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Q: why do guys like to give anal sex. I know that most girls don't like it but most guys insist on it. I dont understand why though, just the thought of it to me is gross for both parties...so if any guys could answer this question for me...thanks then

Im not a guy but i know alot of guys that want that and they tell me why because i ask them why they think thats good to do anal sex and most of them say its because your tight back there and it feels better than where they regularly put there egos..lol..i also think its disgusting and puts you at major risk of any transmited diease because it rips your tisue down there

Q: I definitely need someone's advice who knows what there talking about. I am on Yaz birth control I have been for about a year now, I went away with my friends this past weekend and forgot to take 2 of my pink pills. I am a sunday starter. I forgot the pill staurday of my second week and sunday beginning my third week. I woke up this morning and had my period which i was not suppose to get until next weekend. I took saturday and sundays pill today Monday April 20th. and then i took my monday pill at my normal time. But not what do i do? The website said to take until sunday then throw out the pack but does that mean i take it for a whole other week and then start a new pack? i am so confused and i need advice ASAP thank youu!

Hi, iam on birth control also but i dont take the pill because like me ill forget to take it so i got this birth control called the DEPO shot its a shot i get every 3 months and i never get periods i dont know anything bout birth control pills other than the people i know taking the pills until they are ready to have kids but then when they stop taking them so they can try to get pregnant they end up not being able to have babies later on in life so i think that if you cant remember to take the pills then get on the DEPO shot its more convienent for me and i dont ever get a period thats awsome. and sorry i didnt have any real advise for you about the pills so i thought id give you this advice. hope thats ok and good luck

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Right now I'm really scared... So I hooked up with my friend on Friday, April 10th... I went down on him, and he didn't finish before I stopped.. I probably got a little pre-cum in my mouth if anything.

The next day or so.. I had a cold sore. It's April 14th now.. and its starting to heal... well almost all the way gone, but I also have soars on the top of my lips that I just noticed today.

Just two tiny little bumps though, and I have REALLY clear skin.. I never break out, I don't think it could have been anything I've eaten, because anything I've eaten has been things I've always eaten.

Could it be herpes? I mean, he's only been with one partner.. I'm not sure how many people she's been with though...

This was the second time we hooked up. The first time was about a month and a half ago, and we did the same things, just foreplay.. I went down on him, but he didn't finish before I stopped... And nothing ever happened after then, no break outs or anything... I don't know if I got any pre-cum in my mouth, I'm assuming some... but I really don't know..

Could this me herpes? I'm really scared.
Or is this just a coincidence...?

Please help.

Also, where can I get this checked out.. at a regular doctor's office?

Hi, I looked up herpes and here is wat i read:

Genital Herpes - CDC Fact Sheet

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What is genital herpes?
How common is genital herpes?
How do people get genital herpes?
What are the signs and symptoms of genital herpes?
What are the complications of genital herpes?
How is genital herpes diagnosed?
Is there a treatment for herpes?
How can herpes be prevented?
Where can I get more information?

Genital herpes is a sexually transmitted disease (STD) caused by the herpes simplex viruses type 1 (HSV-1) or type 2 (HSV-2). Most genital herpes is caused by HSV-2. Most individuals have no or only minimal signs or symptoms from HSV-1 or HSV-2 infection. When signs do occur, they typically appear as one or more blisters on or around the genitals or rectum. The blisters break, leaving tender ulcers (sores) that may take two to four weeks to heal the first time they occur. Typically, another outbreak can appear weeks or months after the first, but it almost always is less severe and shorter than the first outbreak. Although the infection can stay in the body indefinitely, the number of outbreaks tends to decrease over a period of years.

if you have little clear bubble things on the inside of your lips then dont worry about it just pop them because i have braces and i get little clear bubbles is wat i call them and all i do is pop them, but i dont know what your blisters look like so i couldnt tell you exactly but I think that you should get it checked and yea you just go to your regular doctor and have them check you out and they will tell you exactly. good luck i hope i helped.

