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Q: So I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and im sick of just "messing" around. I want to have sex with him but im afraid that i might get pregnant so i want to be put on the pill, but the problem is im 17 and my mom would have to go with me to the doctor. I dont want to tell my mom that i want to have sex because she will freak out on me. She believes in waiting until marriage. I think I'm going to tell her that I just want birth control so my periods will be on schedule and not at different times each month and because I'm sick of them. Any advice for me on how to bring it up or how to ask?

P.S. I also don't want my dad to find out.
I know this question has already been answered and the person that already answered is very right.

I just also wanted to add in and let you know that if you can drive, and if you have something called Planned Parenthood near you or a walk in clinic, it is actually free for a checkup and confidential.

They are not allowed to tell your Mom or Dad; even if you were as young as 15.

My best friend has been on it since she was 15 because that's when she wanted to lose her virginity so I know it is real.

I am not just not 100% sure how it is in every state. You can check here http://www.contracept.org/minorsaccess.php and PlannedParenthood.com if u Google it you’ll find it.

I found a bunch and I didn’t want to list all of them for you and over load ya but you’ll find them as well.

If you don’t have a ride or the money though, what the other person said is also very true and should work out for you.

I just wanted you to know about the Planned Parenthood because a lot of my friends that were not able to talk to their parents loved that place. They could always go there and ask questions, get checkups, birth control, condoms, and everything without their parents or anyone else knowing. It made them feel like they had a place to go.

You do have to pay for it, but the sites should tell you how much, and if you have a part time job or a way to get money for it, it may work out for you. It was a just in case though good luck! =)

Q: ok so percentages please..hear are the circumstances
1.i think i pre cummed
2.i ejaculated earlier that day (but peed alot after)
3.she was a virgin
4.her last period ended on july23 is that not help ful idk?
5. unprotected sex
6. lasted like 1 minute
7.i was drunk
8.She took plan b 2 days later
what are the chances of her getting pregnant
If you go to the this website

http://www.go2planb.com/

It explains that it can prevent pregnancy up to 72 hours after unprotected sex.

The chances are not likely that she is pregnant.

Stop stressing. And if your the same person, you've posted this question like 8 times already and have gotten numerous answers, if your not happy with the answers go to a doctor like walk in clinic that's free dude.

She probably isn't. If her last period was July 23rd then it probably won't start for another few days or so.

No one on here can help you other then how much they already have. It's never a sure thing because everyone is different, take the advice you've been given by others and wait it out.

Q: hey ok im sure yall get this alot but i had this girl take the morning after pill cuz i might have pre cummed but not for sure anyways she didnt take it right after cuz we didnt know about it she took it two days later does taking it that much later effect the strenght of the pill? and what are the percentages of her actually getting prego after the pill?
Alright well, I've seen this question like 3 different times now.

As for as her taking the pill 2 days later. It doesn't work that way, sorry. There is a reason it's called the morning AFTER. And yes, I do know for a fact because of experience with a friend.

As far as her actually being preg. if all you did was pre-cum, I'm PRETTY SURE it's less than if you were to completely cum inside of her, but anyone that has unprotected sex is always at risk.

I'm telling you that her taking the pill two days after won't do anything. Just relax and don't stress or worry because if she does it can make her miss her period. Tell her (and your self) to relax and take it step by step, wait until she can go to the doctors to find out. Go to a walk in clinic because it's free and they can't tell the parents of either person...

Hope I could help (by the way I'm not and I wasn't being rude I was just giving my opinion.) if not hope someone else can.

Q: Hi. You just answered my question about help with my boyfriend. You helped a lot and I'm going to talk to him about what he likes, but this is embarrassing, and mahy be a little awkward. I do not know what a hand job is do you think you could explain it for me. You don't have to if it's going to be weird, I was just wondering.
Well, I'm glad I was able to you help you anyway I could. =)

I have no problems explaining it to you and hopefully I can explain it to where you understand. =)

Okay, I'll explain to you what my ex liked. (He was my first and only so he pretty much taught me everything which is why I suggest talking to your boyfriend about it because it was really fun for us and he taught me what pleased him just like your boyfriend can teach you what he likes =].)

Lay down beside him with him on his back usually, you on your side to kiss him or tease him while you do it is usually easier. You use your hand and stroke his penis (moving your hand up and down it.) There are alot of ways you can make it feel better and have the pleasure rate up by using lotion, and some girls use their own spit (the guy I spoke of before liked that the best, but EVERY guy is different remember. =]) My ex really liked his head being played with too. While your doing that though try to ask him what he likes, it's hard to explain I think but I'm sure you know how to talk to your boyfriend in a "turn on" kind of way so give it a try and I'm sure he'll love it! It may seem awkward but I honestly don't think he's going to mind. By him explaining and making it a game makes it more exciting for the both of you and his pleasure will be so much higher, in the end the embarrassing-ness will wear off...

Also just incase I didn't explain it right up there I got this off of wikipedia.com and states pretty much the same thing I did. =)

"A common handjob technique - First, the giving partner grips the receiving partner's penis with their entire hand similar to making a fist (except the fist is made around the penis). An alternative grip is to use only a couple fingers wrapped around the penis. Second, the giving partner moves their hand in an up and down motion, which causes stimulation to the shaft and glans (head) of the penis. Some people prefer to use lubrication to prevent friction on the penis."

