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I have some questions about mostly everyhting that has to do with pleasuring your partner. I'm a virgin and unexperienced. Okay here goes...

Once you get on birth control or take the pill or whatever, is it possible for your parents to find out eventually?

Can your gyno tell if you're on the pill or birth control?

What are whipped cream & strawberries used for; like where do you place them and stuff?

How can you get rid of the odor down there? Are guys actually enjoying the smell of it? And if possible, is there anything you can eat/drink to make the smell/taste better?

What are the best type of condomns? Most effective?

Thanks in advance.

Not unless you are sloppy, and dont hide the pills when you have them at home. Your doctor, not just a gynocologist, is the one that perscribes them to you. You can make an appointment by yourself if you know how to do so, and get the perscription for you through your doctor. It is against the law for them to tell your parents ANYTHING that goes on in the rooms unless you consent for them to do so. Birthcontrol can get expensive though, so make sure you have a source of money before you hop on the pill.


Im not sure if what you are talking about is some kind of strange sex toy or the food, so I am just gonig to answer it like the food. I am sure they are just used as a type of foreplay, so the guy can have an excuse to lick all over you and suck. You can pretty much put them anywhere that you deem necessary, but try to stay away from getting it INSIDE the vagina.

THe odor is just part of your body. You can get rid of it by washing with scented soaps, try not to get too much actually inside of the vagina though. Alot of times its just sweat, i know it sounds gross but your crotch has to cool down too after being covered up all the time. Before you are seeing a guy, or he has the potentioal to go down there just shower before to get rid of the residual sweat and/or any other bacteria that may be hanging around down there making it icky.

As for foods to stay away from: fish and meats. It takes a LONG time for your vaginal secretions to change flavor though, probably 2 months at the least. And you'd have to nearly seclude yourself to just fruits and veggies to make it taste better. Smoking doesnt help the taste either. Also washing it regurlarly will help you with that as well.

I would assume guys like the smell, however not all guys like every girls smell. Its just a prefrence that some have, you are just going to ahve to be comfortable with the fact that you're not going to be able to please everyone.

All condoms are effective, however if you are
worried about sperm and pre-cum, try finding some that have spermicide in the lubricant. You might want to consult the guy about what kind is best for him to use, like what brand and all that. They also ahve different varities, like who gets the most pleasure and a way to extend the guys "going period". Really, id just say let the guy buy the condoms. But if you're on the pill for 2 or 3 months before you have sex, then you really dont need the condom.

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This question is very weird, but..

The innerlips on my vulva happen to be bigger than the outer lips. They hang a bit and cover my clitoris and vagina, and sometimes sort of stick together. I know this is completely normal, because everybody's vagina is different, but I'm scared that if I get close with somebody, they're going to be freaked out. My vagina is quite different from other peoples because of this and I'm scared that the other person is going to be turned off by it. I sort of think it's ugly, so I'm self-conscious about it. Any helpful advice on what to do?

If you 'get close' with somebody, and they DON'T accept every part of your body the way it is, then you aren't that close with them. Also, just because it's differnet doesn't mean its bad. Most vaginas aren't that pretty....but it doesn't mean that yours is going to gross anyone out when they see it. When you accept the way your body looks, espically your sexual parts, then the person you have become close with will start to accept them too. However, when you are self-conscious about them, you may have a tendency to bring out the bad points about your so-called 'ugly vagina' (or any other body part for that matter), and that person will start to notice them too.

So try to accept your body and the way that it has grown, and rather than focusing on the bad parts, or the ones you dont like that much....try focusing on the good parts of your body and flaunting those.

Good luck :)

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i know this is stupid but this guy said they he would eat me out if my pussy was nice .. well i want him to eat me out but how do i know if my pussy is nice or not? please answer right and not try to be rude about this .. im being serious

find out what his standards of nice are, and if you are willing to change your body for him, then adapt to his standards. otherwise, ditch the jackass, he isnt worth your time if all he wants is a pussy to eat.

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hi i've been with my boyfriend for quite a few years now, but unfortunately, everyday i start to think to myself that i should leave him. why is because every single time we get into fights, he never is willing to stay and work it out. he either hangs up the phone and ignores my phone calls/messages or says "just drop it" with an attitude. he also calls me names like bitch when he loses his temper, and personally, i've had enough.

but as you can imagine, i have grown emotionally attached to this guy. i fell in love with who he once was, a sweet, considerate, man. but now it's like i don't know who he is anymore and lately it's just the only thing i can think about is how the quality of our relationship is slowly crumbling beneath us.

i personally do want to call it quits, or at least take a break from each other for a little while, but he refuses. he says things like he can't live without me, and if i leave him he'll kill himself. in a sense i feel that i'm forced to stay in this relationship because i don't want to live knowing i made someone commit suicide over me.

it's a really sticky situation, and i don't know what to do anymore. i do love this guy, but i feel as though i'm falling out of love with him for the person he has become.

please help...

Let him know that things have to change. If you both are willing to work on the relationship and stay together, a comprimise has to be made.
As an example : Say, if he stops calling you names or treating you badly, that you will stay with him.

If you really do want to take a break though, just do it. What he is donig to himself seems like it is going on because of something other than you. You arent the one in the wrong, so dont think that. He is threatening himself when you havent even left him yet, so clearly it is not you.

Weigh each side: pro's and con's. What has he done to make you feel good lately? and What has he done to make you feel bad lately? If the list is lnoger for the con's you really shouldnt be with him. He cant keep treating you like crap when you dont want it. You ultimatley control what you do-- not what he does.

I believe that you love him- but people change. You loved what he once was, not what he is now. Tlak with him and make him realize that. Be calm about it and try not to get into a fight. If a fight feels like its going to start, calmly say "i dont want this to escalate into a fight so lets just calm down" and if he is unwilling to work with that much then the conversation needs to end.

Dont feel like you are forced to do anything you dont want to do. If you want to leave him, THEN DO IT. He is only bringing you down with him. Let him know that you just need emotional time by yourself. Let him know you still want to be with him, but he has to change for things to be able to work out. Take a break, and come back to him. If he hasnt changed, then get rid of him. This isnt fair to you, you arent getting what you need out of this relationship, and with the way his threats keep changing, it doesnt look like he is either. But ultimatley you need to keep one person in mind-- yourself. Do whats in the best intrest for YOU. You have catered to his needs for far too long. Do what YOU want to do. Not what HE wants you to do.

I really hope this does work out for you for the better-- whatver you choose to do. But keep in mind that you are also getting hurt in here, and he is the one doing it.
Good luck with all of this.

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