heres a website with some information about herpes

http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/STDFact-herpes.htm

Q: So i know the only safe sex is no sex. but me and my boyfriend have been dating and it's pretty serious. we both really want to do it, but i'm so paranoid about getting pregnant! even with a condom! any advice? I'm 15, i'm not ready to be a mom haha.

your right the only safe sex is no sex but i think that waiting for the right guy is way more worth it then getting pregnant with a guy that is going to leave you right after you guys have sex and think your 15, i am 17 and have a baby, i got pregnant when i was 16 and its hard work he takes alot of attention and takes up alot of my time (im not complaining) i love him so much, but i think that you should wait for the right guy because let me tell you my first time wasnt with the guy i wanted it to be and i ended up falling madley in love with him after cuz he was my first and i dont know what it is but when its your first time with someone then your emotions take control like you fall in love with him and when he breaks up with you it hurts badly and it takes along time to heal, and i finally healed but i wish i could have waited for the guy i have now it would have been worth the wait, so i hope you make a adult decision correctly, i know people that have had sex for the first time and got pregnant so just becareful i hope i helped some and i didnt mean to lecture you if i did, you should talk to your mother about sex especially if you have these feelings im sure she would be of more help to you because she has you.

Q: So yesterday (Sunday) my boyfriend and I were fooling around. Things got very heated, but there was no actual penetration. Both of us had our underwear off, however, but his penis only made contact with my vagina for a few seconds, when he was massaging my clit with it (not the actual hole). There was no precum at the moment, I had wiped it dry beforehand. I'm wondering if there could have possibly been any remanents on the head of his penis, and if there is any possible way they could have made their way into my actual vagina and gotten me pregnant. Like I said, there was no wetness, and he did not come. I'm just terrified. Please help!!

I believe in order for you to get pregnant he has to actually come alot inside of you because the sperms have to be able to swim up and find your egg that drops down when your on your period so if he didnt fully come inside you then its highly unlikely you would get pregnant because i have unprotected sex with my husband all the time and i make sure he doesnt come inside me but he has drips of cum on the tip of his penis and i havent got pregnant yet so i wouldnt worry to much about it look this stuff up on the net thats where i learn all my info, and if you get to worried about it theres nothing wrong with taking a pregnancy test just to make sure. I hope i helped :P

Q: do yo love sex?
how big dick size did you have?
how many time you can cum?

no i dont love sex i dont see how people say its the greatest ever because i dont like it, and i dont pay attention to his size, sizes doesnt matter to me because its what is on the inside that matters and how he treats you and i dont know how girls cum.

Q: A couple weeks ago, I experienced a very strange period. It wasnt dark cherry red at all, it was brownish. And even stranger, the flow was not heavy. I didnt have to change pads. Usually my flow gets very heavy for a couple days and lasts 4 or 5 days in total.
For the second month in a row, I used the Plan B pill. Could this have something to do with it? This past month I used the pill as a precaution. My bf didnt actually fully cum in me. And in Feb. I had a normal period.
Has anyone who has taken Plan B experienced abnormal periods? Or am I most likely pregnant?
I know I need to take a pregnancy test, I would just like to know if anyone has had weird periods after taking Plan B. Or weird periods in general and wound up not pregnant...Im so scared :/

Well i have that to and im on the depo shot i get brownish blood in my underwear sometimes to so i dont think its a big deal and ive been with my BF for about 3 years and have had unprotected sex to and im not pregnant but he hasent cummed in me so i dont know how accurate your birth control is but i have the brownish blood to i cant say for sure what it is because i never ask but im sure its normal i think that whenever you get this brownish blood its just that its the time of your period and the blood cant really get out because of your birth control i dont worry bout it because nuthing is hurting me inside so im sure its nothing seriouse but if your too worried about it then you should go see your doctor. And if you think your pregnant you should take a pregnancy test right away not wait. because if you are you need to know if your pregnant so you dont do anything to hurt the fetus. hope i helped good luck.

