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hey, my name is danni...im 16 years old and i love to give my friends adivce even when sometimes they dont exactly want it. i love to dance and i play softball. i have a late birthday so im always younger then everyone else which i dont enjoy...so basically ill try and give you the best advice that i possibly can!!

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I KNOW THIS IS LONG.. BUT I REALLY NEED HELP AND ILL RATE 5'S FOR EVERYONE NO MATTER WHAT.. I PROMISE!!

Well i have these two friends... nd lets say their names are Bob and Rob.. well ive been good friends with bob longer than i have with Rob.. Both Rob and Bob are a lil chunky.. but they're not Fat.. So me Rob and Bob became a group this year.. and ive always felt like i fit in until one day rob was me and bob are fat.. nd we hate pool partys.. and we have something against skinny people cauz we're jealous of them.. so i was like you guys aren't fat.. nd since im like a twig,.. i got offended and i was like well now im gonna feel uncomfortable in the pool with you guys since we're gonna be in bathing suits.. and rob didn't answer.. so since bob is my best friend i decided to talk to her about it.. so i told her how i felt.. and im like its not like you guys excercise or try to loose weight.. so then we straightened it out... but rob and bob want to go shopping together and rob doesn't wanna invite me cauz im skinny.. i mean i understand how they feel but now i feel like rob feels more comfortable around bob and i feel like rob and bob are friends and im not part of the group anymore.. i mean i wouldn't consider rob my best friend... cauz she's not my type of person.. nd now bob is like turning into rob.. like they use the same font colors and fonts on AIM and bob started listening to rock just like rob.. and now whenever we're together and we talk about clothes.. bobs like Lisa your such a twig you can fit into abercrombie.. and the way she says it, it hurts my feelings.. so like rob has bob brain washed practically and i hate the way she's acting now like all punk and into rock or watever and like how she's saying .. i hate you, your so skinny.. its not my fault im skinny.. im a runner.. and ive been skinny all my life cauz its in my genes and ive been doing sports since i was like 2.. so i dunno wat to do.. please help

you really dont need friends like that they really should be considering how you feel...its not like you brag about how skinny you are and its not like you make fun of them for being larger so they shouldnt give you a hard time about being skinny...you should tell them exactly what you are feeling right now and tell them that its not going to work out if they dont start including you...i know its just easy for me to say "you should drop them you dont need friends like them" but im sure its much harder then that for you but you really dont need them...hope i could help a little

danni

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well...i am not gonna put down all the details....but...my best friend sarah and me were like in a fight wit our otha friend and so then sarahs sisters got involed (big mistake) and so then it became this big "thing" and so it went on for a month..and then they tried to put me in the middle!! and me and the otha friend have been friends like foreva!!! me and sarah have only been friends for just one year.....so then i go well i don't kno kaliegh (sarahs sister) i don't want to choose!! so now her daily duty is to make me feel miserable!!!! i don't get it!!
SO neways...now i think sarah is lyin to me to be all cool infront of her sisters and i am loosing everyone!!! anyways!!!! i feel now i should be like "sarah..maybii we should...just stop being friends...i feel like soon your sisters are gonna make u hate me/..." thats just how i feel. WHAT DO I DO?

signed,
hated for a lil repsone

if you really care about sarah as a friend then you may be able to work something out, like telling the sisters to lay off cause its none of their buisness...but by the way it sounds it seems as if you are able to just drop this friendship and move on with your life, nobody needs friends like that...hope i helped a little

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sorry this is going to be long... but i really need help!! me and this guy (we'll call him chris) have been "together" i guess you could say for about 3 months.... well last night i found out my best friend broke a truce we made a while ago... we both said we'd never smoke weed, and she did all bc she got a new bf...well i told chris about it and he ended up talkin to her online... she told him i took 6 sleeping pills earlier... (which i told her, bc i wanted her to know how i felt) (i really only took 1 tho bc i havnt slept in 4 days... im an insomniac) well chris got really upset and yelled at me about how stupid it was... (he asked about the pills and i told him 6 bc i didnt want him to tell her otherwise) so he screamed at me for bein so stupid.. and he hung up, then he told his mom about it. so now i dont think his momll let us see each otehr again... but also i dont think he wants to talk to me... i told him the truth about me only taking one pill...and he was upset hes like well why didnt you tell me before... and i was like bc i knew you would tell her and i want her to understand the way i feel... ive already apoligized to him about makin him freak out over nothing... and now he wont talk to me, so i need help, likeon what to do... what to tell him.. please help.

you have definitly been betrayed by you friend bu if i were chris i would feel like i had also been betrayed and lied to and i would probably feel stupid that i was sooo worried for nothing...he obviously must have really cared about you if he freaked like that and he probably still does...you need to appoligize like 500 times to him and tell him EXACTLY why you lied to him, if he really ever loved you then he will forgive you over time...hope i helped

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I just found out that one of my best guy friends likes me...I don't feel the same about him,but I have no idea how to tell him other than "i dont like you" and thats kinda mean *lol* I'm also afraid it will be awkward around him, any ideas how to make sure it's not?

ive actually had that happen to me like a year ago and i just told him that us dating may ruin our great friendship that we have right now and i dont want that to ever happen because i like the way everything is now and i dont want our friendship to end...he understood and once in a while he tells me that he still has feelings for me now but we are just as good as we were b4 he told me and to me it dosent seem awkward...hope i helped

danni

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