xoxo
Gender: Female
Location: Canada
Occupation: Recreation supervisor
Age: 19
MSN: peaches1847@live.fr
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I'm going to try to shorten my life story, so here it goes;
When I was a kid, my life was literally perfect. Of course, a lot of people's are when they're a kid. But everything was just so perfect and now, within the last couple of years, my life has changed so drastically and I can't get a hold on the fact that that's just how life is. In the past couple of years;
-my parents got a divorce because my mom cheated on my dad
-my brother (I am VERY close to him) has been on and off drugs and was sent to an insane asylum and Juvinille detintion center for aggravated assault.
-My brother got his girlfriend pregnant and they ran away together. He recently came back and is under house arrest.
-My dad really dislikes my mom but my mom is really ditzy and thinks life is fine right now.
and there's more. I'm not saying all of this for pity, I'm really not. I'm sick of pity, because I've probably got it better then most people out there. But apparently I am my family's therapist or something because everyone talks to me about everything. I'm only 14! My dad tells me how much he doesn't like my mom, my mom tells me how screwed up my brother is (which is bull, because she never talks to him and doesn't even know him that well), and my brother tells me all of his thoughts. I love him to death, but his thoughts are scary, even to him. He's extremely screwed up, and he knows it. He's told me so many things and I just feel like he needs real help. I can't say what he's told me, because he trusts me, but I will say he's very bipolar, he's very depressed, and he's suicidal. I could not live if he killed himself, I'm afraid I would lose it. He's described to me very graphic things he's thought about. I just don't know if I can handle any of this stuff anymore. Everyone's always known me as the optomistic person who gives advice, but I don't know what to say when it comes to all this.
All of this makes me continuously think back to my childhood and miss it. It actually hurts to think back to then, remembering how great it was then. There's just so much going on right now, I feel like running away or something. Not because I'm running away from my problems, but because I want to run away from what's going to happen to all these people if they continue thinking the way they do.
And on top of all of these feelings, many of my best friends don't know what they're doing, because they come to me for advice too. Of course, their problems are quite minimal compared to my families, as most of them are just about typical teenage girl stuff, but it's still like adding leaves to the fire. Everyone comes to me for advice and no one just stops and helps themselves.
I just can't handle life anymore. Not meaning to sound suicidal, because I'm not. I also don't think I'm depressed. But I believe being so nostalgic might continue to hurt me until I am depressed. I feel like I'm wearing a mask, different for everyone I talk too and I can only be myself when I'm nostalgic. Please help, I'll rate you or whatever, I just need help.
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:( it sounds like you've had a really rough time honey.
I think you best plan would be to start with your friends - I'm not sure whether you've told them about your problems. You can either talk to them about the stuff thats going on with you, or at least , tell them that you have stuff going on at home (you dont have to be specific) and ask if they would maybe back down on asking for advice for a while?
Then, you need to talk to your Mom and Dad. You need to tell them that while you appreciate that they both have problems - they have NO right to pile it all on you. Being 14, still in school, you should be more worried about boys, homework and friends. Obviously you care and want to be involved in your family, but you shouldnt be the advice giver for everyone. Hopefully once they hear what youre going through too - they will try and lift some of the wight off your shoulders.
If this doesnt work, try speaking to your guidance counselor at school or something, they will be able to help you, and could even talk to your parents for you.
Hope that helps sweetie, and good luck!
xoxo
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do you guys prefer all the hair "down there" shaved off or just leave it alone? share your thoughts please.
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Most guys arent bothered at all about what it looks like. Keeping it tidy is always good though - its not necessary to shave it all off!
Hope that helps xoxo
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i was unresponsible and had unprotected sex. when should i take a pregnancy test? i know 5 days before your missed period but i don't really understand because i don't know if i'm like going to miss it for sure. i'm almost positive i'm not, i just want to be totally sure. (link)
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It depends on the kind of test that you buy. Some say that you can take them whenever during your cycle. Others, you have to wait until just before or after the date you are meant to get your period. I'd go into the pharmacy and either ask the pharmacist for help, or make sure to read all the packaging, to make sure you buy the one you are most comfortable with.
Hope that helps! xoxo
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