Q: I am female that just turned 18 the other day. There is this guy that I am interested in and I just started admiting my true feelings recently. We've only known each other for a few months but it feels like we've known each other a lot longer.

I've known for a while now that he likes me but I kept second guessing my feelings for him. At first I was overwhelmed by the attention that he was showing towards me. It was something I wasn't use to receiving very often (seeing as at the time I was 17 & never had a boyfriend). The more time we spent together the more affectionate and agressive he became.

Even though we aren't "officially" together he constantly tells me he loves me and calls me little pet names. Over time I have grown some strong feelings for him. In fact I think I'm falling in love with him. Still I hadn't mustered up the courage to let him know exactly how I felt. It was because of his bad boy mentality and the close relationship he has with my sister that I was being so hesitant.

Around the same time I decided to put everyhing on the table and possibly start a relationship with him things got complicated. Me and him had sex and it was the first time I had sex. I wasn't forced into it but I still wasn't anticipating it. It happened faster than my brain could grasp what was going on. Afterwards I didn't know how to act around him. We had sex before I could even let him know how I felt.

We didn't get an opportunity to really talk about what happened. I was really confused and disappointed in myself. I came to terms with it and we we finally became halfway normal again. Even though we still weren't a couple.

I recently moved in with my sister and he spent the night and we had sex again (a month after the first time we did it)... This time I was aware of what was going on and I wanted it. He spent the night again the next night and woke me up and told me to follow him and when I walked in the room he said,"Let's do it!" Some way or another he ended up covincing me to do it even though I didn't really want to. Then afterwards he just said goodnight and that was it... The next day was my birthday and instead of him getting me something (which I didn't mind because he's not entitled to get me anything and he doesn't have money like that right now) he asked me for money and I gave it to him. Is he using me?

He really confused me because one day he asked me why I act like I don't love him and I asked him to explain what he was talking about and he wouldn't. Then the later in the same day he asks me if I want to be his "sis" as in play sister! I told him no and he asked why not. I then asked him what would I get out of that, he replied that he wouldn't mess me like that any more! That completely threw me for a loop (mind you this is my birthday). Then he refers to me as his sis to someone else. Later in the same night he started flirting with me again and acting the way he always does!

What does he want from me?!?!? It feels like he's just using me sometimes but because I know him I don't think that's it. Also I wondered if he even wants a relationship. This is driving me crazy!!

Please help me!

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take the advice that the first girl gave you she even gave me some advice on what i should do, my BF is sorta the same way he gets aggressive towards me and is way way to protctive of me and he always wants to do things with me when i dont want to then he gets mad because i dont want to so it seems you are getting used if u guys do things when you dont want to and he asks you for money think of it this way your paying him to do things with you when you dont even want to so i think you are getting used im sorry and if hes your first that youve done things with then its going to be really hard to break away from him but over time you will see that hes not the right guy for you. your way better than him watch the movie Twilight that movie made me change how i feel about my BF because the guy in that movie is so sweet to the girl but watch that movie see if it changes how you feel it made me change how i feel and now im not even with my BF. hope my advice helps some.

Q: For about 4 years now, my vagina has had a very foul smell to the point where my boyfriend does not even want to go down there. right when i take my underwear off, i smell it. i have been to the doctors many times for this and noone can find anything wrong. no infections, nothing. i just need that miracle thing to fix this and i dont know what to do.

Hi, i had this problem along time ago when i was first starting puberty try taking showers everyday or everynight and wash down there with a very good and strong body wash, and drinking lemon juice lemons help flush out bad things in your body and if those dont work there are always deodorant for down there i think you can buy tit at like walmart i dont think that its over the counter perscriptions, or just use your regular deoderant. Hope my advice helps some.

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Well I am a 17year old/F and Im an outgoing person I get along with mostly any1 who comes along, I have brown hair dark brown eyes, and I like giving advice so im glad I found this page..lol..Ill try my best to answer anyones questions I dont judge people so dont be affraid to ask me. :P