That's really all I've got. Hope this helps though and didn't gross you out too much I tried to not be too explicit or rude but still explain enough for you to understand. And I hope I don't get into trouble for saying this. =)

Good luck! =)

Q: Is it normal to orgasim seven times in one day
If your a girl, yes it's normal/okay.

If you're a guy, I don't actually have enough knowledge on that, sorry.

But, if you're a girl, just to give my input of advice (because that's what this site is for. =]) girls can orgasim 15 times in one day and it can still be normal; Or they can hardly ever have one, and it can be considered normal.

Everyone girl is different with their bodies and for some females it's just really that easy and others it's almost impossible. 7 times isn't bad at all, I've heard girls say that they have way more than that in one day. =)

Hope this helps a little. =)

Q: Hi. I'm 14 years old, and I do not know what to do. My boyfriend and I kiss a lot, and he fingers me sometimes, but I do not know what I can do to him that would be sort of the same as that. I know about a blow job, but I don't know what else there is to do. Help please.
You can always give him a hand job, instead of a blow job?

Or, try talking to him and see what he likes. As long as you both are comfortable he can probably tell you and you both can kind of help each other out?

Just let him know you'd like to please him more, that's usually a turn on to guys, knowing that you want to please them as much as they please you. =)

Every guy is different and every guy likes different things, so if you don't want to have actual sex then ask him what he likes like I said. =) I know it seems dumb to ask but really, any guy I've ever met never minds it when I girl does talk to them/askes them about it. It's so much easier then guessing because they can tell you exactly how they like it. =)

And if it seems like it's not a turn on then try to make it like a game and have some fun with it. =)

I hope I could help a little. Good luck! =)

Q: I first started feeling weird sensations just 3-4 days after having sex. It started out as a very sharp pain in my lower back (it felt like period cramps, however it wasn't my period), and that lasted a few days. Then I started feeling like I was going to puke, and that happens at various times of the day. And I also start to feel nauseous while driving in the car. The smell of food just makes me sick.


It isn't time for me to get my period yet, so I can't predict it by that.

Answer seriously, and I'll rate 5's

`thanks
Honestly if you weren't using any good protection there is always a chance and unfortenatly the only way to know is to take a preg. test or to go to a doctor to find out...

I'm not exactly sure how long you have to wait to find out from either one though I'm sorry to say, but you can always go to a walk in clinic, they are free and you don't need a parent, they are meant for things like this so if you can find one that's what I'd do/did...

It could also be that your scared/paraniod that your getting all of these feelings?

I'm not trying to be mean I'm just suggesting it only because the same thing happened to me.

I was so stressed out that I did actually miss my period, but i wasn't pregnant. Because when your body goes through all of that, it does strange things.

But if your very sure that's not it then definitely seeing a doctor, because even if you aren't pregnant those are things you need to take care of... For me I just stressed myself out too much and had the begginning stages of the flu.

Good luck and I hope this helped at least a little.

Q: Now,
I understand that every woman is different when it comes to how long sex hurts but, on average how long does it usually last for girls who are having "sex" for their first time?

Also,
I would like to know.
How long does sex last for on your first time?
Just a rough estimate!

Thanks,
please answer back when possiable.
Well, unfortenatly like you said, every woman is different, and I've had all my friends say something different from me.

For me, I've only been with one person and it hurt pretty much the whole time the first time and after the fact i was sore but the second time wasn't that bad. And anytime after with the same guy it didn't hurt at all.

But, some of my friends that have been with different guys say that it can hurt even with the next guy your with. I wouldn't really know though about that, sorry. =/

As far as how long it can last. The firs time for me, I didn't have an orgasum or anything and he was gental but it was over with in a matter of min. He came very fast and it upset him a lot, but if your partener is more experienced it could last longer? It really depends on the two of you I think.

I know none of this is the actual answers your looking for but it's hard just because every woman is so different and their parteners.

In all honestly I don't think you'll get a very good answer until you find out for yourself and know how your body is and how your parteners body is? But that's just my opinion.

I asked my friends and family before my first time and my experience was, like I said, totally different from all of theirs...

It may not hurt you at all and it may last a good while, so there are a lot of things that make a difference I think...

Anyway, I hope I could help at least a little, good luck!

Q:
Ok so I almost feel silly asking this and I never ask questions like this, but I just wanted to double check on something.

Today things got steamy with my guy and he was fingering me. At some points he got in a bit deep and it hurt a little. I'd let him know and he'd stop so there wasn't any problem there. But now I'm feeling a bit of discomfort and when I peed there was a slight hint of blood. Is it possible for a hymen to break just by fingering, if he got in deep enough? Or could it be that he just scratched me a little inside? [it feels like it could possibly be scratched -- which might also explain the bit of discomfort]


Any input is appreciated =)
Well, the first time that ever happened to me by a guy I was in a LOT of pain, so it might just be that your body isn't used to it like mine? I don't think he popped your cherry or anything(even thought I don't think you were asking that) but, it could just be a scratch or your body is just kind of like "whoa" if you've never done anything like that before... I think you'll be okay, but if it doesn't stop with in the next couple of days it may be a cut or something and definitely see a doctor if it gets too, too bad. But, I think the spotting will stop and the slight discomfort will stop with, like I said, the next couple of days. Only because that's what happen to me too. Hope I could help. =)

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