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can you get stds from giving oral sex? and if you do have oral sex, even if your sex partner doesnt have stds, can you still get them??

YES, you can most definatley get an STD from giving oral sex, but only if the person are doing stuff with HAS an STD. They don't just pop up out of nowhere...you have to actually be infected with the disease from another person. So no, if your partner doesn't have an STD there is no possible way you could get one. Just make sure you know for sure they don't and be SAFE!

Hope that clears things up!

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with all that i hear going around especially in the media, its difficult for me to decide whether sexual orientation is a mental, psychological, or conscience choice. do people decide to do it out of their own free will? is it both? any help is appreciated - will rate

Okay, I personally am a lesbian and it is definately not a "choice" you can make or something you can just decide one day..it's alot more than that. Everyone is who they are and the only choice they really have is whether or not to act on those feelings they have. If you are gay, there is absolutely nothing in the world that can change that, no matter how hard you try. At the end of the day you will still be attracted to the same sex. It's part of who you are, period. No one just decides whether they wanna be gay or straight, it's in who you are from the day you were born, just like any other aspect of your personality or character.

I really hope that clears some things up!

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When i shave uh "down there" why does it get really itchy and bumpy. it sometimes hurts really bad, is there something that i am doing wrong?

You're not doing anything wrong at all, it's simply because your skin isn't used to it. If shave everyday the razor burn will go away completely, but once you stop it will come back until your skin gets used to it again. you pretty much have to shave often if you want to avoid razor burn.

-Hope that helps!

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