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Q: i lost my virginity last night, but it hurt and it was reallllly hard for him to fit. he's pretty huge.. so i guess it's understandable.. but is this normal? im afraid that im just too small now. do you think this is perfectly normal? did other people go through the same thing? thanks
Dude. its your first time. your probably pretty young to so duh your gonna be small. The more u do it the easier and funner it will get. Dont forget to use a condom though

Q: Okay,
All my friends complain when they get cramps. I never get cramps and ive been on my period for 2 years. Is this normal? My friends say im lucky, but is something wrong?

thanks alot
Theres not a thing wrong with you. I only get cramps the first day and the rest of the week im cramp free. so your completely normal.

Q: is it safe to have sex everyday?
sex is like exercise. and exercise is good for your body. so there fore sex everyday burns those calories! lol but you might get a bit sore.

Q: my bf and i are both staying virgins until marriage but we like to have dry sex with all of our clothes on. Is it wrong? because we are Christians and dont want to do something bad. thanks :)
lol nah. its fine. i dont think there is anything in the bible that says dry sex is a sin. if it is, ive sinned then! lol

Q: 14/F

I get really horny really fast. I've fingered myself, but thats not warking anymore. I dont want 2 go out and just have sex witha guy. Any advice?
buy a vibrator. or get a guy u like to finger you. it feel better when they do it. trust me.

Q: my bf slobbers when we make out and i will tell him he does and its ok we talk about everything and he wants to be a better kisser but i dont know what to tell him to do so he doesnt. even when we arent frenching there is too much saliva! thanks!!
he probably isnt swallowing his spit. and is just letting it linger in there while yall kiss so tell him to swallow once in a while. Thats probably whats causing all the drool lol

Q: my bf is not that great of a kisser. hes ok and good with his hands and stuff but when it comes to kissing not so much. he loves frenching but im less into it so sometimes we makeout instead cause i like that better but even not frenching we slobbers! every time we are done kissing i wipe my mouth and it doesnt bother me but it just makes me not want to because i dont find it fun like with other guys. i luckily have kissed guys who were very good at kissing before him so what should i do??? cause its not that fun having him slobber all over me when we are kissing lol thanx!! :]
I had this same problem with my last boyfriend. I never said anything to him though but yea, i know exactly what you mean! But there is a trick to it. think of it this way the more you close your mouth the more he closes his so the less drool you get on you lol. Or be like hey baby kiss me like this and kiss him and then he will follow. In order to get what you want you have to ask!!

Q: what is something really sexy i can do making out with my bf when we are standing up because on the couch we rub up on each other but Sunday im gonna see him but have no acess to a couch lol and i really want to do something sexy cause we only see each other once a week and our time together is very limited. thanx! :]
I have something awesome u should try. As you go up for a kiss and i know this may sound dumb but i have done this before and the guy loved it so....
When you finally get to him put your right leg behind him like up high though so it goes around his waste and then take his hand and put it on your ass and make sure u wear a skirt or something so he can put his hand up it or something. then take your hand and caress the back of his head because its a sensitive spot for guys and start kissing him like you really mean it. or if you dont want to do all that just jump in his arms and make out with him.

Q: well im 13/f and all my friends have made out, or been fingered and i havent. i really want to, but when your being fingered what are you soppose to do? if i do it to myself is that how it will feel when a guy does it?
Personally i like it better when a guy does it. They are more forceful and it feels really good when they do it. But thats just me. so no it wont feel the same. And like almost all the people below me said make sure you are with someone you love. dont just do it with a random person.

Q: i want to give my boyfriend a sexy strip dance but I don't wanna look stupid you know? anybody have any pointers? thanks
A guy is going to enjoy it no matter what you do. If you believe your sexy then he will pick up that vibe. Plus as long as you are butt naked at the end, he wont care what you do!! But really just make it fun. Its suppose to be fun.

Q: what exactly is the 69??
its just basically a guy is eating out a girl and the girl is sucking on his dick at the same time. thats all.

Q: Hi i was wondering if like watching porn/masturbauting could be considered cheating on a girl?
I was just wondering because i wouldnt wanna do it if its not right.
It all depends on the girl. But tecnically its not but i know i would get pissed off if i walked in and saw my guy watching porn and masturbating. So i suggest you dont do it. i know some girls that would break up with their guy for doing that. Its kinda like an insult like "why do you have to watch porn, what about me"

Q: ok well ive only been fingered a fwe times now and i just masturbated a few hours ago and well there was some sick brown stuff on my finger ya what is that?? it was never there before could it be from me having my period a few days ago??
yes it most likely is from your period. Your period takes on average a week to end so thats probably what it is.

Q: since i hate shaving my "down below", would it be okay if i naired it with the stuff i use for my legs? or would that be bad..
Read the bottle. if should say places where you are aloud to use it. But i dont think you should because nair has chemicals in it that can harm your "down below"

Q: should i shave down there? i did and i dont think i did it right. which way do i shave? like towards where the hair grows or against it. you know what i mean? like..can you just explain howww i should shave downt there? thanks SO much, you guys are too cool. =)
You should shave which ever way makes you comfortable. There is no wrong way to shave. If you shave against the hair though it can cause in grown hairs and bleeding so just shave with the hair. Which ever way you decide is fine though. You dont have to though. Its your choice.

Q: So i overheard these guys talking about a girls vagina and they said it was "phat", what does that mean? Is it a good thing?
Most of the time when guys say that word they mean its "cool" or awesome" so id imagine that its a good thing.

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Hey im Charlene! Im 15. In highschool. I mainly just answer relationship questions/friendship questions. but i dable in other topics too. Im a pretty easy person to talk to, ive made tons of mistakes, but ive learned from them. So if u got a question ill probably be able to answer it.

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